Location sharing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were discussing location sharing and was wondering what percent of couples actually share locations with each other and why do you share location?

We do not share locations and never have? No specific reason why we don't its just something we never have done or thought to do.

Now that you’ve thought about it, what’s stopping you? Any specific reason for this reluctance? If you can stay aware of each other’s well being and can have easy access in case of any emergency, why wouldn’t you want to have that capability.

Op here

Nothing is stopping us we just dont see the need to check on each other's location. If I need to know where he is I'll call him but even with that said I've never needed to know where he is.

I think it's just with being together for 30+ years there's no need to know everything including location.

Before we left DC, I commuted into the city on the metro, my husband commuted out to Chantilly in his car. Because he was driving (and his car didn't have AirPlay), he wouldn't text but could call. Because I was on the metro (and was underground for a lot), I wouldn't call but I could text. So it can be more convenient because I would never be one of those people on the metro on a phone call.

[Anonymous]

We do + our kids. Nothing to hide and no reason not to.

[Anonymous]

We’ve always location shared. Helpful to find each other if needed; I know not to text him one last item on the grocery list if I see he’s left the store already; I know I can call and not interrupt a meeting if I see he’s driving home from work; I know how far he is from home or any other location I’m at; I can tell if he’s stuck in traffic; I can see he’s at his hotel when he’s traveling for work so it’s a good time to FaceTime with the kids; etc.

Unending helpfulness, 0 downside.

[Anonymous]

We don't share. Been married over 20 years, multiple teens. I am a SAHM/ parttime WFH mom and don't need anyone knowing when I go to the gym or when I decide I need a day to stay home and veg. For me, it isn't about shady things that I am doing, it's about having a little tiny bit of freedom in this crazy world.

[Anonymous]

No judgement for those who do but we don't. Our family doesn't.

[Anonymous]

The weirdest thing happened to me once. Spouse and I were having problems and were briefly separated, and during our separation location sharing had me in a place (a harmless place) where I absolutely was not. This was a while ago, and I think was Facebook? So I'm sure they're more accurate. In any event, I was asked why I was there and denied I was and came across as lying even though I wasn't. So it wasn't a good thing and I've been queasy about location sharing ever since.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do + our kids. Nothing to hide and no reason not to.

Same.

[Anonymous]

We share but I only check it a few times a year— say if my spouse had a dr’s appt and I am trying to figure out if they are on their way back yet for some reason.

Just like I know my spouse’s phone lock code but never look at it unless they ask me to.

[Anonymous]

We did, and then my husband's (of 25 years) kept going out, and I didn't think much of it. and didn't really ask. I mean he only really went to work, work events and back.
Well, turns out he was having an affair with a married coworker and he ended up leaving our family for her (and she left her husband).

So, now location sharing is a must in my family with my kids and any future partner.

[Anonymous]

No. I would never ever agree to being tracked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did, and then my husband's (of 25 years) kept going out, and I didn't think much of it. and didn't really ask. I mean he only really went to work, work events and back.
Well, turns out he was having an affair with a married coworker and he ended up leaving our family for her (and she left her husband).

So, now location sharing is a must in my family with my kids and any future partner.

I like how location sharing is a must of your takeaway here. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I would never ever agree to being tracked.

It just kind of goes against my valuation of privacy. The whole "if you have nothing to hide, why not" just seems like a normalization of lack of boundaries and trust. It's also why I wouldn't go through my spouse's phone or have my spouse go through mine.

Also setting the cultural expectation of lack of privacy at home or modeling it for my children to me presents a problematic larger picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds good. If one of you got kidnapped, or murdered, it would help tremendously, why wouldn’t you share locations?

To be fair, odds of OP or her DH getting kidnapped or murdered are minuscule but it can be helpful for more likely smaller emergencies.

Wouldn't the police be able to track a phone? are criminals that dumb where they dont look on a person for a phone or watch?

[Anonymous]

We are good friends with another family. Between us, we have 5 kids and all of us share everyone's location.

It's all about logistics.

[Anonymous]

We don't share location. 40 somethings. We don't even track our middle schooler (we bought him a watch but he hates it and never wears it).

Trust is good! it feels old school.