Location sharing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t track my husbands location but he tracks mine. My husband doesn’t want me to have his location because, “he’s a grown man”. We both have our 17 and 21 year old daughter’s location, and I’m constantly worried about their safety, but it only helps a little, and I have to spend a lot of my work day checking their locations.

Is he having an affair?

No, he’s stubborn and self-righteous. That’s who he has always been. I don’t believe he is having an affair. I got through his phone often and don’t see anything, and he’s not very good at hiding things. Even if he was, I wouldn’t really care tbh.

[Anonymous]

Married a very long time and we do not track locations. (I don’t track adult kids either). My spouse lets me know when he is on his way home.

[Anonymous]

We do as a family. DS is old enough to be left alone for stretches and sometimes likes to be able to see if we are on our way home. He's also old enough to be out alone with friends, so I like that we can see where he is. I cannot think of a single instance where I've used it to track DH's location.

[Anonymous]

I only do this if we're actively trying to find each other somewhere. We just text each other when we expect to be home.

[Anonymous]

Nope. No location sharing
Zero need.

[Anonymous]

We do as a family, but it didn’t start until our teens got a phone in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were discussing location sharing and was wondering what percent of couples actually share locations with each other and why do you share location?

We do not share locations and never have? No specific reason why we don't its just something we never have done or thought to do.

Now that you’ve thought about it, what’s stopping you? Any specific reason for this reluctance? If you can stay aware of each other’s well being and can have easy access in case of any emergency, why wouldn’t you want to have that capability.

Op here

Nothing is stopping us we just dont see the need to check on each other's location. If I need to know where he is I'll call him but even with that said I've never needed to know where he is.

I think it's just with being together for 30+ years there's no need to know everything including location.

[Anonymous]

We do mostly because if one of us is late getting home we can see where the other is without having to call and disrupt their driving. My husband hates driving and talking at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were discussing location sharing and was wondering what percent of couples actually share locations with each other and why do you share location?

We do not share locations and never have? No specific reason why we don't its just something we never have done or thought to do.

Now that you’ve thought about it, what’s stopping you? Any specific reason for this reluctance? If you can stay aware of each other’s well being and can have easy access in case of any emergency, why wouldn’t you want to have that capability.

Op here

Nothing is stopping us we just dont see the need to check on each other's location. If I need to know where he is I'll call him but even with that said I've never needed to know where he is.

I think it's just with being together for 30+ years there's no need to know everything including location.

So you are old and don’t want to embrace a new technology paradigm? Shocked! Shocked I say.

GenZ share their location with all their friends, because it easier than dropping a pin when meeting up or making plans (something no one has done since the 90s ). They are well aware the surveillance state and corporations are tracking them so have moved on from worrying about it.

[Anonymous]

We share a family device plan on iCloud, so I can Find My all their devices whether they share location or not — so I can help them find their phone if they lose it? I would imagine most families have that feature so you are sharing either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t. We can track each other’s cars, which is helpful for planning dinner and the like, but we otherwise don’t share locations.

Same, we can track cars but not phones. We do have our kids' phones on Life 360 though.

For my husband, it's for ease of knowing when he might be coming home. For my kids it's being able to see where they are and how they're getting there. I would never watch my husband's car app like I do my kids' Life 360 because I don't care where he is or where he's been, it's more how long until he walks in the door when he's driving and I don't want to bother him with a text or a call.

My opinion of this is similar to the celebration of Valentine's Day/Mother's Day/etc. - if you have a happy marriage and you feel generally celebrated/loved by your spouse all year round, those holidays don't mean much to you because you don't have the need for them to pay attention to you since they do it all the time. With the tracking, if you're a controlling person who wants to always know where your spouse is and what they're doing then sharing location is going to make that issue worse. But if you're in a trusting marriage, you're not stalking your spouse.

Basically, things like Hallmark holidays or location sharing apps only amplify bad behavior, but they themselves aren't the problem, it's the underlying issues (i.e. being with someone who ignores/doesn't respect you or being with someone who is controlling).

[Anonymous]

My family share locations. First and most importantly it's to find each other's phone if misplaced. 2ndly...it's only helpful to know where each are if you ever need to. If you think it's an invasion of privacy, I think you have trust issues or are sometimes up to no good. If you are "a grown a-- man" then you shouldn't care if your wife knows where you are. I see absolutely zero reasons not to share locations. Zero. the only reasons to do it are positive....of course, unless you have something to hide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t track my husbands location but he tracks mine. My husband doesn’t want me to have his location because, “he’s a grown man”. We both have our 17 and 21 year old daughter’s location, and I’m constantly worried about their safety, but it only helps a little, and I have to spend a lot of my work day checking their locations.

Your husband is an ass. Not because he doesn't let you track him, I can understand that but because he tracks you. What a hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t track my husbands location but he tracks mine. My husband doesn’t want me to have his location because, “he’s a grown man”. We both have our 17 and 21 year old daughter’s location, and I’m constantly worried about their safety, but it only helps a little, and I have to spend a lot of my work day checking their locations.

Is he having an affair?

No, he’s stubborn and self-righteous. That’s who he has always been. I don’t believe he is having an affair. I got through his phone often and don’t see anything, and he’s not very good at hiding things. Even if he was, I wouldn’t really care tbh.

Wow, so your husband tracks you but won't allow you to track him because he's a grown up and you're not and you wouldn't care if he was having an affair? Quite the marriage.

[Anonymous]

We don't generally share locations. I'll turn it on if I'm a long drive either alone or just with a kid, but not for day to day.