Would you tell a pregnant stranger her husband was cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha is this real? So OP you’re not at all offended by everyone on here basically accusing your good friend of having STDs?

OP doesn’t give a shit about her friend. She is ready to throw her under the bus for a stranger.

[Anonymous]

Your friend said to stay out of it. This isn’t a person you dated. But mostly— this woman is in her second trimester. Hearing that could be devastating — severe stress in the mom is bad for a fetus. It can even start premature labor. Don’t do it in her state. But I really think you should stay out of it right now.

[Anonymous]

I would tell her, but I would not reach out on Facebook or in any way that was identifiable. If you can get printouts of her husband’s online dating profiles— the one that he used to match with your friend, that kind of thing — I would mail them anonymously. I think you have to balance the idea of doing a good deed with your (and your friend, who has stated no desire to be involved, and by your own admission did not know he was married and did nothing wrong) peace if this guy (or his wife) decides to be vindictive about this. You don’t want them to be able to track you down.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely tell. Women need to stick out for each other. Wouldn’t you want to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a large local FB group, and a woman posted looking for an in-home nanny for her 6mo, and eventually for another baby due this October. I clicked her profile out of curiosity and immediately recognized her husband from his profile photo.

Turns out he’s the same guy my friend casually dated for a couple weeks back in March. We even met him once at a small event before he abruptly ghosted her. My friend had absolutely no idea he was married and, at the time, had a 4mo and a pregnant wife.

I showed my friend the FB profile to confirm, and yes, it’s definitely him, real first name and all.

I asked my friend whether we should somehow tell the wife, but she wants no involvement. I don’t know this woman at all and wouldn’t otherwise be connected to her, and my friend isn’t on FB so no connection there. I’m just a random stranger.

Would you message her anonymously or stay out of it? Part of me feels awful for her, especially with a baby and another on the way, but part of me thinks maybe it’s not my place?

OP: Get a life and mind your own business

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a large local FB group, and a woman posted looking for an in-home nanny for her 6mo, and eventually for another baby due this October. I clicked her profile out of curiosity and immediately recognized her husband from his profile photo.

Turns out he’s the same guy my friend casually dated for a couple weeks back in March. We even met him once at a small event before he abruptly ghosted her. My friend had absolutely no idea he was married and, at the time, had a 4mo and a pregnant wife.

I showed my friend the FB profile to confirm, and yes, it’s definitely him, real first name and all.

I asked my friend whether we should somehow tell the wife, but she wants no involvement. I don’t know this woman at all and wouldn’t otherwise be connected to her, and my friend isn’t on FB so no connection there. I’m just a random stranger.

Would you message her anonymously or stay out of it? Part of me feels awful for her, especially with a baby and another on the way, but part of me thinks maybe it’s not my place?

OP: Get a life and mind your own business

Says the cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a large local FB group, and a woman posted looking for an in-home nanny for her 6mo, and eventually for another baby due this October. I clicked her profile out of curiosity and immediately recognized her husband from his profile photo.

Turns out he’s the same guy my friend casually dated for a couple weeks back in March. We even met him once at a small event before he abruptly ghosted her. My friend had absolutely no idea he was married and, at the time, had a 4mo and a pregnant wife.

I showed my friend the FB profile to confirm, and yes, it’s definitely him, real first name and all.

I asked my friend whether we should somehow tell the wife, but she wants no involvement. I don’t know this woman at all and wouldn’t otherwise be connected to her, and my friend isn’t on FB so no connection there. I’m just a random stranger.

Would you message her anonymously or stay out of it? Part of me feels awful for her, especially with a baby and another on the way, but part of me thinks maybe it’s not my place?

OP: Get a life and mind your own business

Says the cheater.

LOL I'm not but...OP is not an eyewitness to any acts of infidelity. She says one time she met with her friend and the guy. That's not proof of infidelity. She's trying to manipulate her friend into being the one to tell the betrayed wife. The friend says no.

What OP should do is drop the friend.

But that's not as much fun as the havoc she's trying to cause.

She needs to get a more productive hobby.

[Anonymous]

I would tell, cheaters are the lowest form of human. Lying, manipulating, selfish, cowards deserve no protection.

[Anonymous]

I actually do this at random on social media whether I know anything about a couple or not. Got about a 30% success rate so far in uncovering unknown cheating. On the other hand, the false accusations have busted up a number of formerly happy marriages. Been interesting to watch.

[Anonymous]

He could be crazy and could come after you. There’s no way I’d get involved. These are strangers, but they live in your area. Not worth the risk.

PS - the cheater ghosted your friend when he realized the risk involved with cheating with neighbors. He probably connected some dots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He could be crazy and could come after you. There’s no way I’d get involved. These are strangers, but they live in your area. Not worth the risk.

PS - the cheater ghosted your friend when he realized the risk involved with cheating with neighbors. He probably connected some dots.

He is too much of a coward for that, he is a cheater. The crazy ones are the mate poachers and betrayed spouses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to know that my husband cheated on me, so no.

Who wouldn't want to know? I don't understand this.

[Anonymous]

Why not tell the guy you're onto him? Send the receipts to his office or mail to his house. He's the problem here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to know that my husband cheated on me, so no.

Who wouldn't want to know? I don't understand this.

People who’ve never been cheated on. For me, one of the absolute worst parts of being cheated on was knowing that other people knew and didn’t tell me. OP, tell her.