Would you tell a pregnant stranger her husband was cheating?

[Anonymous]

Yes, if for no other reason than her being able to get checked for STDs. If she has them, her fetus has them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it. Mostly because you don't know why he was doing what he was doing (dating your friend). I feel bad for her though.

Me too. She’s REALLY young; much younger than her husband/my friend/me. You’re right, though, perhaps she knows. Probably not, though.

She might have met her husband through an affair. You have no idea.

You gave no affection for this woman.

And no business blowing up her life.

[Anonymous]

OP here. It seems the consensus is to tell her. What would you even say? My friend doesn’t want to be involved so obviously I’ll keep her anonymous.

[Anonymous]

Tell her. STDs are no fun, especially while pregnant.

[Anonymous]

You tell her. What she does with the information is her business. The only ones saying not to tell are cheaters themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t want to know that my husband cheated on me, so no.

True. I was like that, but I found out fifteen years in, that my husband was cheating our whole entire marriage. I was in denial for like five years after, and ignored it. And now we’re twenty four years in, and I really don’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You tell her. What she does with the information is her business. The only ones saying not to tell are cheaters themselves.

Not at all. Some of us have been the one to tell, trying to do the right thing, and have been BURNED when the cheated on spouse releases all hellfire on the messenger. It can be really awful and denial runs deep in some people.

[Anonymous]

Where did the STD justification come from? Why would he have STDs? Was your friend concerned that she was going to give him an STD?

Just because he's sexually active does not mean he's not careful. What is this narrative, anyway? "People who have non monogamous sex are diseased." Like it's medieval Europe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It seems the consensus is to tell her. What would you even say? My friend doesn’t want to be involved so obviously I’ll keep her anonymous.

Then you don't tell her. You cannot tell her without providing evidences. That is irresponsible. To provide evidences you would have to expose your friend. Don't be stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did the STD justification come from? Why would he have STDs? Was your friend concerned that she was going to give him an STD?

Just because he's sexually active does not mean he's not careful. What is this narrative, anyway? "People who have non monogamous sex are diseased." Like it's medieval Europe.

Eeew. You’re sloppy. If someone is non-monogamous without their spouse’s knowledge or consent then an STD test is the first order of business upon discovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if for no other reason than her being able to get checked for STDs. If she has them, her fetus has them.

If OP is worried about STDs, she should start by asking her friend to get checked. If her friend is clean, then he is clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where did the STD justification come from? Why would he have STDs? Was your friend concerned that she was going to give him an STD?

Just because he's sexually active does not mean he's not careful. What is this narrative, anyway? "People who have non monogamous sex are diseased." Like it's medieval Europe.

Eeew. You’re sloppy. If someone is non-monogamous without their spouse’s knowledge or consent then an STD test is the first order of business upon discovery.

He cheated with OP's friend. So OP's friend must the one who gave it to him. I would expect OP to be more worried about her friend than a stranger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where did the STD justification come from? Why would he have STDs? Was your friend concerned that she was going to give him an STD?

Just because he's sexually active does not mean he's not careful. What is this narrative, anyway? "People who have non monogamous sex are diseased." Like it's medieval Europe.

Eeew. You’re sloppy. If someone is non-monogamous without their spouse’s knowledge or consent then an STD test is the first order of business upon discovery.

I cheat all the time, but I'm careful not to pick up an STD or give one to my wife. I'm a cheater, I'm not stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if for no other reason than her being able to get checked for STDs. If she has them, her fetus has them.

If OP is worried about STDs, she should start by asking her friend to get checked. If her friend is clean, then he is clean.

Wow! You’re so ignorant, and honestly, you should stop giving advice on this topic. She may have used a condom with this man. His pregnant wife obviously does not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did the STD justification come from? Why would he have STDs? Was your friend concerned that she was going to give him an STD?

Just because he's sexually active does not mean he's not careful. What is this narrative, anyway? "People who have non monogamous sex are diseased." Like it's medieval Europe.

+1. MYOB. Your friend is smart not to get involved with this. Too messy.