Would you tell a pregnant stranger her husband was cheating?

[Anonymous]

I’m in a large local FB group, and a woman posted looking for an in-home nanny for her 6mo, and eventually for another baby due this October. I clicked her profile out of curiosity and immediately recognized her husband from his profile photo.

Turns out he’s the same guy my friend casually dated for a couple weeks back in March. We even met him once at a small event before he abruptly ghosted her. My friend had absolutely no idea he was married and, at the time, had a 4mo and a pregnant wife.

I showed my friend the FB profile to confirm, and yes, it’s definitely him, real first name and all.

I asked my friend whether we should somehow tell the wife, but she wants no involvement. I don’t know this woman at all and wouldn’t otherwise be connected to her, and my friend isn’t on FB so no connection there. I’m just a random stranger.

Would you message her anonymously or stay out of it? Part of me feels awful for her, especially with a baby and another on the way, but part of me thinks maybe it’s not my place?

[Anonymous]

I would stay out of it. Mostly because you don't know why he was doing what he was doing (dating your friend). I feel bad for her though.

[Anonymous]

How will you explain that you cyber stalked her for no reason?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it. Mostly because you don't know why he was doing what he was doing (dating your friend). I feel bad for her though.

Me too. She’s REALLY young; much younger than her husband/my friend/me. You’re right, though, perhaps she knows. Probably not, though.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not at this time, or really ever. Leave the poor girl alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How will you explain that you cyber stalked her for no reason?

id explain exactly how I did here. Saw her post, clicked out of curiosity, recognized the man in the profile pic.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t want to know that my husband cheated on me, so no.

[Anonymous]

As someone whose (now ex) H cheated while I was pregnant, I would absolutely want to know.

First of all, STDs are extremely dangerous for babies.

Second, I found out eventually. I would have rather found out earlier, especially before the baby was born so I could have made better arrangements and not been dealing with the cheating postpartum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone whose (now ex) H cheated while I was pregnant, I would absolutely want to know.

First of all, STDs are extremely dangerous for babies.

Second, I found out eventually. I would have rather found out earlier, especially before the baby was born so I could have made better arrangements and not been dealing with the cheating postpartum.

You need to tell her, not for her, but for the health of her children.

[Anonymous]

I’d want to know so I wouldn’t waste any more time being married to an unfaithful loser.

[Anonymous]

The husband sounds sufficiently indiscreet, it will only be a matter of time before she learns from another source.

[Anonymous]

I think you should tell her. I was in the same situation and feel guilty for not somehow reaching out, although in my situation I was the one who went on a date with the cheating husband. I Googled his name afterward and eventually found his pregnant wife.

[Anonymous]

I’m another vote for tell her. She can decide what to do with the information.

[Anonymous]

I would tell. I was in a similar situation with a friend of mine. Didn’t tell. She went on having 2 more kids with him only to bet dumped for a newer model in 10 years and a very painful divorce

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it.