Women are AWFUL to each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, women are very mean to each other and I also see older women are very bitter and angry inside which is something I usually see less in older men. I am a doctor and handles 2 nursing homes and see this attitude all the time.

This. I don't see anyone else as women hating another woman. It is sad but reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, women are very mean to each other and I also see older women are very bitter and angry inside which is something I usually see less in older men. I am a doctor and handles 2 nursing homes and see this attitude all the time.

These older women have taken a lot of sh*t their whole lives, that’s why.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, women are very mean to each other and I also see older women are very bitter and angry inside which is something I usually see less in older men. I am a doctor and handles 2 nursing homes and see this attitude all the time.

These older women have taken a lot of sh*t their whole lives, that’s why.

From other women, most likely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the mindset that all women must support each other based on common gender. Most people are wonderful. Some people are not my cup of tea. Same as it ever was.

I don't think all women need to support each other.

I do think sometimes women are intentionally unkind to each other and that's not necessary either. You can just be neutral. There are definitely women who are actively unkind to other women who aren't their friends, and that's totally uncalled for.

We've all been in that situation where we are with a group of women at work or socially and one of them just wants to rip on some other woman you all know. I refuse to participate in it but it's very disappointing that it's something I've consistently encountered in my life. It had thought that perhaps as women got older, it would dissipate and go away, but it doesn't. Instead the insecurities, and thus the things women compete over and criticize each other for, just evolve.

You need better friends. I'm 47 and can count on one hand the number of times I witnessed this and it was when I was in middle school. It's not hard to see these people for who they are and stay away from them.

I’m 53 and I have pretty much never witnessed a mean group of women in real life. The women I know in my personal and professional life are nothing like this. Sure Ive met some jerks — both men and women — but I’ve never seen this whole mean girl, clique thing since I left high school. And there wasn’t much of it in high school either.

I'm 53 also. Graduated HS in 91, college in 95, law school 99.

I saw dozens of instances in each time period and even today I belong to a neighborhood book club that the founding women have gate kept from some new neighbors. I.E- Susie (cute, athletic, communications professional) who moved in last Summer got invited, but Debbie (not cute, not athletic or fashionable, works at the Sheriffs office) didn't get invited when she moved here 4 years ago.

Ugh, that's so real. It starts in elementary school and never stops -- the hierarchies and excluding. The people who claim they've never encountered it have just never been on the receiving end, that's all.

Hopefully Debbie knows she's better off without that stupid bookclub. It's probably just a bunch of bored women getting drunk, not reading the book, and talking about whoever isn't there.

[Anonymous]

Nope, not my experience. My family is run by strong women - my mom, grandmothers, & aunts are all the heart & backbone of the family. My mom & sister are my closest friends & lifelong supports. I have a few close friends who are awesome, & a group of work colleagues who have helped me immensely. Maybe I’m lucky or maybe you get what you give, but the majority of my connections with other women are positive & supportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, not my experience. My family is run by strong women - my mom, grandmothers, & aunts are all the heart & backbone of the family. My mom & sister are my closest friends & lifelong supports. I have a few close friends who are awesome, & a group of work colleagues who have helped me immensely. Maybe I’m lucky or maybe you get what you give, but the majority of my connections with other women are positive & supportive.

You’re lucky. “Get what you give” is offensive to the many nice people who keep getting shit from other humans every day.