What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
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Anonymous
Playing golf in high school is a little douchey. Come on. We can all admit that |
Anonymous
Hmm your tone sounds very familiar… 🐾 |
Anonymous
His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks He spends $500/month. That runs out in December 7x500=3,500 Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend. The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month? He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid. I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people. |
Anonymous
I’m literally laughing at the absurdity of this thread. He’s done Special Olympics since he was 11 and he likes being a Unified Partner and he’s a good student, does sports (but not travel in HS) is a nice boyfriend (budgeting $25/week for a date… literally buying a chipotle or a sub /week), has friends, has a hobby …. And someone posted he will be an incel on welfare in his 20’s because of his budget. 😂 |
Anonymous
Budgeting from what? He has no money, other than yours because he blew through all his by Dec. Spending an entire summer’s worth of income in 3 months doesn’t sound like he is very good at budgeting. |
Anonymous
| Nothing, really. She does work 3 hours on Sunday, so that is about $50/week. We pay for gas and insurance. We'll give her money if she needs it but I can't even remember the last time she asked. Kids that are that busy with their sport (will be D1 next year) don't have that much free time to drop a lot of money. She does still have a lot saved up from summers, too. |
Anonymous
That’s not what you said- at all. Including you insist he takes her at least one “proper” date per month to the tune of >$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc. But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social. If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months. It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all. $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money. He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare. Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means. You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits. |
Anonymous
Rather like this idea and something we might have considered. We do use their HS grade to “set” their curfew. Our senior DC has worked since age 14, did marching band (which is as time intensive as a sport), volunteers, and has a decent social life (dates sometimes get split although latest and longest BF paid the majority that he worked for, and certainly time out with friends is pay-your-own way). She would be mortified, though, if we offered to give her an allowance. We do pay for car insurance and phone service on our family policy/plan but she bought the phone and vehicle with her own funds and is responsible for gas and all maintenance/repairs. [point of reference: HHI hovers around 100 and we are in an RVA suburb] |
Anonymous
He actually pays for June-Dec from his summer job which we know it’s not a lot of money because jobs won’t give you more than 30 hours a weekand we help out with Jan-may. We also expect them to do school, sports and volunteering, which doesn’t give them much time to work on the weekends. We discuss how much eating out is appropriate (2x a week), if you have a girlfriend how much is appropriate (at 17 25/week on you 2… 12.5 on your girlfriend… expected and reasonable), hobbies ($200/mth), etc.. clothes, ($100/mth), friendships… What is your kids budget? Have you explained budgets? How much do you think is appropriate per week dating somebody? |
Anonymous
No, that’s what you read.. not what I said. I said $100 per month. Sometimes that’s $25 per week. Every blue moon it’s a Caps or mysticsgame and they have to go hiking the other days that cost nothing. That’s why it’s called teaching your kids how to budget. He gets chipotle twice a week. BFD. We make dinner three nights a week. We have leftovers and other food you can make the other nights and guess what you can pick up chipotle if you want two nights a week. Sure he could budget, but I think his budget should be 500 a month and that’s what we told him and at the end of the summer we tell him we will supplement the rest because we want him to learn how to have a social life. We don’t want him sitting in our basement. I know where it’s all going and I gave you the budget? I’m sorry your husband doesn’t ever plan a date for you and you think that $12.4 a week is a lot of money. And $200 a month is a huge amount of money to spend on yourself working out, doing a hobby, whatever. It’s odd to me you think $100 a month is a lot of money to spend on clothes. |
Anonymous
I agree with this poster. My older two sons are division one athletes. We didn’t give them $500 a month to date or go out with friends because we gave them $5000 + a year on travel sports and hotels. They didn’t have time for much else besides their volunteering. Their friends were built into the travel team. I’m just a little interested in how much you pay on sports with all the travel. It’s gotta be close to $500/mth. My youngest is a bargain compared to The cost of a D1 athlete. |
Anonymous
My kids learned how to budget with their own money. I’m sure their budget with money from the bank of Mom would be different. I cannot believe a 17 year old boy would take money from his mom every month to spend on his girlfriend. How embarrassing. |
Anonymous
Sure, Jan. Nobody believes that your 17-year-old doesn’t buy chipotle with your money. Nothing you said is believable. There’s no 17-year-old in the DMV that is 100% independent of their parents money. |
Anonymous
Really? You think it’s totally normal for a teen boy to be purchasing new clothes every single month? Why? That’s excessive consumerism and wasteful. $500 per month is WAY more than some chipotle and a few $25 dates would add up to. He saves $3500 per summer per you. Why can’t he stick to a $350 budget? What does he need $500 per month for? In additional to unlimited Ubers you say you provide. Sorry, but that is lot of spending money just to keep himself entertained. I have two teens and they don’t spend anywhere near that much and they are very social and happy. |
Anonymous
They’s right. Nobody in poverty lives in this area. Nobody. Give me a break. I have to choose which bills to pay each month and which ones to put off because I don’t have enough to pay them all. We sometimes visit food banks. I used to forgo meals when my kid was younger. So no, my 17 year old doesn’t get money from me. I don’t have any extra to give him. He works and earns his own money. Plenty of high school kids work. You just live in a bubble. He also would never blow his hard earned money on the crap OP mentions. Not many 17 yr old boys who are comfortable taking money from their moms to take their girlfriends out on dates. |