What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

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My son’s summer earnings last him until the following summer? Why? He learned that his momma won’t be giving him money when he runs out in December.

It’s not hard to earn a few thousand dollars each summer OP. Stop propping him up. I’m surprised he takes your money at that age. My DS would be embarrassed to take my money to take out his girlfriend.

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OP's son sounds like a tool. His hobby is golf. He needs his mommy to pay for his nice dates.

Bletch.

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I actually think golfing PP is not too bad IF her son is helping out a lot at home. Doing significant cleaning and helping shop and cook on the weekends at least and he’s doing a really significant amount of volunteering over the summer such that he cannot work more than like 10 hours a week and that’s why he runs out of summer money so fast. It sounds like the money includes clothes and gas and that can add up. I am rolling my eyes along with you all at the paying for dates and horror over not being able to golf but if they as a family have decided his “job” is to pad his resume then they are paying him to do that job.

I just hope they aren’t also teaching him he is entitled to full time chef and maid service at the same time….

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

…and when his parents pay.

Maybe he needs to learn how to budget so he doesn’t blow through all his money by Dec. Sounds like he quite literally can’t afford a girlfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:My teens each get $300/mo but we own a small business consider some of it their pay for doing office cleaning about 2hrs/wk each. (Mopping, sweeping, breaking down boxes, taking out the trash, etc) They rotate days.

They pay for their own gas (we pay for cars and insurance), entertainment expenses, anything that is a want and not a need. We almost never give them any other $ throughout the month.

Works well for us so far.

You are raising good kids. The poster above who gives her son money for golf dates is raising a little prick, but she doesn’t know it yet. It’s not just whether you have the money or not, it’s whether you want to set a tone of having to work for things in life. Golf is not a necessity. Acting like it is is so cringe I can barely believe this mom isn’t a troll. I want my kids to have good values and work ethic and so do the other parents I know.

Holy cow! I’m the prick? Reread your post.

nobody said the budget was a necessity.

How is working in the summer, having great grades, volunteering, and doing a school sport not having a work ethic?

Y’all grew up in some generation that things you guys should never do anything fun or spend any money having fun. No wonder everybody’s kids are in on Prozac.

Touch grass.

Spending your parents money to the tune of $500/month on takeout, unlimited uber, and “proper” dates with girlfriend bc he can’t manage to save from working two jobs all summer is not a great look- perhaps his lifestyle and wants do not align with his earning capability and you’ll just roll over and pay. Ok got it

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.

I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out

He’ll literally go to 1 this season.

It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.

He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.

I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish

Each ticket in the nosebleeds is less than 100, correct. But then don’t forget the parking garage money (or, the uber money. Don’t lie and say he takes metro). A couple of bottles of water or soda, some snacks, a dinner beforehand. That is a 300 dollar evening minimum.

Last game he took subs so yes $20 more added to the $40x2 tickets. Parking is $10 but they do metro from Alexandria mostly from where she lives but that’s not cheap either. But he didn’t golf this month since it’s cold 🥶… that’s how budgeting works.

Update … wings were 2 for one if you order Uber eats after 8 and pick up. Who knew … they just went to pick up. lol
Cute.

Are you like, ON your son's date with him right now? Your posts get weirder, not more normal. The level of detail you are privy to is ick.

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We give $200 at the beginning of every month.

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He can work this summer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.


If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer? This is insane to me.

Because he gets $500/month for free. He doesn’t have to save anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My teens each get $300/mo but we own a small business consider some of it their pay for doing office cleaning about 2hrs/wk each. (Mopping, sweeping, breaking down boxes, taking out the trash, etc) They rotate days.

They pay for their own gas (we pay for cars and insurance), entertainment expenses, anything that is a want and not a need. We almost never give them any other $ throughout the month.

Works well for us so far.

You are raising good kids. The poster above who gives her son money for golf dates is raising a little prick, but she doesn’t know it yet. It’s not just whether you have the money or not, it’s whether you want to set a tone of having to work for things in life. Golf is not a necessity. Acting like it is is so cringe I can barely believe this mom isn’t a troll. I want my kids to have good values and work ethic and so do the other parents I know.

Holy cow! I’m the prick? Reread your post.

nobody said the budget was a necessity.

How is working in the summer, having great grades, volunteering, and doing a school sport not having a work ethic?

Y’all grew up in some generation that things you guys should never do anything fun or spend any money having fun. No wonder everybody’s kids are in on Prozac.

Touch grass.

‘Touch grass’?
Y’all?

As I suspected, you’re likely from modest means or not well educated and this is your UMC flex. You’re not helping your kid, just so you know.

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Are all these posters from the DC area? Because my daughter does not know a single kid who has a job - internships, yes, but not working at Wegmans or wherever to make money for the school year.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in moms basement.

I am clapping and cheering your parenting. Thank you for raising a son correctly and thank you for teaching him to give of himself to others. He has all of his life to work, volunteering is super important and not enough kids do it or are taught to do it. Keep up the great work and let the haters hate, IMO it shows you are on the right path.

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Anonymous wrote:Are all these posters from the DC area? Because my daughter does not know a single kid who has a job - internships, yes, but not working at Wegmans or wherever to make money for the school year.

You live on a bubble. You must know that. We live in suburban Baltimore and even the private school kids have summer jobs.