What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.

I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out

He’ll literally go to 1 this season.

It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.

He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.

I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish

Each ticket in the nosebleeds is less than 100, correct. But then don’t forget the parking garage money (or, the uber money. Don’t lie and say he takes metro). A couple of bottles of water or soda, some snacks, a dinner beforehand. That is a 300 dollar evening minimum.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

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Anonymous wrote:My teens each get $300/mo but we own a small business consider some of it their pay for doing office cleaning about 2hrs/wk each. (Mopping, sweeping, breaking down boxes, taking out the trash, etc) They rotate days.

They pay for their own gas (we pay for cars and insurance), entertainment expenses, anything that is a want and not a need. We almost never give them any other $ throughout the month.

Works well for us so far.

You are raising good kids. The poster above who gives her son money for golf dates is raising a little prick, but she doesn’t know it yet. It’s not just whether you have the money or not, it’s whether you want to set a tone of having to work for things in life. Golf is not a necessity. Acting like it is is so cringe I can barely believe this mom isn’t a troll. I want my kids to have good values and work ethic and so do the other parents I know.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Moms like this often grew up poor themselves and are projecting their striver onto their children

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I have a 15 yr old. No allowance. She babysits weekly and has spending money from that. She and her friends hang out at each other’s houses. They will occasionally get a drink or cookie after school, but not even weekly. Movies once in a great while. She doesn’t ask for money and what she makes covers this plus she likes to save

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre. He is 17 with no job

Moms like this often grew up poor themselves and are projecting their striver onto their children

Ah, makes sense.

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I don’t understand why he can’t work. It’s an expectation. This is when he begins to learn to manage money and can start a Roth. Madness to miss out on that.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why he can’t work. It’s an expectation. This is when he begins to learn to manage money and can start a Roth. Madness to miss out on that.

Most UMC kids don’t work minimum wage jobs because they are too busy with ECs to build their resumes. A lowly minimum wage job is below them and doesn’t look good on that resume. They also don’t have time because of their summer vacations.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why he can’t work. It’s an expectation. This is when he begins to learn to manage money and can start a Roth. Madness to miss out on that.

Most UMC kids don’t work minimum wage jobs because they are too busy with ECs to build their resumes. A lowly minimum wage job is below them and doesn’t look good on that resume. They also don’t have time because of their summer vacations.

It actually does look good on a resume but their parents think they are too good for that

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.

I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out

He’ll literally go to 1 this season.

It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.

He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.

I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish

Each ticket in the nosebleeds is less than 100, correct. But then don’t forget the parking garage money (or, the uber money. Don’t lie and say he takes metro). A couple of bottles of water or soda, some snacks, a dinner beforehand. That is a 300 dollar evening minimum.

Last game he took subs so yes $20 more added to the $40x2 tickets. Parking is $10 but they do metro from Alexandria mostly from where she lives but that’s not cheap either. But he didn’t golf this month since it’s cold 🥶… that’s how budgeting works.

Update … wings were 2 for one if you order Uber eats after 8 and pick up. Who knew … they just went to pick up. lol
Cute.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.

I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out

He’ll literally go to 1 this season.

It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.

He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.

I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish

Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”

Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.

Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix

How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.

Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,

I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.

Mine really doesn’t do those things unless he gets a gift card. He’s frugal like his mom. He got Starbucks once and said it tasted like pure sugar (it does). They have a Starbucks where he goes to college now and says girls get it every day. I know my kid isn’t spending this money because I can see his bank account balance. He pays for car insurance, gas, and food st the grocery store so he make his own lunches.

Well that’s still more than $500/mth.

It’s HIS money, not mine. He earned it. I didn’t give him an allowance like he’s a 5 yr old. If he wants to take his girlfriend out, he can pay for it.

Great but this that is about kids we have so many obligations. They can’t hold down a job.

That’s what this thread is about.

So in actuality, your son does spend about $500 a month … that’s the budget , and that’s what we give him he can’t make more money because he’s busy with school, volunteer, sports because are things we expect over a job during the school year. And he does work every summer 2 jobs sometimes because most jobs won’t give you 40 hours a week and some summers he works with special-needs kids that he met while doing Special Olympics.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.

That’s insane

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.

Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates

You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.

You think he should give up golfing?

You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?

The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.

I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out

+100

Not totally germane to the thread, I know, but you two are doing this wrong. I go to Caps games pretty regularly and don’t spend “hundreds of dollars.” You can get nosebleed seats for $45 for many games (particularly during the week) and take the metro down, which is what I do and what I assume teens are doing. It is still plenty fun this way.

It’s true that food and drinks aren’t the cheapest inside, but you can eat before or after the game at one of the many quick places in Chinatown. There’s a Chipotle across the street from the arena. And 17-year olds aren’t drinking (at least not at the game).

Some of these people just don’t understand nose bleed seats, and that most of our sports team teams are terrible and the tickets aren’t that expensive.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why he can’t work. It’s an expectation. This is when he begins to learn to manage money and can start a Roth. Madness to miss out on that.

Most UMC kids don’t work minimum wage jobs because they are too busy with ECs to build their resumes. A lowly minimum wage job is below them and doesn’t look good on that resume. They also don’t have time because of their summer vacations.

It actually does look good on a resume but their parents think they are too good for that

Resume? Who is the striver now?

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Anonymous wrote:My teens each get $300/mo but we own a small business consider some of it their pay for doing office cleaning about 2hrs/wk each. (Mopping, sweeping, breaking down boxes, taking out the trash, etc) They rotate days.

They pay for their own gas (we pay for cars and insurance), entertainment expenses, anything that is a want and not a need. We almost never give them any other $ throughout the month.

Works well for us so far.

You are raising good kids. The poster above who gives her son money for golf dates is raising a little prick, but she doesn’t know it yet. It’s not just whether you have the money or not, it’s whether you want to set a tone of having to work for things in life. Golf is not a necessity. Acting like it is is so cringe I can barely believe this mom isn’t a troll. I want my kids to have good values and work ethic and so do the other parents I know.

Holy cow! I’m the prick? Reread your post.

nobody said the budget was a necessity.

How is working in the summer, having great grades, volunteering, and doing a school sport not having a work ethic?

Y’all grew up in some generation that things you guys should never do anything fun or spend any money having fun. No wonder everybody’s kids are in on Prozac.

Touch grass.

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Anonymous wrote:We do $150 per month but she doesn’t pay for gas or car insurance. Doesn’t have time for a job during the year and wasn’t able to find one last summer that was willing to work around her sport schedule. She did some babysitting and dog walking but couldn’t find enough to have it be sufficient for the school year.

Similar for my senior

Close to what we do too.