Reply to What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.

I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.

Unlimited Ubers.[/quote]

That’s insane [/quote]

1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month. [/quote]

Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought. [/quote]

And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.

They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).

You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?

Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.

They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.

Shoot a movie out is $50.

They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.[/quote]

WTF does a “proper” date mean? One where he spends $100 of your money? And you insist he needs to do this? That is bizarre.  He is 17 with no job[/quote]

Since you asked. A proper date is when you plan something, ask if they are available and you pay for it. sometimes you pick them up, if you do you go in and say hi to the parents or at least you’ve met the parents, you can meet somewhere if the parents have already met you.

Rarely are they $100 … they are generally $25 if you go out once a week but if you do go to the movies and it’s $50. The next 2 dates might just be going for a hike and making sandwiches.

If you see them out or meet up as a group, it’s not a date you generally don’t pay … like a school event or chipotle after school or a bunch of kids going ice skating.

Hanging out in a boys basement is generally not a proper date. But she wanted to see the bills game so that’s today’s date.

He’s not 17 with no job. He’s 17 with a job in the summer. That money usually lasts till December.[/quote]

How does he manage to spend what I can assume is around 5k, in 3-3.5 months??? He doesn't save any of his money from the summer?  This is insane to me. [/quote]

His budget is $500/mth. He makes ~$3600/ summer … $15/hr x 30/wk x 8 weeks

He spends $500/month.

That runs out in December 7x500=3,500

Jan-may we give him $500/mth because I expect him to do school/sports/volunteer (every Sunday) plus I expect him to have a social life. No sitting minute basement gaming all weekend.

The question was if your kid can’t work, how much money do you give them per month?

He literally spends $13/weeks on his girlfriend and people flipped their lid.

I seriously feel like I figured out why men are having an issue dating when budgeting $25/week for dates is insane to people. [/quote]

That’s not what you said- at all.  Including you insist he takes her at least a one “proper” date per month to the tune of &gt;$100, chipotle at least twice per week, etc.  But whatever…no kid needs to spend $500/month plus the unlimited uber you already pay for in order to be social.  If he makes $3500 in the summer- he can figure out how to budget that to last 10 months.  It isn’t that hard and does not equate to zero social life- at all.  $350 per month spending money for a teen is still plenty of money.  He could still do his is weekly $25 dates as you say thats all he spends on her with $250 to spare.  Where is it all going? He should learn to live within his means.  You aren’t helping him, socially or otherwise, by enabling his over the top spending habits. [/quote]

No, that’s what you read.. not what I said. I said $100 per month.

Sometimes that’s $25 per week. Every blue moon it’s a Caps or mysticsgame and they have to go hiking the other days that cost nothing.

That’s why it’s called teaching your kids how to budget.

He gets chipotle twice a week. BFD. We make dinner three nights a week. We have leftovers and other food you can make the other nights and guess what you can pick up chipotle if you want two nights a week.

Sure he could budget, but I think his budget should be 500 a month and that’s what we told him and at the end of the summer we tell him we will supplement the rest because we want him to learn how to have a social life. We don’t want him sitting in our basement.

I know where it’s all going and I gave you the budget?

I’m sorry your husband doesn’t ever plan a date for you and you think that $12.4 a week is a lot of money. And $200 a month is a huge amount of money to spend on yourself working out, doing a hobby, whatever. It’s odd to me you think $100 a month is a lot of money to spend on clothes.

[/quote]

Really? You think it’s totally normal for a teen boy to be purchasing new clothes every single month? Why?  That’s excessive consumerism and wasteful. $500 per month is WAY more than some chipotle and a few $25 dates would add up to.  He saves $3500 per summer per you.  Why can’t he stick to a $350 budget? What does he need $500 per month for? In additional to unlimited Ubers you say you provide. Sorry, but that is lot of spending money just to keep himself entertained.  I have two teens and they don’t spend anywhere near that much and they are very social and happy.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics