Leaving Spouse with Dementia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wow what a jerk. Does "in sickness and in health" mean nothing to him? I really hope this doesn't happen to him karma would be a b right?

In sickness and health is only expected of men. Read the threads on here written by women with husbands with health issues - it is all leave him, ditch him, if he isn't bringing in a lot of money or able to do all the housework and childcare then what is he good for? Walk away now.

You mean all these alcoholics?

+10000

[Anonymous]

OP, how much wealth are we talking?

If it's, say, ten million or more, he's an ass for not helping take car of her.

if it's more like several million, he's smart to divorce her because then she will be eligible for medicaid - though with trump, who knows what that means. And then he can save his money for his old age rather than depleting all his savings to take care of her and then not have money for his own end of life care.

My mom has dementia and income care has been 150k a year. Now that she has more trouble walking, it's nearly 300k because the agency says she needs two people to help her walk, toilet, and shower.

So unless he has 150k-300k a year to keep her at home, she's going into an institution anyway at some point.

You are his sister. I find it a bit odd that you don't want him to protect his own life, well being, and savings.

That said, would I date your brother? Hell no. But as his sister I think your reaction is...rather odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how much wealth are we talking?

If it's, say, ten million or more, he's an ass for not helping take car of her.

if it's more like several million, he's smart to divorce her because then she will be eligible for medicaid - though with trump, who knows what that means. And then he can save his money for his old age rather than depleting all his savings to take care of her and then not have money for his own end of life care.

My mom has dementia and income care has been 150k a year. Now that she has more trouble walking, it's nearly 300k because the agency says she needs two people to help her walk, toilet, and shower.

So unless he has 150k-300k a year to keep her at home, she's going into an institution anyway at some point.

You are his sister. I find it a bit odd that you don't want him to protect his own life, well being, and savings.

That said, would I date your brother? Hell no. But as his sister I think your reaction is...rather odd.

PP here. This is assuming the recent marriage. Not a longer marriage where they built wealth together, possibly raised kids, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how much wealth are we talking?

If it's, say, ten million or more, he's an ass for not helping take car of her.

if it's more like several million, he's smart to divorce her because then she will be eligible for medicaid - though with trump, who knows what that means. And then he can save his money for his old age rather than depleting all his savings to take care of her and then not have money for his own end of life care.

My mom has dementia and income care has been 150k a year. Now that she has more trouble walking, it's nearly 300k because the agency says she needs two people to help her walk, toilet, and shower.

So unless he has 150k-300k a year to keep her at home, she's going into an institution anyway at some point.

You are his sister. I find it a bit odd that you don't want him to protect his own life, well being, and savings.

That said, would I date your brother? Hell no. But as his sister I think your reaction is...rather odd.

PP here. This is assuming the recent marriage. Not a longer marriage where they built wealth together, possibly raised kids, etc.

Either way it will drain your money. Unless you cut off treatment.