Where are the wholesome, mainstream kids?

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Why is your teen 15 and still not in high school? My freshman son is 13 and going to be 14 in late October. Is that normal for here? We moved here a few years ago. I’m a little concerned he will have classmates so old. Are there really 19 year olds in high school

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My kid was in Scouts.

Unlike sports, it's actually useful.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your teen 15 and still not in high school? My freshman son is 13 and going to be 14 in late October. Is that normal for here? We moved here a few years ago. I’m a little concerned he will have classmates so old. Are there really 19 year olds in high school

Already discussed upthread

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Some kids need to try a bunch of things before they find their people. My DD has several groups she hangs with in small groups but it took some time to match interests and kids. She mostly hangs out with kids from Model UN, theater tech crew and climbing club, with several kids doing 2 out of 3 of those with her. She does cross country and track but is not super close with the girls on the team. She's always chosen to be busy -- we simply suggested 1 club and 1 physical activity -- but, through trial and error and trying a variety of activities -- she settled on a group she is comfortable hanging out with.

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Anonymous wrote:I always find it so funny that so many ppl believe that sports kids dont do any of those things. They are some of the biggest culprits, at least when I went to school they were.

They do but I find that they (and other kids who are engaged academically and have other extracurriculars) aren’t like this at 14. It’s more like 15/16 when those kids pick it up and they do a good job usually keeping it in balance.

The kids who are partying and vaping/drinking in 8th grade are usually headed down a dark path. Sometimes they come back from that but it’s less likely, and usually the early desire to party is just a warning sign of impulsivity or addiction in the making.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your 15 year old starting high school? My 15 year old is going into junior year. Did you hold him back two years?

That’s strange also. My daughter just turned 15 and she’s the youngest of her friends and she’s going into sophomore year. Most districts are 9/1.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your teen 15 and still not in high school? My freshman son is 13 and going to be 14 in late October. Is that normal for here? We moved here a few years ago. I’m a little concerned he will have classmates so old. Are there really 19 year olds in high school

That is very young. Typically the oldest, non red shirted 9th graders are turning 15 in Sept/Oct and the youngest will turn 15 in Aug after 9th grade.

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Anonymous wrote:I always find it so funny that so many ppl believe that sports kids dont do any of those things. They are some of the biggest culprits, at least when I went to school they were.

Not of they are actually good and competitive at their sport - then they watch what they eat, train, and get plenty of rest, like their trainers tell them. I know, because I was that kid.

Oh do they? You know what your own kids do, maybe, and you know what you did. You have no idea what anyone else does.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your 15 year old starting high school? My 15 year old is going into junior year. Did you hold him back two years?

Huh? It's pretty common to be 12 in 6th grade, 13 in 7th and 14 in 8th. Most turn 15 in 9th but not at all uncommon to have an August birthday.

Also, it's super common to redshirt athletes.

Not sure why anyone is fixating on the age here.

Um, no it's not. It's so weird to infantile your kids and have them graduating high school 2 years after they turn adults

It is regardless of your personal opinion on it. Colleges don't care how old their athletes are. It's also more common the stronger the high school is in sports.

BTW, that means most graduate high school as 19 year olds vs. 18 year olds.

It is stupid to redshirt some poor little kid so he’ll be the big kid in tee ball. He ends up not being very good at sports so it ends up being a poor choice.

The talented athletes who aren’t quite there at graduation, maybe need to mature a little go to a prep school for a year on scholarship and then on to college. This makes a whole lot more sense.

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Anonymous wrote:I always find it so funny that so many ppl believe that sports kids dont do any of those things. They are some of the biggest culprits, at least when I went to school they were.

Seriously. My kid plays a HS and travel sport and some of those kids are very much into bad stuff.

Depends on the sport! Cross country, swimming are usually good kids. So much training, hard to party much if you’re serious about them.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your teen 15 and still not in high school? My freshman son is 13 and going to be 14 in late October. Is that normal for here? We moved here a few years ago. I’m a little concerned he will have classmates so old. Are there really 19 year olds in high school

Do you live in New York? Most states paid attention to the research that it was better for kids to start Kindergarten already 5, and moved their starting dates. New York is one of the last hold outs. Too bad for your kid.

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Honestly, my 15 year old is friends with the kids of our friends. They all play different sports, range from senior in high school to 7th graders (those are the extremes and generally not together). Nearly all of them did a performing art in middle school. And they were on summer swim team for the most part. All of them are A/B students, find baking, video games, going to the mall, movie, or dave and busters to be fun. And because we parents are friends, they are generally near an adult who will tell their parents what is going on when they are together at someone's house.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your 15 year old starting high school? My 15 year old is going into junior year. Did you hold him back two years?

Huh? It's pretty common to be 12 in 6th grade, 13 in 7th and 14 in 8th. Most turn 15 in 9th but not at all uncommon to have an August birthday.

Also, it's super common to redshirt athletes.

Not sure why anyone is fixating on the age here.

Um, no it's not. It's so weird to infantile your kids and have them graduating high school 2 years after they turn adults

It is regardless of your personal opinion on it. Colleges don't care how old their athletes are. It's also more common the stronger the high school is in sports.

BTW, that means most graduate high school as 19 year olds vs. 18 year olds.

It is stupid to redshirt some poor little kid so he’ll be the big kid in tee ball. He ends up not being very good at sports so it ends up being a poor choice.

The talented athletes who aren’t quite there at graduation, maybe need to mature a little go to a prep school for a year on scholarship and then on to college. This makes a whole lot more sense.

Ahhhh, the $90k PG year of high school. An elegant solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your teen 15 and still not in high school? My freshman son is 13 and going to be 14 in late October. Is that normal for here? We moved here a few years ago. I’m a little concerned he will have classmates so old. Are there really 19 year olds in high school

Do you live in New York? Most states paid attention to the research that it was better for kids to start Kindergarten already 5, and moved their starting dates. New York is one of the last hold outs. Too bad for your kid.

Yeah, where do you live that you have a 13 year old freshmen - yikes! I'm concerned about that.

My district has a 9/1 cutoff, and my DD has an early September bday. So -- other than any red-shirted kids -- she is one of the very OLDEST in her grade, and she will turn 13 the third week of 7th grade.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your 15 year old starting high school? My 15 year old is going into junior year. Did you hold him back two years?

Huh? It's pretty common to be 12 in 6th grade, 13 in 7th and 14 in 8th. Most turn 15 in 9th but not at all uncommon to have an August birthday.

Also, it's super common to redshirt athletes.

Not sure why anyone is fixating on the age here.

Um, no it's not. It's so weird to infantile your kids and have them graduating high school 2 years after they turn adults

Are you really this bad at math?

A kid who starts high school at 15 will graduate at 18 if they are a summer birthday (most common in kids who are redshirted) or 19 if their birthday is earlier.

Also infantile is not a verb.

All anti-redshirters are bad at math. The vast majority of redshirted kids are summer birthdays who are 18 their entire senior year and turn 19 before their freshman year of college. Really not a big deal.

For my kid, music has been his ticket to a great friend group. Kids who are serious about music can defer gratification enough to force themselves to practice - I think that’s why they’re mostly not up to sketchy stuff.