Where are the wholesome, mainstream kids?
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Anonymous
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My 15-year-old DS is in flux. He's about to enter HS.
Kids he grew up with in elementary and middle seemed to have splintered into two camps -- kids who are sneaking out, vaping, defacing property (seriously, two kids he knows well were just arraigned in court for this), or else have super niche interests like D&D, which don't appeal to my kid. I am not saying my child is an angel but he's really not interested in staying out til all hours and vaping (and I'd like to think we've dissuaded him from this anyway), but he's also not into the things that the non-party kids enjoy. The result is that he's struggling to find kids who are on his wavelength and he ends up spending a lot lot of time when he's not at sports practice hanging out alone. Can anyone else relate? Does this improve with age? |
Anonymous
| He could try out the niche interests! maybe he will like D&D. or maybe he is more goal oriented and should get a job or volunteer position. |
Anonymous
| A LOT can change freshman year. |
Anonymous
| For my teens their friends who are good kids came from either sports teams or theatre. |
Anonymous
| Catholic school. |
Anonymous
| They are sports |
Anonymous
| *In sports |
Anonymous
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Why doesn't he hang out with kids on the sports team?
HS will be different as I would imagine everyone in the sport lives fairly close if for some reason that isn't the case right now. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, he needs to find his own interest. |
Anonymous
| Does he participate in extra curriculars and how much time does he spend doing them? |
Anonymous
| Is he going to a large high school OP? He will find his people there. |
Anonymous
I wish! The kids we know at a few of those schools are definitely in the party crowd, especially as freshmen |
Anonymous
This. Most teens hang out with other kids who share an interest -- maybe sports, maybe an instrument, maybe D and D, maybe debate. They arent necessarily "super niche," its just how they want to spend their time, and then they will bond with people who also do those things with them, of course. The degenarates I guess have self-destructive and criminal hobbies. Your son needs to try a few and pick something. |
Anonymous
| Many of my kid’s friends are other band kids. But he also has friends he met via class or sports. As a PP said, at a large school, there are all kinds of people. |
Anonymous
| Sports kids |