Am I obligated to visit sibling?

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Anonymous wrote:What is it about Americans that make them so non family and community oriented? Honestly. It’s actually so weird. I mean, brother could meet them for lunch while they’re shopping but shopping (which can be done anywhere) is more important?

Agree. No wonder the country is falling apart.

+1. It's really sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is it about Americans that make them so non family and community oriented? Honestly. It’s actually so weird. I mean, brother could meet them for lunch while they’re shopping but shopping (which can be done anywhere) is more important?

Agree. No wonder the country is falling apart.

+1. It's really sad.

I wouldn't take what you read on DCUM as reflective of the entire country. I've found that for whatever reason, many of the posters here tend to skew VERY anti-parent and anti-family. It's not like this everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:he's willing to meet you. don't you want to see your nephews? one afternoon is possible without breaking your schedule.

OP here- we only have 2 full days in each city, and I know some of you are knocking shopping but it is DD's dream to have a shopping day in Paris. Look, we do have a schedule because you need to book things in advance and this request seems very last minute. In hindsight it stems from a misunderstanding from a few months back- at one point our mom was planning to join us so then of course we would have seen my brother but mom had knee surgery and not up for traveling which is partly why they are visiting later in the summer. And like I said we will see them a day then. I didn't know until recently that he was still wanting to see us in Europe.

I'm confused by this, you are calling this a last-minute request but were actively talking about a family meet-up a few months back? I guess the misunderstanding was that your brother thought you still wanted to visit with him and his family even when your mom was no longer part of the equation? Sounds like you should have communicated this better. Could you go visit with your mom at a later date?

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I guess I don’t understand how OP can’t find any time at any location for her brother to literally come to her. So one day’s lunch or dinner originally planned for her family can’t simply accommodate her brother and family? It doesn’t sound like he’s asking OP to change her travel plans at all and even she said earlier that if they needed to extend a day or two they could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don’t understand how OP can’t find any time at any location for her brother to literally come to her. So one day’s lunch or dinner originally planned for her family can’t simply accommodate her brother and family? It doesn’t sound like he’s asking OP to change her travel plans at all and even she said earlier that if they needed to extend a day or two they could.

I find it hard to believe that a vacation with only two days per city can easily be extended in Europe. Changing flights last minute is insanely expensive!

You know sometimes meeting up just doesn’t work and this is perfectly fine!

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The heat waves are already really bad in Europe right now. Stick to your plan of museums and shopping!