Easter and atheist MIL?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your atheist MIL insisting to have time on a religious holiday that you observe? This is really weird.

No, you don't owe the time to her. And your DH needs to support this big time.

What was your discussion about religion going into the marriage? Neither DH nor I are particularly religious, and we grew up in very different religions. Still, culturally my family's religion is important to the way I grew up, while his family's is not. He accommodates our religious traditions always...because it's also just our family traditions.

That’s weird to force him to do your traditions and not do his. Very weird.

Sounds like DH doesn't want to celebrate those traditions. So not weird, it's up to him to celebrate them.

We are not religious. We come from different religions. We accommodate family traditions from both sides, as each parent sees fit/feels is important. Our kids didn't learn DH language---DH didn't speak it at home or look for classes/activites to expose the kids to it. That's not my job---if it was important to him, he would have found a way to include it. I'm not opposed to it, just not going to drag my kids to sat/sunday classes myself---if it's important to him he would have found some, and managed it

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

I think the point is that MIL is not actually celebrating the resurrection which is what OP and family are celebrating. Like if someone said they wanted to throw you a bar mitzvah but wanted you to skip the entire portion where you read from the Torah and have the ceremony at the synagogue , and just have a party afterwords. And be like “what, it’s just a thirteenth birthday party, the whole religious thing is fake, I can’t believe you won’t let me throw you this alternative party and skip the stupid religious thing”. It would be odd, and really disrespectful. Same with demanding OP and her family skip church services and just come and get an Easter basket at MILs house instead because what’s the difference.

No, the OP is celebrating the secular aspects of Easter. Egg hunts, dinner, games, etc.

And the MIL can skip the church and come to the egg hunt, dinner, and games, but she’s choosing not to, and then is complaining about being excluded.

Maybe OP's family is nutters and MIL doesn't want to spend time with them - just her own kid and his family.

Easter is secular for most people "celebrating". They like the games, dinner, etc. Not the religious silliness.

That’s her choice. Maybe one day she will be lonely enough.

A lot of people would choose being alone over spending time with MAGA nutters.

Joe Biden is a literal Catholic

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Anonymous wrote:I am Christian and my family celebrates Easter in a big way. My nieces and nephews all have spring break that falls over Easter so they come in to town, and everyone spends the day together in a big way. My DH is completely on board. This is our second year since having a baby, and now MIL (FIL is deceased) wants us/me to change our/my plans to accommodate her. The thing is, we have invited her to spend the day with my family. We attend church and then after there is an egg hunt, which our DC will enjoy for the first time this year, and then we go back to our house and have dinner, play games, etc. MIL refuses to come along because she’s atheist, and says it makes her uncomfortable. She’s very vocal about being anti-religion. She’s very upset we won’t “give” her this Easter with DC since we had last year. The offer stood last year and it stands this year. She’s currently guilt tripping DH in a major way right now and we both wonder what to do.

Your DH has been indoctrinated by you.

Easter eggs have nothing to do with "religion"

Nor do Easter baskets.

Hypocrisy at it's finest.

She’s welcome to slip the church and head over when it’s time for baskets.

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Anonymous wrote:Well it's passed. What happened,.OP?

OP here. Nothing! She chose not to come, not even to dinner. DH nor MIL has made no effort to see us, so still waiting on the basket she apparently has. The funny thing is, she texted Happy Easter to DH on Sunday.

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Hey go stock up on leftover half price rabbit and egg candy and box them up for her birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

I think the point is that MIL is not actually celebrating the resurrection which is what OP and family are celebrating. Like if someone said they wanted to throw you a bar mitzvah but wanted you to skip the entire portion where you read from the Torah and have the ceremony at the synagogue , and just have a party afterwords. And be like “what, it’s just a thirteenth birthday party, the whole religious thing is fake, I can’t believe you won’t let me throw you this alternative party and skip the stupid religious thing”. It would be odd, and really disrespectful. Same with demanding OP and her family skip church services and just come and get an Easter basket at MILs house instead because what’s the difference.

No, the OP is celebrating the secular aspects of Easter. Egg hunts, dinner, games, etc.

And the MIL can skip the church and come to the egg hunt, dinner, and games, but she’s choosing not to, and then is complaining about being excluded.

Maybe OP's family is nutters and MIL doesn't want to spend time with them - just her own kid and his family.

Easter is secular for most people "celebrating". They like the games, dinner, etc. Not the religious silliness.

That’s her choice. Maybe one day she will be lonely enough.

A lot of people would choose being alone over spending time with MAGA nutters.

Joe Biden is a literal Catholic

What makes him different from the MAGA nutter referred to by PP is that he does not force his devout Catholicism on others. Not every Christian is MAGA. This MIL wants to force a secular only Easter on her Christian AC and family. That is as uncool as forcing religion on someone who doesn't believe, or believes differently.

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I’m atheist AF and I think she’s being obnoxious.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Christian and my family celebrates Easter in a big way. My nieces and nephews all have spring break that falls over Easter so they come in to town, and everyone spends the day together in a big way. My DH is completely on board. This is our second year since having a baby, and now MIL (FIL is deceased) wants us/me to change our/my plans to accommodate her. The thing is, we have invited her to spend the day with my family. We attend church and then after there is an egg hunt, which our DC will enjoy for the first time this year, and then we go back to our house and have dinner, play games, etc. MIL refuses to come along because she’s atheist, and says it makes her uncomfortable. She’s very vocal about being anti-religion. She’s very upset we won’t “give” her this Easter with DC since we had last year. The offer stood last year and it stands this year. She’s currently guilt tripping DH in a major way right now and we both wonder what to do.

If she is an atheist then why does she even care about Easter? It should be nothing to her.