Easter and atheist MIL?

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

Do you spit hateful things at other religions or just Christianity? Like I’m curious what you say to Jews who say they’re lighting the menorah. Would it be something that sounds anti semitic? Would you be uncomfortable saying it?

I have no issue with Judaism.

Just the fckers who are pushing their religion down my throat.

Ok but this thread isn’t about you…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

Do you spit hateful things at other religions or just Christianity? Like I’m curious what you say to Jews who say they’re lighting the menorah. Would it be something that sounds anti semitic? Would you be uncomfortable saying it?

I have no issue with Judaism.

Just the fckers who are pushing their religion down my throat.

Ok but this thread isn’t about you…

Just responding to the question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

Do you spit hateful things at other religions or just Christianity? Like I’m curious what you say to Jews who say they’re lighting the menorah. Would it be something that sounds anti semitic? Would you be uncomfortable saying it?

I have no issue with Judaism.

Just the fckers who are pushing their religion down my throat.

I’m sure you weren’t complaining when you had Friday off from work.

Friday wasn't a holiday. I didn't get off from work.

Work holidays shouldn't be tied to religious nuttery.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

I think the point is that MIL is not actually celebrating the resurrection which is what OP and family are celebrating. Like if someone said they wanted to throw you a bar mitzvah but wanted you to skip the entire portion where you read from the Torah and have the ceremony at the synagogue , and just have a party afterwords. And be like “what, it’s just a thirteenth birthday party, the whole religious thing is fake, I can’t believe you won’t let me throw you this alternative party and skip the stupid religious thing”. It would be odd, and really disrespectful. Same with demanding OP and her family skip church services and just come and get an Easter basket at MILs house instead because what’s the difference.

No, the OP is celebrating the secular aspects of Easter. Egg hunts, dinner, games, etc.

And the MIL can skip the church and come to the egg hunt, dinner, and games, but she’s choosing not to, and then is complaining about being excluded.

Maybe OP's family is nutters and MIL doesn't want to spend time with them - just her own kid and his family.

Easter is secular for most people "celebrating". They like the games, dinner, etc. Not the religious silliness.

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

Do you spit hateful things at other religions or just Christianity? Like I’m curious what you say to Jews who say they’re lighting the menorah. Would it be something that sounds anti semitic? Would you be uncomfortable saying it?

I have no issue with Judaism.

Just the fckers who are pushing their religion down my throat.

I’m sure you weren’t complaining when you had Friday off from work.

Friday wasn't a holiday. I didn't get off from work.

Work holidays shouldn't be tied to religious nuttery.

Sucks for you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

I think the point is that MIL is not actually celebrating the resurrection which is what OP and family are celebrating. Like if someone said they wanted to throw you a bar mitzvah but wanted you to skip the entire portion where you read from the Torah and have the ceremony at the synagogue , and just have a party afterwords. And be like “what, it’s just a thirteenth birthday party, the whole religious thing is fake, I can’t believe you won’t let me throw you this alternative party and skip the stupid religious thing”. It would be odd, and really disrespectful. Same with demanding OP and her family skip church services and just come and get an Easter basket at MILs house instead because what’s the difference.

No, the OP is celebrating the secular aspects of Easter. Egg hunts, dinner, games, etc.

And the MIL can skip the church and come to the egg hunt, dinner, and games, but she’s choosing not to, and then is complaining about being excluded.

Maybe OP's family is nutters and MIL doesn't want to spend time with them - just her own kid and his family.

Easter is secular for most people "celebrating". They like the games, dinner, etc. Not the religious silliness.

That’s her choice. Maybe one day she will be lonely enough.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

Do you spit hateful things at other religions or just Christianity? Like I’m curious what you say to Jews who say they’re lighting the menorah. Would it be something that sounds anti semitic? Would you be uncomfortable saying it?

I have no issue with Judaism.

Just the fckers who are pushing their religion down my throat.

I’m sure you weren’t complaining when you had Friday off from work.

Friday wasn't a holiday. I didn't get off from work.

Work holidays shouldn't be tied to religious nuttery.

Sucks for you!

If you say so...

I have unlimited PTO so I take off whenever I want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does she want to do for Easter? Many atheists celebrate by painting eggs and making certain meals, it's common in many countries as a cultural tradition. The ones who say it's a religious holiday -- it was a holiday long before, it's to celebrate spring equinox and rebirth. You know the eggs and rabbits? They stand for procreation. You'd have a hard time connecting an egg and a rabbit to a Christ Also Christmas was a holiday long before -- Yule, the winter equinox, nothing to do with "Christ". The first Yule tree celebrations were done by burning them down, as evergreens were the only trees green in the winter. Summer solstice is still celebrated in the north, the only holiday which the religious fanatics didn't manage to steal, because there's no summer solstice (when the sun never sets) in Rome or the Middle East.

OP already answered this. Her MiL wants to give an Easter basket. Which is sweet. OP invited her along for the entire day it sounds like but MIL wanted to celebrate it differently- purely secular. And OPs family celebrates it in accordance with the Bible. You’re not going to just skip church services on the most important religious holiday of the year to celebrate the secular side of the holiday with someone who doesn’t believe in Jesus. That’s ridiculous.

Seems like it’d be better to celebrate with family than randos at some church.

But I guess if that’s why the sky daddy tells you to do then you do it.

I think the point is that MIL is not actually celebrating the resurrection which is what OP and family are celebrating. Like if someone said they wanted to throw you a bar mitzvah but wanted you to skip the entire portion where you read from the Torah and have the ceremony at the synagogue , and just have a party afterwords. And be like “what, it’s just a thirteenth birthday party, the whole religious thing is fake, I can’t believe you won’t let me throw you this alternative party and skip the stupid religious thing”. It would be odd, and really disrespectful. Same with demanding OP and her family skip church services and just come and get an Easter basket at MILs house instead because what’s the difference.

No, the OP is celebrating the secular aspects of Easter. Egg hunts, dinner, games, etc.

And the MIL can skip the church and come to the egg hunt, dinner, and games, but she’s choosing not to, and then is complaining about being excluded.

Maybe OP's family is nutters and MIL doesn't want to spend time with them - just her own kid and his family.

Easter is secular for most people "celebrating". They like the games, dinner, etc. Not the religious silliness.

That’s her choice. Maybe one day she will be lonely enough.

A lot of people would choose being alone over spending time with MAGA nutters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am Christian and my family celebrates Easter in a big way. My nieces and nephews all have spring break that falls over Easter so they come in to town, and everyone spends the day together in a big way. My DH is completely on board. This is our second year since having a baby, and now MIL (FIL is deceased) wants us/me to change our/my plans to accommodate her. The thing is, we have invited her to spend the day with my family. We attend church and then after there is an egg hunt, which our DC will enjoy for the first time this year, and then we go back to our house and have dinner, play games, etc. MIL refuses to come along because she’s atheist, and says it makes her uncomfortable. She’s very vocal about being anti-religion. She’s very upset we won’t “give” her this Easter with DC since we had last year. The offer stood last year and it stands this year. She’s currently guilt tripping DH in a major way right now and we both wonder what to do.

She's an atheist so Easter is not a "holiday" to trade off for her. She's being ridiculous - it's a day that has meaning for your side of the family but not for her, so demanding her fair share is just being a PITA for the sake of it. It would be like if her kid married someone Mexican and she demanded you take turns celebrating Mexican Independence at the Mexican side of the family every other year and skipping it to sit in her living room the other years. Just dumb and petty.

Sincerely, the family atheist

[Anonymous]

Well it's passed. What happened,.OP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So you have church, egg hunt then dinner and games etc. Why can't she skip church?

Because she wants to control the whole day. It’s her turn, after all.

As pps have said, she's being unreasonable and controlling. She is bothered by the fact that op and family think differently and she is trying to force her beliefs upon them.

Op, I can't believe you have to crowd-source this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So you have church, egg hunt then dinner and games etc. Why can't she skip church?

Because she wants to control the whole day. It’s her turn, after all.

As pps have said, she's being unreasonable and controlling. She is bothered by the fact that op and family think differently and she is trying to force her beliefs upon them.

Op, I can't believe you have to crowd-source this.

MIL is a PITA but there's been NO sign that she's tried to force "her beliefs" on anyone.

Please stop atheist-bashing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am Christian and my family celebrates Easter in a big way. My nieces and nephews all have spring break that falls over Easter so they come in to town, and everyone spends the day together in a big way. My DH is completely on board. This is our second year since having a baby, and now MIL (FIL is deceased) wants us/me to change our/my plans to accommodate her. The thing is, we have invited her to spend the day with my family. We attend church and then after there is an egg hunt, which our DC will enjoy for the first time this year, and then we go back to our house and have dinner, play games, etc. MIL refuses to come along because she’s atheist, and says it makes her uncomfortable. She’s very vocal about being anti-religion. She’s very upset we won’t “give” her this Easter with DC since we had last year. The offer stood last year and it stands this year. She’s currently guilt tripping DH in a major way right now and we both wonder what to do.

Your DH has been indoctrinated by you.

Easter eggs have nothing to do with "religion"

Nor do Easter baskets.

Hypocrisy at it's finest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you have church, egg hunt then dinner and games etc. Why can't she skip church?

Because she wants to control the whole day. It’s her turn, after all.

As pps have said, she's being unreasonable and controlling. She is bothered by the fact that op and family think differently and she is trying to force her beliefs upon them.

Op, I can't believe you have to crowd-source this.

No OP's MIL has a brain OP is a hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like my MIL who never visits and hardly calls and then has a breakdown every single Xmas over us spending the holiday with FIL (who is her ex)--at his house where there is a big celebration, lots of traditions including food, stories, family and friends.

MIL does not cook/eat, buy gifts, have anywhere for anyone to sleep and is not religious. For the last 20 years, she has tried to ruin her kids' and grandkids' Xmas. Zero plans initiated by her for the other 364 days of the year. It's so absurd.