How do these super coddled kids turn out?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed how many kids are so coddled. The parents do everything and anything for them. I’m not even sure I would call them spoiled. They are often only children or the baby of the family or the kid who doesn’t want to do things for themselves. They almost always have very aggressive type a type parents.

Do these kids become failure to launch?

The kids seem so dependent on their parents in a very negative way.

Helpless and hopeless. I hired a couple and entitled employees who believe rules do not apply to them. One employee was salvageable but the other I fired because during first month of employment she was between 15-30 minutes late every day even after a warning. Her mother called me raising holy cain telling me that I had not given daughter a fair chance

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My niece and nephew grew up very coddled and they have not turned out well at all.

My nephew flunked out of college because mommy was no longer able to make excuses for him or do his work for him. He's 24 and lives in an apartment they pay for. He sometimes works random low paying jobs, but they mostly fund his lifestyle. He gets an allowance each month.

My niece did fine in college but has floundered since graduating last May. She's not been able to keep any job longer than her 90-day probationary period. She makes tons of excuses for why the jobs didn't work out and none of them are ever because of something she did. Never takes responsibility. She lost her first job post-graduation because out of the 22 days she was employed there, she arrived more than hour late 17 of those days. But that was never her fault, according to her.

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Anonymous wrote:What are some examples of coddling? I saw the PP above with the parents coming to college, but OP what do you mean?

The girl I mentioned with two older parents. Their parents spend their entire lives doing anything and everything for this child. They have the money and time and tripping over themselves to do anything that this girl wants. This girl is definitely spoiled in every way. Both parents are extremely smart, successful and both are from $$$.

Another boy I am thinking of has divorced parents and both parents also always trying to do everything for this teenager.

I can also think of countless boys, happen to be Indian, whose moms dedicate their entire lives to them. The boys are soooooo coddled.

[/b]Hmm. Why does this happen with the boys in particular and not the girls?[b] Does the mother expect her son to take care of her when she’s old, but not her daughter?

Internalized misogyny

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Anonymous wrote:Does super coddled = rich? If so, they will be fine. Intergenerational wealth does wonders, even if you don’t work particularly hard.

You can be rich without being coddled, and you can be coddled without being rich. Think of the kids who are like, ten years old and refuse to cut their food because they're lazy so their parents do it for them.

My MIL cuts her husband’s food into smaller bites and it’s so weird. He isn’t that old! Apparently he doesn’t usually like how meat looks outside of bite sized pieces.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are some examples of coddling? I saw the PP above with the parents coming to college, but OP what do you mean?

The girl I mentioned with two older parents. Their parents spend their entire lives doing anything and everything for this child. They have the money and time and tripping over themselves to do anything that this girl wants. This girl is definitely spoiled in every way. Both parents are extremely smart, successful and both are from $$$.

Another boy I am thinking of has divorced parents and both parents also always trying to do everything for this teenager.

I can also think of countless boys, happen to be Indian, whose moms dedicate their entire lives to them. The boys are soooooo coddled.

Spoiled boys are prone to become disrespectful, control freak lazy husbands.