How Many of You Will Be Receiving Nothing on Valentine’s Day from Your Husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He thinks he’s checking off the “Valentine’s Day” box by tagging along with me on the night I planned, so he’s asked if he can spend the rest of the weekend hanging out with a buddy.

Meanwhile a colleague of mine flirts with me hardcore and I suspect got me something. Sigh. It’s hard not to start an affair when H puts in zero effort and this other guy pays SO much attention to me.

I know reality is colleague would also behave the same way in a relationship because that’s what men do. Once it’s locked down, no need to put in any effort. But still.

Enjoy your life of running from man to man who buys your box with a trinket.

[Anonymous]

We celebrate Valentine's Day but I think I'm going to tell DH we should stop. He got me a card, flowers and chocolates but he didn't write anything in the card, just had DD pick it and draw in it. I think he mostly wanted to let DD pick stuff out she liked. He groaned when he saw I had gotten him something he's told me he wanted and ignored the card I got him (and wrote in).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it everyone gets super defensive about how Valentines is made up but still gets gifts of Christmas (“made up” gifting) birthdays (“made up” gifting) and gives out candy on Halloween (incredibly “made up” candy gifting!). A made up holiday which celebrates your partner is a million times better than any of the above.

We get small, meaningful things (I suspect I’m getting a silver photo frame of a photo he took on a trip recently) but we would never miss the opportunity.

Do you know the difference between an adult and a child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it everyone gets super defensive about how Valentines is made up but still gets gifts of Christmas (“made up” gifting) birthdays (“made up” gifting) and gives out candy on Halloween (incredibly “made up” candy gifting!). A made up holiday which celebrates your partner is a million times better than any of the above.

We get small, meaningful things (I suspect I’m getting a silver photo frame of a photo he took on a trip recently) but we would never miss the opportunity.

Do you know the difference between an adult and a child?

DP it sounds like the PP is an adult, and you are a child

[Anonymous]

One of my kids has been home sick for an entire week at this point, 2/3 of my team is being fired either immediately or soon, we're trying to pull back on spending in case of job loss which means no babysitter...Valentine's Day is just not on the radar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He thinks he’s checking off the “Valentine’s Day” box by tagging along with me on the night I planned, so he’s asked if he can spend the rest of the weekend hanging out with a buddy.

Meanwhile a colleague of mine flirts with me hardcore and I suspect got me something. Sigh. It’s hard not to start an affair when H puts in zero effort and this other guy pays SO much attention to me.

I know reality is colleague would also behave the same way in a relationship because that’s what men do. Once it’s locked down, no need to put in any effort. But still.

Enjoy your life of running from man to man who buys your box with a trinket.

Enjoy your life of no one buying you anything or getting anywhere near your “box.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We celebrate Valentine's Day but I think I'm going to tell DH we should stop. He got me a card, flowers and chocolates but he didn't write anything in the card, just had DD pick it and draw in it. I think he mostly wanted to let DD pick stuff out she liked. He groaned when he saw I had gotten him something he's told me he wanted and ignored the card I got him (and wrote in).

That is not a Valentine’s Day problem, that is a relationship problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We celebrate Valentine's Day but I think I'm going to tell DH we should stop. He got me a card, flowers and chocolates but he didn't write anything in the card, just had DD pick it and draw in it. I think he mostly wanted to let DD pick stuff out she liked. He groaned when he saw I had gotten him something he's told me he wanted and ignored the card I got him (and wrote in).

That is not a Valentine’s Day problem, that is a relationship problem.

I agree, and it's a relationship problem related to holidays and Valentine's Day is an easy one to just ignore

[Anonymous]

Me. I do not care

[Anonymous]

Nothing! We don't really do anything for Valentine's Day. I really don't enjoy going out in the winter, and I don't enjoy expensive presents. I like travel, but it's a bad time at work for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it everyone gets super defensive about how Valentines is made up but still gets gifts of Christmas (“made up” gifting) birthdays (“made up” gifting) and gives out candy on Halloween (incredibly “made up” candy gifting!). A made up holiday which celebrates your partner is a million times better than any of the above.

We get small, meaningful things (I suspect I’m getting a silver photo frame of a photo he took on a trip recently) but we would never miss the opportunity.

It's nice that it's meaningful for you and your partner. It isn't for everyone. It's almost like people are different and have different experiences and preferences. Weird, I know.

[Anonymous]

If you're an adult and expect something for V day you need to get a life. It's fake holiday. I hope if you have kids there are more important things to think or focus on than getting stuff because of a made up holiday.

[Anonymous]

We have a newborn and one of our incomes is from federal employment - Valentine's presents are far down the list of priorities. He's not getting me anything, I'm not getting him anything, but we're ordering sushi which is kind of "special occasion" for us.

[Anonymous]

I get flowers, a card with a nice personal message inside, candy and chocolate. He gets a card and chocolate and his favorite sweets. He tells me he doesn't want a card or candy but feels odd not to do something for him.

[Anonymous]

I have stupidly been waiting for the doorbell to ring all day and even opening the door to check if flowers were left there. I am truly an idiot. Why do I keep thinking he will finally do something? I did remind my son to make sure to do something nice for his girlfriend because it really stinks to be forgotten.