How Many of You Will Be Receiving Nothing on Valentine’s Day from Your Husband?

[Anonymous]

And will you be doing or giving nothing in return?

[Anonymous]

Me (hopefully).

[Anonymous]

Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

[Anonymous]

Not exchanging anything because marketing says to.

We show respect and love throughout the year.

[Anonymous]

We agreed not to spend due to likely layoff.

[Anonymous]

Me thankfully. We don’t do Valentine’s Day. Haven’t for a good 20 years

[Anonymous]

I've never cared for v-day even more so because my grandson was born on v-day so we celebrate him every year.

I'd much rather my husband bring me chocolate etc on a regular day which shows he was thinking of me than on a day where someone says he's supposed to because everyone else is doing it.

[Anonymous]

Oh man, I need to buy a present for DH. He never forgets and also always expects.

[Anonymous]

Me. I hate VD and so does my DH.

OTOH - every day is VD with my DH. He cooks and feeds me. Plus, he goes to work and I ride the gravy train.

[Anonymous]

Me. I had a fit when he got me a gift early in our relationship. It's such a dumb holiday.

[Anonymous]

I feel sad when he forgets me or chooses to forget.

[Anonymous]

We have exchanged homemade cards since 2020 (covid store avoidance). His are very sweet and he obviously spends time looking for the right image.
We will have the last 2 Baked & Wired coconut cupcakes in the freezer from his last foray there inn the fall. When he goes to the 19th St NW dentist, he walks there and then picks up Metro at Rosslyn. So they are a love treat.

[Anonymous]

That sounds nice.

[Anonymous]

We don't do Valentine's gifts. DH and I aren't really material gift type people (usually do experiences or weekends away as gifts). For Valentine's Day he usually goes and finds my favorite bottle of wine and dessert and I make his favorite dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

It's not about giving in to pressure. It's a holiday that is a reminder to show appreciation to those we love. That's how we see it. There's no pressure.