How Many of You Will Be Receiving Nothing on Valentine’s Day from Your Husband?

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He’ll probably give me something small when we land in St Barts.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

If you're a man, please get her a little something anyways.

I'd be annoyed if you gave my husband that advice. I don't want anything from him today. It's not a holiday we celebrate. He bought me a present a few weeks ago because he saw something that I had that needed to be replaced and did it for me. For Christmas he went nuts this year for some reason. I don't want a gift for Valentine's Day.

[Anonymous]

Really? So many women would not like flowers or chocolates or being taken out to dinner or even a card? Any of those things would make me feel happy. Of course, being loving and kind all year long is even better, but not everyone is as lucky in that department.

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Anonymous wrote:Really? So many women would not like flowers or chocolates or being taken out to dinner or even a card? Any of those things would make me feel happy. Of course, being loving and kind all year long is even better, but not everyone is as lucky in that department.

I always love a great restaurant but we have nice lunch dates about twice a month when the kids are at school. We did schedule one for today at one of our faves.

But I don’t want flowers, chocolate, or a card. All will just end up in the trash. We strive to live a minimal-ish lifestyle. We are quite comfortable but try to resist pointless consumption that does not serve our goals.

[Anonymous]

My husband forgot but has a lot going on. I only got him a card and candy. I don’t care. He shows me he loves me in far better ways.

[Anonymous]

Me!! We’ve never made a big deal over it. We used to buy cards, but now they are like $7.00 a pop just to be read and thrown in the trash.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband does absolutely nothing — no gift, no card, no flowers, no dinner out. Just nothing. It really hurts, but I am
eventually getting sort of used to it.

Can you make the reservation? Can you tell him two days before I’d really like a card?

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I took advantage of a "Valentine's Day offer" and bought myself stuff from Dior, then announced to my husband this afternoon that his gift was being delivered today. I will order sushi for tomorrow and we'll have a nice family dinner at home. He's relieved with this arrangement. It's been going on for years.

Life can be very simple if you make it so.

My god this soynds so pretentious!

I buy from Dior about once every 10 years, PP. I don't think I'm very pretentious. If you substitute your favorite thing you were planning to buy anyway, but take advantage of a little discount or bundle of services for Valentine's Day... is that really pretentious?

No.

But buying yourself something expensive that you wouldn’t otherwise buy, instead of your spouse buying it, and thinking you have a Valentine’s Day present, is really sad and depressing. The fact that it’s Dior doesn’t make it any less so.

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Anonymous wrote:He thinks he’s checking off the “Valentine’s Day” box by tagging along with me on the night I planned, so he’s asked if he can spend the rest of the weekend hanging out with a buddy.

Meanwhile a colleague of mine flirts with me hardcore and I suspect got me something. Sigh. It’s hard not to start an affair when H puts in zero effort and this other guy pays SO much attention to me.

I know reality is colleague would also behave the same way in a relationship because that’s what men do. Once it’s locked down, no need to put in any effort. But still.

I hear you. This does sound hard.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

This. DH wished me a happy one this morning. I hadn't even realized what day it was. We don't get hung up on these things.

[Anonymous]

I usually buy perfumes and cologne gift sets from VD sales to gift to my family in another country. But, this year, too lazy to do even that. I have stopped going to malls and stores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh man, I need to buy a present for DH. He never forgets and also always expects.

+1! I thought I had a card already in a drawer but turns out it was an anniversary card. Drat.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm giving him the beat sex of his life.

Easiest and cheapest gift.
Perks of being the monopoly vendor 😉

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Anonymous wrote:Me!! We’ve never made a big deal over it. We used to buy cards, but now they are like $7.00 a pop just to be read and thrown in the trash.

Still $0.99 at Trader Joe's

[Anonymous]

I don’t want gifts of obligation. I don’t want flowers and chocolate on vday. I would love flowers on a random Thursday in April, showing “I was thinking about you and thought I’d bring home something beautiful for you.”

He could take me to bed right there and then.