Moms with boys using men’s locker room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moms cannot win. Those licker rooms have problems and are not safe for young kids. If they bring them to the women’s women scream too.

Which is why separate family locker rooms are important.

Yes but when they are unavailable are parents supposed to create them on the spot?

My dad used to take me, a girl, to swim lessons. Imagine how much worse that was. I still remember the annoyance everyone gave us for just existing.

Nearly all places have an all gender bathroom. Just go in there. Or put a robe on and go home. This isn’t a huge problem to create.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

GTFO with your hateful rhetoric.

Hateful prejudice is what is actually the WORST.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Moms cannot win. Those licker rooms have problems and are not safe for young kids. If they bring them to the women’s women scream too.

Which is why separate family locker rooms are important.

Yes but when they are unavailable are parents supposed to create them on the spot?

My dad used to take me, a girl, to swim lessons. Imagine how much worse that was. I still remember the annoyance everyone gave us for just existing.

No, they can stop going to that specific pool/gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a simple rule, really: grown women are not allowed in the men’s bathroom/ shower. If that rule is a problem, it’s on those women to go to management and solve it; not just skirt the rule.

If I were OP and this happened while I was in the shower a second time, I would lather up the flag-pole ‘til it pointed skyward, and march right out of the shower toward these mommies without a towel. Hey, it’s my shower room not theirs. You barge in? You see what you see.

Something tells me they’d soon find some other solution.

Exactly this. Besides, there's far more of a need for adults to have separation and privacy from other adults of the opposite sex than from very young children.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not the norm LOL. The closest I ever came to anything like that was when 7yo DS disappeared into the men’s locker room after swimming. After multiple warnings of cracking open the door & yelling that I would come drag him out--I eventually had to go in and find him. But only after giving one last preemptive shout to warn any men in there. DS had gotten lost in his own shirt somehow which was unsurprising.

Only hiccup was some poor HS aged kid apparently hadn’t heard my shouts and turned the corner in all his glory to find me wrangling DS. Poor kid jumped back like a cat that touched the third rail & I was mortified.

[Anonymous]

As the world sinks into further depravity, one wonders what will the fallout from all these entitled mothers who bring their boys beyond the age of three- to fourteen into the women's locker room, way past the dressing rooms, and into the heart of the private zone of showers, steam room, and saunas and decide to take over the sauna and claim she can use it to changer her two big boys ages around 8-10 years old. I said "No" this isn't a boy's sauna or changing room, she said she wasn't leaving...I wasn't arguing, so I turned and was just going to talk to management. When I was attacked by a woman, who accused me of harassing the mother, stepped on my foot while trying to body block me from leaving the locker room. This werdo doesn't even know this mother starts telling me the boys are special needs (they looked perfectly healthy and of sound mind). I later find out the father was at the club too, why he didn't take them into the men's locker room is another cultural question as some people have the highest regard for their own women but absolutely no respect for
Western women...we're supposed to roll over and give a submissive pee as they let their 14-year-old son look into the women's sauna window and the 8 and 10-year-old boys are brought into the women's sauna down by the showers and steam area. Meanwhile, there are three stalls, two of which are extra big like 4X 6. These particular people, cover their heads and swim in skirts, and our men and boys should not see as much as their feet but they bring their grown boys into our women's locker room all the time, even when the grown boy's fathers are around.

[Anonymous]

She’s a mom of a boy. Her immunity to seeing peen is high I promise you. She’ll survive if she happens to glance yours.

You too will survive if she happens to see anything, and you’ll be unaware if she even did unless she stands gawking at your junk. In which case 1. Kudos or condolences. 2. You definitely should complain.

Otherwise just try and have empathy and go about your business.

[Anonymous]

I have two boys and I don’t remember this as a problem. If they’re really little (like babies/toddlers), they come in the locker room with me. If they’re 4/5, they either go into the bathroom or simply don’t change. Over 6, they’re living their best life in the men’s locker room. Or, just don’t change. It was fine.

But if you have a 5 year old boy and a baby? The permutations can make it more difficult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think by 7 or 8 the kids are old enough to change by themselves in the appropriate gender space.

Have you witnessed a 7 y/o boy try to get himself out of a wet bathing suit and into dry clothes? Especially if you have a neurodiverse kid like mine who is exceptionally uncoordinated and immature. I would not let him off to go change by himself in a men’s locker room. He changes in the car instead, but no they are not all old enough and capable of changing on their own.

Boys swimsuits are much easier to get in and out of than girls - I'm not seeing how a little buy has trouble getting out of swim trunks. Mommy can help with his rash guard/swim tee before he goes in the locker room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think by 7 or 8 the kids are old enough to change by themselves in the appropriate gender space.

You sound like someone without a 7 or 8 year old. I shudder to think about my kids’ feet touching the floor of those places or them dropping soap and picking it back up and using it or laying their towels down in stagnant water then using it. Nah I need to wash my own kids at that age

My kids go in the locker room to rinse off and change into street clothes. They bathe at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think by 7 or 8 the kids are old enough to change by themselves in the appropriate gender space.

Have you witnessed a 7 y/o boy try to get himself out of a wet bathing suit and into dry clothes? Especially if you have a neurodiverse kid like mine who is exceptionally uncoordinated and immature. I would not let him off to go change by himself in a men’s locker room. He changes in the car instead, but no they are not all old enough and capable of changing on their own.

Boys swimsuits are much easier to get in and out of than girls - I'm not seeing how a little buy has trouble getting out of swim trunks. Mommy can help with his rash guard/swim tee before he goes in the locker room.

DP…. My 5 yo boy is so uncoordinated and also just immature and I would certainly trust him with less than I would have trusted his older sister at the same age. And that’s what I hate about this topic. Trust parents to make judgment calls about their own kids. We go to the ymca and so it’s theoretically a non-issue this year for us in that boys are allowed in the ladies’ locker room as long as they’re under 6, and my son is. However my son is 99% for size and he is often mistaken for 7/8 based on appearance. I am expecting some side eye and maybe even a comment. My son doesn’t have the maturity to pass through the men’s locker room solo and meet me on the other side, and he might need help with a wet bathing suit. I’ll use the family room when it’s available, but it isn’t always. I honestly don’t know why anyone is upset about a prepubescent boy who is there with his mother going through the women’s room.

[Anonymous]

This is why pools need gender neutral 'family' changing rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think by 7 or 8 the kids are old enough to change by themselves in the appropriate gender space.

Have you witnessed a 7 y/o boy try to get himself out of a wet bathing suit and into dry clothes? Especially if you have a neurodiverse kid like mine who is exceptionally uncoordinated and immature. I would not let him off to go change by himself in a men’s locker room. He changes in the car instead, but no they are not all old enough and capable of changing on their own.

Boys swimsuits are much easier to get in and out of than girls - I'm not seeing how a little buy has trouble getting out of swim trunks. Mommy can help with his rash guard/swim tee before he goes in the locker room.

Wet jammers? Not easy for little boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think by 7 or 8 the kids are old enough to change by themselves in the appropriate gender space.

Have you witnessed a 7 y/o boy try to get himself out of a wet bathing suit and into dry clothes? Especially if you have a neurodiverse kid like mine who is exceptionally uncoordinated and immature. I would not let him off to go change by himself in a men’s locker room. He changes in the car instead, but no they are not all old enough and capable of changing on their own.

Boys swimsuits are much easier to get in and out of than girls - I'm not seeing how a little buy has trouble getting out of swim trunks. Mommy can help with his rash guard/swim tee before he goes in the locker room.

DP…. My 5 yo boy is so uncoordinated and also just immature and I would certainly trust him with less than I would have trusted his older sister at the same age. And that’s what I hate about this topic. Trust parents to make judgment calls about their own kids. We go to the ymca and so it’s theoretically a non-issue this year for us in that boys are allowed in the ladies’ locker room as long as they’re under 6, and my son is. However my son is 99% for size and he is often mistaken for 7/8 based on appearance. I am expecting some side eye and maybe even a comment. My son doesn’t have the maturity to pass through the men’s locker room solo and meet me on the other side, and he might need help with a wet bathing suit. I’ll use the family room when it’s available, but it isn’t always. I honestly don’t know why anyone is upset about a prepubescent boy who is there with his mother going through the women’s room.

They are upset because their prepubescent girl or pubescent daughter who goes to the same school or is in the same neighborhood is also in the women’s locker room, and they don’t want their bodily privacy violated because your 7, 8 or 10 year old boy can’t be trusted to walk 50 steps through two doors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

Seriously with this? What do you want moms with young boys to do? Why does everyone else get to shower and change at the pool but a mom with a little boy has to got home on the car wet?