Moms with boys using men’s locker room?

[Anonymous]

What's the big deal about this? Men and women are the same anyway.

[Anonymous]

I was in a men's locker room once when a female police officer came through on duty. I was changing. There were other men in the shower. If it had been a male officer in the women's locker room, I'm sure it woukd have caused a lot of complaints. But whatever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

Seriously with this? What do you want moms with young boys to do? Why does everyone else get to shower and change at the pool but a mom with a little boy has to got home on the car wet?

I expect them to suck it up. Why should girls have to suck it up to make them more comfortable?!

Daughters do it with dads all the time. I wad riding home in a wet swimsuit after lessons in 1985 and I’m still alive and doing just fine. We didn’t even have seat heaters in cars back then.

In HS our locker room was under renovations during our competitive season and we lived somewhere with temperatures in the range of 0-20 F in the winter. We rode home in suits, wet towels, and wet parkas. Again, no one died and plenty of girls went on to swim in major D1 and D3 programs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think by 7 or 8 the kids are old enough to change by themselves in the appropriate gender space.

Have you witnessed a 7 y/o boy try to get himself out of a wet bathing suit and into dry clothes? Especially if you have a neurodiverse kid like mine who is exceptionally uncoordinated and immature. I would not let him off to go change by himself in a men’s locker room. He changes in the car instead, but no they are not all old enough and capable of changing on their own.

Boys swimsuits are much easier to get in and out of than girls - I'm not seeing how a little buy has trouble getting out of swim trunks. Mommy can help with his rash guard/swim tee before he goes in the locker room.

DP…. My 5 yo boy is so uncoordinated and also just immature and I would certainly trust him with less than I would have trusted his older sister at the same age. And that’s what I hate about this topic. Trust parents to make judgment calls about their own kids. We go to the ymca and so it’s theoretically a non-issue this year for us in that boys are allowed in the ladies’ locker room as long as they’re under 6, and my son is. However my son is 99% for size and he is often mistaken for 7/8 based on appearance. I am expecting some side eye and maybe even a comment. My son doesn’t have the maturity to pass through the men’s locker room solo and meet me on the other side, and he might need help with a wet bathing suit. I’ll use the family room when it’s available, but it isn’t always. I honestly don’t know why anyone is upset about a prepubescent boy who is there with his mother going through the women’s room.

They are upset because their prepubescent girl or pubescent daughter who goes to the same school or is in the same neighborhood is also in the women’s locker room, and they don’t want their bodily privacy violated because your 7, 8 or 10 year old boy can’t be trusted to walk 50 steps through two doors.

I have 2 daughters and I still think that attitude is bizarre. And again, I say this as the mom of a 5yo boy who looks older…. Why are you judging what the mom “should” do with her boy if you don’t know his definite age, whether he is NT or not, anything else about them? To me this falls into the general category of trusting people to know and choose the appropriate bathrooms for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

Seriously with this? What do you want moms with young boys to do? Why does everyone else get to shower and change at the pool but a mom with a little boy has to got home on the car wet?

I expect them to suck it up. Why should girls have to suck it up to make them more comfortable?!

Daughters do it with dads all the time. I wad riding home in a wet swimsuit after lessons in 1985 and I’m still alive and doing just fine. We didn’t even have seat heaters in cars back then.

In HS our locker room was under renovations during our competitive season and we lived somewhere with temperatures in the range of 0-20 F in the winter. We rode home in suits, wet towels, and wet parkas. Again, no one died and plenty of girls went on to swim in major D1 and D3 programs.

Uh my daughters will be using the men’s locker room when they are with their dad….. same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s a mom of a boy. Her immunity to seeing peen is high I promise you. She’ll survive if she happens to glance yours.

You too will survive if she happens to see anything, and you’ll be unaware if she even did unless she stands gawking at your junk. In which case 1. Kudos or condolences. 2. You definitely should complain.

Otherwise just try and have empathy and go about your business.

What are you talking about? If boys aren’t allowed in the women’s locker room, why in the world do you think this grown women is entitled to be in the men’s locker room? This man has a right to his privacy just as women do in their locker room. Take your kid home to change and shower if there isn’t a family locker room or individual bathroom

[Anonymous]

Mommies in the men's locker room want to ogle at naked adult males. You should shart manscaping for their viewing pleasure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

Seriously with this? What do you want moms with young boys to do? Why does everyone else get to shower and change at the pool but a mom with a little boy has to got home on the car wet?

They would do the same thing as dads with daughters that are too old to be in the men’s locker room, but too young to change solo. You go home. Would you (or the other women at the gym) be totally fine for a grown man to go into the women’s locker room to shower and change his 5-12 yr old daughter?

[Anonymous]

I don't think most men care if there is a woman in the men's locker room. Women probably care if a man is in their locker room though.

[Anonymous]

Moms typically take the boys into the women's locker room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

Seriously with this? What do you want moms with young boys to do? Why does everyone else get to shower and change at the pool but a mom with a little boy has to got home on the car wet?

I don’t think my boys have ever changed into dry clothes in the locker room. They put a towel underneath them in the car and that’s that.

They’re teens now and one swims six days a week. None of those swimmers change after practice. It’s not necessary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want young boys in the women's locker room or showers with or without Mommy. I am an adult female.

Me either, but we have all experienced this.

Boy moms are the WORST.

Seriously with this? What do you want moms with young boys to do? Why does everyone else get to shower and change at the pool but a mom with a little boy has to got home on the car wet?

I expect them to suck it up. Why should girls have to suck it up to make them more comfortable?!

Daughters do it with dads all the time. I wad riding home in a wet swimsuit after lessons in 1985 and I’m still alive and doing just fine. We didn’t even have seat heaters in cars back then.

In HS our locker room was under renovations during our competitive season and we lived somewhere with temperatures in the range of 0-20 F in the winter. We rode home in suits, wet towels, and wet parkas. Again, no one died and plenty of girls went on to swim in major D1 and D3 programs.

Uh my daughters will be using the men’s locker room when they are with their dad….. same thing.

Yeah..until they are can’t. Just like there is a policy boys over 5 (or whatever age the gym decides) can’t be in the women’s locker room, it’s the same for girls in men’s locker room.

[Anonymous]

I (female) used to change my son in the women's room, up until probably 5 or so. Now when older our preference always is a private family changing room. Sometimes he would change in the car. He's still too scared to change in the men's room by himself (8), but I would absolutely never go into the mens locker room. That's unacceptable and I would definitely complain to the front desk and demand a family changing room if there isn't one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s a mom of a boy. Her immunity to seeing peen is high I promise you. She’ll survive if she happens to glance yours.

You too will survive if she happens to see anything, and you’ll be unaware if she even did unless she stands gawking at your junk. In which case 1. Kudos or condolences. 2. You definitely should complain.

Otherwise just try and have empathy and go about your business.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s a mom of a boy. Her immunity to seeing peen is high I promise you. She’ll survive if she happens to glance yours.

You too will survive if she happens to see anything, and you’ll be unaware if she even did unless she stands gawking at your junk. In which case 1. Kudos or condolences. 2. You definitely should complain.

Otherwise just try and have empathy and go about your business.

LOL

Maybe Dads should bring their daughters into the women’s locker room. I’m sure they don’t care to look at your saggy boobs and stretch marked stomach. So what’s the big deal?