Asking husband if it's okay to order certain dishes at dinner

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Me a baller

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Is she overweight OP? Or in a special diet or restrictions?

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Anonymous wrote:Is she overweight OP? Or in a special diet or restrictions?

No, not at all to both. She is the most athletic out of all my friends.

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Such a responsive Troll

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Anonymous wrote:if he got flustefred it means they had a fight about money and shes just needling him. I hope you ignored. A lot of people are stressed over money these days. I just moved to europe and cant believe how absolutely CHEAP everything is comparatively. the scandanavian countries are like 20 percent cheaper for everything and they havnet gotten cheaper, the US has just gotten so insanely expensive.

Scandinavian countries pay over 50% tax rate.

Most people in the country pay that when you look at all the tax - income tax, social security(remember employer pays 1/2), Medicaid, state taxes, county,taxes, car tax, gas tax and sales tax.

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I have a close friend who is kind of like this. She has the social skills not to do it in public but her DH is an accountant and he is really cheap (and she’s kind of become that way too) about spending money on stuff that isn’t a basic necessity. He sets “money rules” like, she can buy lunch at work twice a week but has to bring her lunch the other days. In their case I don’t think it’s about control, more like they have financial goals of some sort and he’s the one who “enforces” them. But they’re not poor.

I will admit, I was a bit taken aback the other day when we happened to go to the grocery store together and she saw something that wasn’t on her list (a $15-20 item) that she wanted. She called him to essentially ask for permission before putting it in the cart. She couldn’t reach him and I think only reluctantly put it in her cart anyway because I was watching her. I could see her doing something like what you describe, OP. To each their own I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:maybe just facing a big college tuition bill. My wife didn’t want to order ubereats Friday and drove to get takeout because we had received our son’s $25k spring college bill. She saved $9 on delivery and felt better.

$9 a day for 30 days is $270/mo. Which is $1080 over 4 months.

The little things add up.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe just facing a big college tuition bill. My wife didn’t want to order ubereats Friday and drove to get takeout because we had received our son’s $25k spring college bill. She saved $9 on delivery and felt better.

$9 a day for 30 days is $270/mo. Which is $1080 over 4 months.

The little things add up.

$9 every Friday is $468 which is almost nothing

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Anonymous wrote:

She is asking because this is commonplace for them and he obviously holds the purse strings. He is acting flustered because she lacks the social savvy to keep this embarrassing dynamic hidden.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe just facing a big college tuition bill. My wife didn’t want to order ubereats Friday and drove to get takeout because we had received our son’s $25k spring college bill. She saved $9 on delivery and felt better.

$9 a day for 30 days is $270/mo. Which is $1080 over 4 months.

The little things add up.

$9 every Friday is $468 which is almost nothing

Picking it up yourself is 20 mins max and $1 of gas or less, which is almost nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m running to this with woman I have dated. If they grew up lower economic situation, it’s uncomfortable for them and they don’t want to assume it’s a hard habit to break.

I have encountered this too on dates. I always say please order whatever you'd like. But I try to choose moderately priced wine when my date and I share a bottle.

I'm a professional man and I almost always end up paying the bill even though I'm a liberal and I date professional women. One time a professional woman insisted on paying for both of us because she had invited me to a fancy bar. She had ordered a beer and she didn't realize that I had ordered a very expensive glass of scotch (over $40). She looked stunned when she saw the bill. She unmatched me that night.

I assume you ordered the expensive scotch before you knew she was paying!

Correct

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Anonymous wrote:maybe just facing a big college tuition bill. My wife didn’t want to order ubereats Friday and drove to get takeout because we had received our son’s $25k spring college bill. She saved $9 on delivery and felt better.

That’s what my very wealthy SIL does, it’s very awkward when it happens. She would spend a ton and then try to save on small things

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Why is this a social faux pas?

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Good question. Why hide your husbands shortcomings that you’re suffering from? Thats ableist.

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Expensive consumables are stressful. So many better uses for money. Plenty of high quality, delicious, filling healthy restaurant meals for under $50pp.