Husband and toddler both won’t eat what I cook

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Husband has a masters in engineering and can think logically. I really don’t understand why he eats so much shitty food. It might be stubbornness, willful ignorance, or a disdain for “hippy granola types” (my words not his). I’ve told him many times what I thought of his diet and seems like it made him double down. I think his family all ate whatever they wanted, smoked and drank heavily and stayed reasonably fit due to genes and haven’t died early. Maybe he associates eating healthy to weakness or he’s in denial about how terrible is diet is and just don’t want to give up the junk he’s addicted to. I don’t know.

You sound so pompous and narcissistic. The person that has an eating problem is you.

dp pp you sound crazy!

Troll is trolling.

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It seems you got triggered op, troll! Or did the fact that you are a narc hit the mark?

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Anonymous wrote:"I’m not a good cook but I’d rather eat something that is healthy for sustenance than something that is delicious but unhealthy."

Well that's your problem. You aren't a good cook, and would rather eat something that tastes like garbage than delicious. No wonder no one likes your food!

I think it would be unreasonable to expect someone to eat food that they a) hate and b) is acknowledged that isn't very tasty. If my DH was a terrible cook and insisted on making things I didn't like, I'd probably opt out as well. There is a huge amount of compromise available here. Can you guys pick out recipes and cook together? I like pps ideas of making similar things at home, like chipotle bowls or thai food. Maybe he can help make the meal plan. It doesn't sound like you're working, so it's falling on you, but there is no point in buying all this expensive protein and veggies if no one eats it, it goes to waste, and he ends up getting take out anyways.

The obvious solution here is to learn how to cook. Healthy food should taste delicious too.

I wouldn’t want to eat bland food “for sustenance” either. I cook very healthy but also with a lot of flavor, so everyone eats it happily. It isn’t hard.

She should definitely learn to cook but if his taste buds are acclimated to fast food he's not going to love what she makes. Of course that's his problem.
I made a great dinner last night of minestrone, homemade garlic bread and vegetable baked ziti and my husband says "This is good but I'd really like if this had sausage." Meh

Why can't the person with the problem learn how to cook?

Well OP is the one with the problem apparently, as she is dissatisfied with the way her husband eats. He isn’t on here complaining. He has solved his problem with her cooking by eating elsewhere.

op Just cook for you and your kid. Let your dh eat what he wants. And ignore all the meanines on here

OPs kid also doesnt want to eat her food

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But she can at least focus on making healthy meals that the kid will eat since the husband won’t touch anything healthy

Did you even read the OP?

"I try to cook healthy foods for him ... but it gets rejected most of the time which is extremely frustrating"

Literally no one likes OPs food. OP doesnt even like it. She says straight up she'd rather have something "for sustenance" than delicious. She doesn't even bother to try and make it taste good.

OP here. You’re putting words in my mouth now. I admitted I’m not a good cook and need to work on my skills which is the most obvious solution to the problem at hand. I do like my food sometimes. Sometimes my food doesn’t come out right, which I’m sure happens with everyone, but I’ll still eat it for sustenance because I use high quality ingredients. I’d rather eat that than go get a pizza because my chicken came out dry, that’s what I meant.

Sometimes I think my food comes out good, but my husband still won’t eat it. And my 2 year old just doesn’t like much except chicken tendies which is probably not unusual. I’d like to become a better cook for my toddler but i want to cook healthy foods for him, which unfortunately my husband will not eat.

Dear op, you have an eating disorder and you can't cook. Nobody should be forced to eat tastless food. The offended parties are your child and DH, not you. They are enduring this histrionic behavior for now, but you seem oblivious as to how high strung and controlling you are.

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Feed the toddler. Not the husband.
Why are you cooking for a capable adult?
Why would you cook for a capable, unappreciative adult? Stop.

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Anonymous wrote:"I’m not a good cook but I’d rather eat something that is healthy for sustenance than something that is delicious but unhealthy."

Well that's your problem. You aren't a good cook, and would rather eat something that tastes like garbage than delicious. No wonder no one likes your food!

I think it would be unreasonable to expect someone to eat food that they a) hate and b) is acknowledged that isn't very tasty. If my DH was a terrible cook and insisted on making things I didn't like, I'd probably opt out as well. There is a huge amount of compromise available here. Can you guys pick out recipes and cook together? I like pps ideas of making similar things at home, like chipotle bowls or thai food. Maybe he can help make the meal plan. It doesn't sound like you're working, so it's falling on you, but there is no point in buying all this expensive protein and veggies if no one eats it, it goes to waste, and he ends up getting take out anyways.

The obvious solution here is to learn how to cook. Healthy food should taste delicious too.

I wouldn’t want to eat bland food “for sustenance” either. I cook very healthy but also with a lot of flavor, so everyone eats it happily. It isn’t hard.

She should definitely learn to cook but if his taste buds are acclimated to fast food he's not going to love what she makes. Of course that's his problem.
I made a great dinner last night of minestrone, homemade garlic bread and vegetable baked ziti and my husband says "This is good but I'd really like if this had sausage." Meh

Why can't the person with the problem learn how to cook?

Well OP is the one with the problem apparently, as she is dissatisfied with the way her husband eats. He isn’t on here complaining. He has solved his problem with her cooking by eating elsewhere.

op Just cook for you and your kid. Let your dh eat what he wants. And ignore all the meanines on here

OPs kid also doesnt want to eat her food

.

But she can at least focus on making healthy meals that the kid will eat since the husband won’t touch anything healthy

Did you even read the OP?

"I try to cook healthy foods for him ... but it gets rejected most of the time which is extremely frustrating"

Literally no one likes OPs food. OP doesnt even like it. She says straight up she'd rather have something "for sustenance" than delicious. She doesn't even bother to try and make it taste good.

OP here. You’re putting words in my mouth now. I admitted I’m not a good cook and need to work on my skills which is the most obvious solution to the problem at hand. I do like my food sometimes. Sometimes my food doesn’t come out right, which I’m sure happens with everyone, but I’ll still eat it for sustenance because I use high quality ingredients. I’d rather eat that than go get a pizza because my chicken came out dry, that’s what I meant.

Sometimes I think my food comes out good, but my husband still won’t eat it. And my 2 year old just doesn’t like much except chicken tendies which is probably not unusual. I’d like to become a better cook for my toddler but i want to cook healthy foods for him, which unfortunately my husband will not eat.

And ffs, stop talking about "clean" food. No one wants to eat when someone is moralizing about the menu.

Sorry you get triggered by the word clean, but I am not typing organic, grass fed, no seed oils, low processed, paleo, etc in place of “clean” just because you get triggered by it. My diet doesn’t have to be 100% clean but when I cook food at home I prefer to use clean ingredients as often as possible especially when I have to feed a 2 year old. Let me emphasize - as often as possible but it doesn’t have to be all the time.

Eating a clean diet is something that’s important to me and some other people with similar lifestyle choices, and if it’s not important to you, that’s perfectly fine but we’re not on the same page so your opinion is probably not valuable to me so you can stay out of this one if you’re just going to talk shit.

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FWIW I don’t talk about the food being clean and healthy. I buy the ingredients and make the food, but obviously I need to get better at the cooking part.

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that’s perfectly fine

Then, give your husband this grace. He doesn't have to follow your rules. He can eat what he wants. You aren't the boss of him. And the flip-side if, you are not responsible for him or his decisions. Stop being a control freak. He can feed himself.

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Anonymous wrote:"I’m not a good cook but I’d rather eat something that is healthy for sustenance than something that is delicious but unhealthy."

Well that's your problem. You aren't a good cook, and would rather eat something that tastes like garbage than delicious. No wonder no one likes your food!

I think it would be unreasonable to expect someone to eat food that they a) hate and b) is acknowledged that isn't very tasty. If my DH was a terrible cook and insisted on making things I didn't like, I'd probably opt out as well. There is a huge amount of compromise available here. Can you guys pick out recipes and cook together? I like pps ideas of making similar things at home, like chipotle bowls or thai food. Maybe he can help make the meal plan. It doesn't sound like you're working, so it's falling on you, but there is no point in buying all this expensive protein and veggies if no one eats it, it goes to waste, and he ends up getting take out anyways.

The obvious solution here is to learn how to cook. Healthy food should taste delicious too.

I wouldn’t want to eat bland food “for sustenance” either. I cook very healthy but also with a lot of flavor, so everyone eats it happily. It isn’t hard.

She should definitely learn to cook but if his taste buds are acclimated to fast food he's not going to love what she makes. Of course that's his problem.
I made a great dinner last night of minestrone, homemade garlic bread and vegetable baked ziti and my husband says "This is good but I'd really like if this had sausage." Meh

Why can't the person with the problem learn how to cook?

Well OP is the one with the problem apparently, as she is dissatisfied with the way her husband eats. He isn’t on here complaining. He has solved his problem with her cooking by eating elsewhere.

op Just cook for you and your kid. Let your dh eat what he wants. And ignore all the meanines on here

OPs kid also doesnt want to eat her food

.

But she can at least focus on making healthy meals that the kid will eat since the husband won’t touch anything healthy

Did you even read the OP?

"I try to cook healthy foods for him ... but it gets rejected most of the time which is extremely frustrating"

Literally no one likes OPs food. OP doesnt even like it. She says straight up she'd rather have something "for sustenance" than delicious. She doesn't even bother to try and make it taste good.

OP here. You’re putting words in my mouth now. I admitted I’m not a good cook and need to work on my skills which is the most obvious solution to the problem at hand. I do like my food sometimes. Sometimes my food doesn’t come out right, which I’m sure happens with everyone, but I’ll still eat it for sustenance because I use high quality ingredients. I’d rather eat that than go get a pizza because my chicken came out dry, that’s what I meant.

Sometimes I think my food comes out good, but my husband still won’t eat it. And my 2 year old just doesn’t like much except chicken tendies which is probably not unusual. I’d like to become a better cook for my toddler but i want to cook healthy foods for him, which unfortunately my husband will not eat.

And ffs, stop talking about "clean" food. No one wants to eat when someone is moralizing about the menu.

Sorry you get triggered by the word clean, but I am not typing organic, grass fed, no seed oils, low processed, paleo, etc in place of “clean” just because you get triggered by it. My diet doesn’t have to be 100% clean but when I cook food at home I prefer to use clean ingredients as often as possible especially when I have to feed a 2 year old. Let me emphasize - as often as possible but it doesn’t have to be all the time.

Eating a clean diet is something that’s important to me and some other people with similar lifestyle choices, and if it’s not important to you, that’s perfectly fine but we’re not on the same page so your opinion is probably not valuable to me so you can stay out of this one if you’re just going to talk shit.

The point is that "clean" food doesnt exist, and considering you eat chipotle multiple times a week, it doesnt sound like it even applies to you. You are just clinging to this aspirational word to try and validate why your cooking sucks. Lots of people cook grass fed and organic food that tastes good.

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that’s perfectly fine

Then, give your husband this grace. He doesn't have to follow your rules. He can eat what he wants. You aren't the boss of him. And the flip-side if, you are not responsible for him or his decisions. Stop being a control freak. He can feed himself.

It sounds like he would PREFER to feed himself as well, but OP is "disgusted" by him eating pizza instead of her dry tasteless chicken

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that’s perfectly fine

Then, give your husband this grace. He doesn't have to follow your rules. He can eat what he wants. You aren't the boss of him. And the flip-side if, you are not responsible for him or his decisions. Stop being a control freak. He can feed himself.

I think people are being too rough on OP. I agree that DH is an adult, but a diet like OP is describing will catch up to him eventually. Once he's out of uniform, he's very likely going to balloon in weight and he'll start to develop cardiovascular disease. Who will have to deal with the fallout of this? Who will have take care of him after a heart attack or stroke? His poor diet WILL impact her life and her child's life.

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I think we should focus more on why the chicken is dry? That’s the root cause of this whole issue!

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1. Tell DH that he is modeling food refusal for your two y/o. He’s allowed to add sauce or seasonings, but he needs to eat the damn food on the damn plate.
2. Feed him a smaller dinner so he can model eating the food. After DC is in bed, DH can cook himself a second dinner that’s more to his liking.
3. Eating out always comes from his fun money. If you two don’t budget, you need to start so you can enforce this.
4. Use ChatGBT to create recipes that will work for your family. I promise that Ai can write a meal plan for 1keto adult, one health nut, and a picky toddler. I do this every week with even more dietary constraints.
5. Buy more spices and put more of them in the pot.

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that’s perfectly fine

Then, give your husband this grace. He doesn't have to follow your rules. He can eat what he wants. You aren't the boss of him. And the flip-side if, you are not responsible for him or his decisions. Stop being a control freak. He can feed himself.

I think people are being too rough on OP. I agree that DH is an adult, but a diet like OP is describing will catch up to him eventually. Once he's out of uniform, he's very likely going to balloon in weight and he'll start to develop cardiovascular disease. Who will have to deal with the fallout of this? Who will have take care of him after a heart attack or stroke? His poor diet WILL impact her life and her child's life.

Then if SHE wants him to eat better, she should make food that tastes GOOD. She is refusing to meet him half way. He is totally fine going on as is, she's the one with the issue.

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that’s perfectly fine

Then, give your husband this grace. He doesn't have to follow your rules. He can eat what he wants. You aren't the boss of him. And the flip-side if, you are not responsible for him or his decisions. Stop being a control freak. He can feed himself.

I think people are being too rough on OP. I agree that DH is an adult, but a diet like OP is describing will catch up to him eventually. Once he's out of uniform, he's very likely going to balloon in weight and he'll start to develop cardiovascular disease. Who will have to deal with the fallout of this? Who will have take care of him after a heart attack or stroke? His poor diet WILL impact her life and her child's life.

She is not her husband's keeper. He is not a child. She is disgusted by what he eats and says it all. I bet you he is disgusted by what she eats.

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Anonymous wrote:"I’m not a good cook but I’d rather eat something that is healthy for sustenance than something that is delicious but unhealthy."

Well that's your problem. You aren't a good cook, and would rather eat something that tastes like garbage than delicious. No wonder no one likes your food!

I think it would be unreasonable to expect someone to eat food that they a) hate and b) is acknowledged that isn't very tasty. If my DH was a terrible cook and insisted on making things I didn't like, I'd probably opt out as well. There is a huge amount of compromise available here. Can you guys pick out recipes and cook together? I like pps ideas of making similar things at home, like chipotle bowls or thai food. Maybe he can help make the meal plan. It doesn't sound like you're working, so it's falling on you, but there is no point in buying all this expensive protein and veggies if no one eats it, it goes to waste, and he ends up getting take out anyways.

The obvious solution here is to learn how to cook. Healthy food should taste delicious too.

I wouldn’t want to eat bland food “for sustenance” either. I cook very healthy but also with a lot of flavor, so everyone eats it happily. It isn’t hard.

She should definitely learn to cook but if his taste buds are acclimated to fast food he's not going to love what she makes. Of course that's his problem.
I made a great dinner last night of minestrone, homemade garlic bread and vegetable baked ziti and my husband says "This is good but I'd really like if this had sausage." Meh

Why can't the person with the problem learn how to cook?

Well OP is the one with the problem apparently, as she is dissatisfied with the way her husband eats. He isn’t on here complaining. He has solved his problem with her cooking by eating elsewhere.

op Just cook for you and your kid. Let your dh eat what he wants. And ignore all the meanines on here

OPs kid also doesnt want to eat her food

.

But she can at least focus on making healthy meals that the kid will eat since the husband won’t touch anything healthy

Did you even read the OP?

"I try to cook healthy foods for him ... but it gets rejected most of the time which is extremely frustrating"

Literally no one likes OPs food. OP doesnt even like it. She says straight up she'd rather have something "for sustenance" than delicious. She doesn't even bother to try and make it taste good.

OP here. You’re putting words in my mouth now. I admitted I’m not a good cook and need to work on my skills which is the most obvious solution to the problem at hand. I do like my food sometimes. Sometimes my food doesn’t come out right, which I’m sure happens with everyone, but I’ll still eat it for sustenance because I use high quality ingredients. I’d rather eat that than go get a pizza because my chicken came out dry, that’s what I meant.

Sometimes I think my food comes out good, but my husband still won’t eat it. And my 2 year old just doesn’t like much except chicken tendies which is probably not unusual. I’d like to become a better cook for my toddler but i want to cook healthy foods for him, which unfortunately my husband will not eat.

And ffs, stop talking about "clean" food. No one wants to eat when someone is moralizing about the menu.

Sorry you get triggered by the word clean, but I am not typing organic, grass fed, no seed oils, low processed, paleo, etc in place of “clean” just because you get triggered by it. My diet doesn’t have to be 100% clean but when I cook food at home I prefer to use clean ingredients as often as possible especially when I have to feed a 2 year old. Let me emphasize - as often as possible but it doesn’t have to be all the time.

Eating a clean diet is something that’s important to me and some other people with similar lifestyle choices, and if it’s not important to you, that’s perfectly fine but we’re not on the same page so your opinion is probably not valuable to me so you can stay out of this one if you’re just going to talk shit.

The point is that "clean" food doesnt exist, and considering you eat chipotle multiple times a week, it doesnt sound like it even applies to you. You are just clinging to this aspirational word to try and validate why your cooking sucks. Lots of people cook grass fed and organic food that tastes good.

Nope, I clearly stated I don’t need to eat “clean” all the time but if I’m cooking I prefer to use clean ingredients. I don’t see why you have to get caught up on the word. I admitted my cooking does suck and I want to improve so I don’t know what’s the point of your comment. Cooking with clean ingredients can taste good and I need to get better at it. It’s the processed foods my husband will miss. I’m fine with him eating the processed stuff but obviously it’s not healthy to do it every meal. I’m not trying to control what he eats but I am concerned about him healthy and what he eats influences what our toddler eats.