Husband and toddler both won’t eat what I cook

[Anonymous]

Or maybe he thinks he’s hacking biology alternating that keto/intermittent fasting with cakes and cookies. He does believe that he can eat as much fatty meats as he wants as long as he is in ketosis. He doesn’t care about the source of the meat like whether it’s organic or grass fed and laden with salt but many people don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, his way of eating is very unhealthy and will likely lead to illnesses down the road they will affect your marriage and quality of life. I would not condone it. He can do it on his own time, but I wouldn’t willingly prepare unhealthy foods for those I love. Later in life, you’ll regret it. It’s like smoking, he can do it outside the house or in a private area, but not contaminate your air or toddlers air.
As far as toddler, if you stop all snacks and have toddler prepare healthy meals with you, your toddler will joyfully eat those healthy meals with you - and glow when they receive your praise and undivided attention.

Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, this really isn’t about food. You have a relationship problem.

[Anonymous]

I just wanted to recommend the cookbook salt, fat, heat, acid. I never learned how to cook and that book basically teaches you how. I also am a very healthy eater, but realized that by properly salting my food and using good oil, my food tasted SO much better and I didn’t compromise my health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You admit you're not a great cook. The types of food you're making sound like things a man like that would eat, if they had more flavor and felt heartier. You should watch some YouTube videos and read recipes and learn how to cook/season the food better. Those recipes should work with his keto diet too. Just make sure the food isn't all bland and boiled or cooked with zero butter or oil. You should also make more separate things... so make a veggie stir fry and you eat it with lean meat while he has a thick steak. Chicken, pork chops, and stews all sound fine, but maybe add mashed potatoes that you don't eat (make with cauliflower when he's on keto, with loads of butter and cream).

Wut

[Anonymous]

How fat is he? How much alcohol does he consume?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, this really isn’t about food. You have a relationship problem.

Not really. Her husband is eating food he enjoys compared to food he doesn't enjoy, like most people. I'm not anti-OP and I've given her advice upthread, but arguably her DH is the one that has a problem spouse, with his wife trying to exert control over what he, a grown ass adult, is eating. It's not like he's forcing her to cook certain food. If he doesn't like what she cooks, he gets his own food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, this really isn’t about food. You have a relationship problem.

Not really. Her husband is eating food he enjoys compared to food he doesn't enjoy, like most people. I'm not anti-OP and I've given her advice upthread, but arguably her DH is the one that has a problem spouse, with his wife trying to exert control over what he, a grown ass adult, is eating. It's not like he's forcing her to cook certain food. If he doesn't like what she cooks, he gets his own food.

Except that it isn’t that simple. Her DH is setting a terrible example for their child and harming his own health/longevity. Not to mention wasting money on all the junk food takeout. He’s a child.

[Anonymous]

The day your husband will fall ill, you won’t be cooking for him. It was his decision to eat crap while you prepared healthier meals.
Pls don’t let your precious kid to follow his dad’s piggy example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The day your husband will fall ill, you won’t be cooking for him. It was his decision to eat crap while you prepared healthier meals.
Pls don’t let your precious kid to follow his dad’s piggy example.

^ To continue my post; I agree with other posters who points at a relationship problem. He’s willingly making you feel unappreciated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP that you should look for copycat recipes for stuff he likes. You can lighten them up but don't be over the top about it (don't sub 1 tsp of oil where it calls for 1/2 cup).

And honestly, if you get along with MIL, it wouldn't hurt to learn some of the recipes he grew up eating.

NO. Let DH learn how to cook from his MIL or die from eating all that crap. I would focus on the kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Skip the lean meats. Fats are healthy, despite what big pharma says.

Growing kids need a lot of fat also for brain development. What they don't need excessive amounts of are carbs.

OP here. I eat a mix of lean and semi fatty meats like 85% fat ground beef. I sear the beef and drain the excess fat. I make chili with 85% fat turkey. I like rib eye steaks too but no more than 1-2x a week and I trim off the excess fat. I like buffalo wings too but not several times a week like my husband. I just don’t enjoy extremely fatty and charred foods like ribs on a regular basis.

I hope that you meant to write 15% fat ground beef & 15% fat turkey.

OP: My first suggestion--serious, not kidding--is to get your husband to purchase adequate life insurance with a disability waiver of premium rider to take care of his family if he dies or becomes disabled due to a stroke or heart attack.

Second, to the poster who wrote that eating steak twice a week will lead to a heart attack: You are wrong--especially if the steak eater engages in regular exercise.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should go through the trouble of looking up recipes for him. Get him more involved with the cooking. Have him pick out a recipe, and the both of you cook it together. You could modify your portion to be lighter and healthier, i.e. less sauce or oil added.

[Anonymous]

OP, please get past the juvenile influencer term "eat clean." It sounds so obnoxious and it means nothing.

Maybe it's your language about food that is annoying your DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The day your husband will fall ill, you won’t be cooking for him. It was his decision to eat crap while you prepared healthier meals.
Pls don’t let your precious kid to follow his dad’s piggy example.

This is going to be essentially impossible if dad continues to do his own thing.