Why do married men fall for younger women?

[Anonymous]

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I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

No, sorry, that is BS. Total and complete BS. Thou shalt not commit adultery applies equally to all - affair partners as well as the married person stepping out on a marriage.

If single women didn't let married/committed men between their legs, or if married women didn't let a penis attached to anybody who isn't her husband between her legs, adulterous affairs just wouldn't happen.

Women are the gatekeepers of consensual sex and personally as a woman I have always felt obligated to support and uplift other women's relationships, and not to be the kind of woman who gives an allegedly committed man a place to stray into with his errant penis.

The not married person doesn't get a pass, they are also guilty of adultery. The point of the wedding banns beyond allowing impediments to marriage to come to light from within the community is also to advise the community of the commitment, so that members of the community can support and uplift that commitment. We live in much bigger communities now, but that is why people should do some research on who they're thinking about porking before they get to the porking - so they aren't participating in adultery and the devastation of a family.

You were raised right. You are a good person.

Thank you, although you are more than a little bit wrong on the first assertion.

I watched my mother be crushed by the repeated betrayals of my philandering alcoholic gambling ne'er do well 'father,' and then tried to understand when she unloaded on me in my preteen years about her own infidelities and why they didn't count because he cheated first. It was all SO icky, and it really undermined my trust in men and just people in general - my mother was one of those covert narcs who would flatter and simper to people's faces and trash them behind their backs to me, her little (captive) confidant - so I learned to never really trust anybody, not even friends.

Not exactly a right raising, but I did come out of it was a strong compulsion to cause as little pain to others in my life as possible.

I have not always succeeded, and have not always been a good person - but on the major moral questions I usually get it right. I did shoplift some candy and cosmetics in my prepubescent youth, and once when working as a bookkeeper I would occasionally pocket the small overage from the till at end of day and buy myself a nice meal with it - but I was underpaid and I felt it was a bit of Robin Hood.

[Anonymous]

I don't see what the big deal is. People change. **shrugs**

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the big deal is. People change. **shrugs**

You might think this is a healthy response, but it really isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

You just made the day of thousands of APs. They have carte blanch to keep doing what they are doing. His wife and kids meh who cares.

So are you just not understanding that the DH is the one who vowed to be loyal to a DW here? Blaming the AP makes no sense. Blame the one who made a vow and then broke it. Blame the one who had responsibilities to a family and failed to meet them. Ugh, you women who just want to direct rage toward the other woman are full of internalized misogyny.

I'm not saying it's fine to get involved with people who are married. I wouldn't do it. But blame? Nah -- that's on the DH. And potentially on the DW whose marriage isn't failing out of nowhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

You just made the day of thousands of APs. They have carte blanch to keep doing what they are doing. His wife and kids meh who cares.

So are you just not understanding that the DH is the one who vowed to be loyal to a DW here? Blaming the AP makes no sense. Blame the one who made a vow and then broke it. Blame the one who had responsibilities to a family and failed to meet them. Ugh, you women who just want to direct rage toward the other woman are full of internalized misogyny.

I'm not saying it's fine to get involved with people who are married. I wouldn't do it. But blame? Nah -- that's on the DH. And potentially on the DW whose marriage isn't failing out of nowhere.

Spoken like an AP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

I actually think this is one of the biggest pieces. It’s grasping at feeling relevant and vital as your body is slowing down

I'm a 50 something DH, not cheating or planning too. But I can see the appeal of younger women--some look hot!

I would think being with a younger woman would just remind me I'm getting older? When I play basketball with younger guys it reminds me how old I am. How does having a relationship with a younger woman make me feel younger?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

You just made the day of thousands of APs. They have carte blanch to keep doing what they are doing. His wife and kids meh who cares.

So are you just not understanding that the DH is the one who vowed to be loyal to a DW here? Blaming the AP makes no sense. Blame the one who made a vow and then broke it. Blame the one who had responsibilities to a family and failed to meet them. Ugh, you women who just want to direct rage toward the other woman are full of internalized misogyny.

I'm not saying it's fine to get involved with people who are married. I wouldn't do it. But blame? Nah -- that's on the DH. And potentially on the DW whose marriage isn't failing out of nowhere.

Do you think if an AP's parent were cheating on the other parent, they wouldn't blame the AP of their parent at all? Someone who knowingly pursues a married individual, is a terrible person and is blamed for being a terrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

No, sorry, that is BS. Total and complete BS. Thou shalt not commit adultery applies equally to all - affair partners as well as the married person stepping out on a marriage.

If single women didn't let married/committed men between their legs, or if married women didn't let a penis attached to anybody who isn't her husband between her legs, adulterous affairs just wouldn't happen.

Women are the gatekeepers of consensual sex and personally as a woman I have always felt obligated to support and uplift other women's relationships, and not to be the kind of woman who gives an allegedly committed man a place to stray into with his errant penis.

The not married person doesn't get a pass, they are also guilty of adultery. The point of the wedding banns beyond allowing impediments to marriage to come to light from within the community is also to advise the community of the commitment, so that members of the community can support and uplift that commitment. We live in much bigger communities now, but that is why people should do some research on who they're thinking about porking before they get to the porking - so they aren't participating in adultery and the devastation of a family.

I'm not living my life based on the patriarchal bs in the biblical Old Testament, thanks.

And your insinuation that men just absolutely cannot control themselves sexually, so it is up to other women to police the sex lives of married men ... well that is just ridiculous at best. More likely some kind of horrific internalized misogyny; but that isn't surprising given how your ethics are arising out commandments carved into stone tablets in the ancient world.

Oh, and you know no one has read the "banns" for hundreds of years, right?

Oh, and your use of the term "porking" tells us everything we know about how sophisticated you may or may not be regarding human sexuality. So, I guess your lack of understanding shouldn't be surprising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what the big deal is. People change. **shrugs**

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

You just made the day of thousands of APs. They have carte blanch to keep doing what they are doing. His wife and kids meh who cares.

So are you just not understanding that the DH is the one who vowed to be loyal to a DW here? Blaming the AP makes no sense. Blame the one who made a vow and then broke it. Blame the one who had responsibilities to a family and failed to meet them. Ugh, you women who just want to direct rage toward the other woman are full of internalized misogyny.

I'm not saying it's fine to get involved with people who are married. I wouldn't do it. But blame? Nah -- that's on the DH. And potentially on the DW whose marriage isn't failing out of nowhere.

Spoken like an AP.

Well, I'm not one. I'm a wife of 21 years. I recognize that my DH has a responsibility to me and our marriage -- but no one outside of our marriage does. This tendency to blame the "other woman" is just internalized misogyny; so many women out there ignoring the fault of the DH and blaming the AP. It's downright stupid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Female dating coaches have begun telling their female clients to hang out at Home Depot to meet men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Female dating coaches have begun telling their female clients to hang out at Home Depot to meet men.

Well if that doesn't reek of desperation I don't know what does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

I actually think this is one of the biggest pieces. It’s grasping at feeling relevant and vital as your body is slowing down

That's not what the guy is grasping at

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

I actually think this is one of the biggest pieces. It’s grasping at feeling relevant and vital as your body is slowing down

I'm a 50 something DH, not cheating or planning too. But I can see the appeal of younger women--some look hot!

I would think being with a younger woman would just remind me I'm getting older? When I play basketball with younger guys it reminds me how old I am. How does having a relationship with a younger woman make me feel younger?

It makes you feel a younger person.

[Anonymous]

I don't owe my wife a relationship anymore than she owes me sex. When one goes so does the other. Bring in the young women with energy for both at the same time.