Why do married men fall for younger women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

You do realize that the question in this thread is why married men would fall for younger women, not why a younger woman be interested in a much older man—right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

So much has changed in the last few years for the worse

[Anonymous]

^decades

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

Everything you say is true, yet it remains a breeze for me (45yo divorced dad making 225k in DC) to date and sleep with attractive women in their 20s. That may have been impossible before dating apps, but now it’s not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

Everything you say is true, yet it remains a breeze for me (45yo divorced dad making 225k in DC) to date and sleep with attractive women in their 20s. That may have been impossible before dating apps, but now it’s not.

Not really impossible. Teenage love isn't superficial like that but women in their 20s want to be a sugar baby to afford surgery to fix their face and body.

[Anonymous]

Different poster here. I’m happily married and not interested in sleeping around on my wife so I don’t really have a horse in the race.

I think that people are attracted to attractive people (duh). And, SOME young women like older guys. If they’re reasonably attractive then at the very least they’ll sleep with them. Relationships are a bit more of a stretch.

It goes both ways too. My wife is pretty damn fit and attractive for being 51. If she were single I can guarantee you guys in their 20’s and 30’s would be interested in sleeping with her. And she’s not even in that post divorce, revenge body, dressed up beast mode yet. Once she is - look out! Lol

As far as what guys might find attractive about younger women? I’d say it’s their raging hormones. Daily sex (at least) is just the standard expectation with them. Their interest in having fun and looking attractive. A perma scowl hasn’t been burned into their face by living with a guy like me for 20+ years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

Everything you say is true, yet it remains a breeze for me (45yo divorced dad making 225k in DC) to date and sleep with attractive women in their 20s. That may have been impossible before dating apps, but now it’s not.

Casually dating, sure. But actual relationships is where it starts to fall apart. If you are 45, you have less than a one percent chance of being in a relationship with 25-year-old or younger woman. And only a 2% chance of women younger than about 33. these are just facts, you can google them yourself. There is much more of a range of age differences in homosexual couples, but for heterosexual couples, 95% of People end up in a relationship within a seven year age difference.

But as for casually dating, the same goes for women as well. Women in their 40s on the apps tend to have no trouble dating younger men if that’s what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

Everything you say is true, yet it remains a breeze for me (45yo divorced dad making 225k in DC) to date and sleep with attractive women in their 20s. That may have been impossible before dating apps, but now it’s not.

Casually dating, sure. But actual relationships is where it starts to fall apart. If you are 45, you have less than a one percent chance of being in a relationship with 25-year-old or younger woman. And only a 2% chance of women younger than about 33. these are just facts, you can google them yourself. There is much more of a range of age differences in homosexual couples, but for heterosexual couples, 95% of People end up in a relationship within a seven year age difference.

But as for casually dating, the same goes for women as well. Women in their 40s on the apps tend to have no trouble dating younger men if that’s what they want.

I think he is a smart 45 years old divorced man though and he knows not be romantically involved with any fertile woman regardless of age. I seriously doubt he wants to marry a 25 years old that's just financial, emotional and physical suicide

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

Everything you say is true, yet it remains a breeze for me (45yo divorced dad making 225k in DC) to date and sleep with attractive women in their 20s. That may have been impossible before dating apps, but now it’s not.

Casually dating, sure. But actual relationships is where it starts to fall apart. If you are 45, you have less than a one percent chance of being in a relationship with 25-year-old or younger woman. And only a 2% chance of women younger than about 33. these are just facts, you can google them yourself. There is much more of a range of age differences in homosexual couples, but for heterosexual couples, 95% of People end up in a relationship within a seven year age difference.

But as for casually dating, the same goes for women as well. Women in their 40s on the apps tend to have no trouble dating younger men if that’s what they want.

I think he is a smart 45 years old divorced man though and he knows not be romantically involved with any fertile woman regardless of age. I seriously doubt he wants to marry a 25 years old that's just financial, emotional and physical suicide

He’s a hurt, untreated divorcee with narcissistic tendencies. Anyone halfway to healthy can spot it and he is on every thread bashing women. There’s probably 3-4 of them on this board and they are prolific. I can recognize each of their styles.

Secure women have no time or interest to respond so mostly we scroll past. It’s abominable though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Different poster here. I’m happily married and not interested in sleeping around on my wife so I don’t really have a horse in the race.

I think that people are attracted to attractive people (duh). And, SOME young women like older guys. If they’re reasonably attractive then at the very least they’ll sleep with them. Relationships are a bit more of a stretch.

It goes both ways too. My wife is pretty damn fit and attractive for being 51. If she were single I can guarantee you guys in their 20’s and 30’s would be interested in sleeping with her. And she’s not even in that post divorce, revenge body, dressed up beast mode yet. Once she is - look out! Lol

As far as what guys might find attractive about younger women? I’d say it’s their raging hormones. Daily sex (at least) is just the standard expectation with them. Their interest in having fun and looking attractive. A perma scowl hasn’t been burned into their face by living with a guy like me for 20+ years.

This made me literally laugh out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much womansplaining going on here. If men say they want younger women because they find them more attractive, there's no point in theorizing and hypothesizing about the REAL reasons they want younger women. Why can't our explanations be taken at face value?

It’s not womanspaining. A lot of us are so sick of this delusion that still exist on this board that every hot woman in her 20s is pining for the divorced 45-year-old dad who makes $200,000 a year.

Biology favors youth and both men and women are motivated by it. The delusion that men are attracted to young female bodies, but then young women want dudes in their 50s and 60s… It’s laughable, but it comes up on every thread and yes, people push back. It’s just so stupid.

Men used to have more power over women because they held almost all of the economic power. Women needed a man to take care of them. It was only in the 70s that women could even get a credit card themselves without a husband or father! So much has changed in the last few decades, women have a lot more economic power - yet many men refused to accept this and it’s just sad.

Everything you say is true, yet it remains a breeze for me (45yo divorced dad making 225k in DC) to date and sleep with attractive women in their 20s. That may have been impossible before dating apps, but now it’s not.

Casually dating, sure. But actual relationships is where it starts to fall apart. If you are 45, you have less than a one percent chance of being in a relationship with 25-year-old or younger woman. And only a 2% chance of women younger than about 33. these are just facts, you can google them yourself. There is much more of a range of age differences in homosexual couples, but for heterosexual couples, 95% of People end up in a relationship within a seven year age difference.

But as for casually dating, the same goes for women as well. Women in their 40s on the apps tend to have no trouble dating younger men if that’s what they want.

I think he is a smart 45 years old divorced man though and he knows not be romantically involved with any fertile woman regardless of age. I seriously doubt he wants to marry a 25 years old that's just financial, emotional and physical suicide

He’s a hurt, untreated divorcee with narcissistic tendencies. Anyone halfway to healthy can spot it and he is on every thread bashing women. There’s probably 3-4 of them on this board and they are prolific. I can recognize each of their styles.

Secure women have no time or interest to respond so mostly we scroll past. It’s abominable though.

The first sentence is accurate (good call going with "tendencies" rather than saying narcissist. Has the rebuttal built it.) You're way off on the second and could not recognize my style on other topics or bashing women because I post rarely and don't jump in on gender war topics or bash women.

[Anonymous]

I do see men in their 40s dating women in their 20s and sometimes even marrying them. It's more common in some cultures than her.

However it's still rare for older men to be involved with younger women even if casually. And the reason for this is that they simply don't frequent the same spaces. And second most divorced men in their 40s such as myself are so busy and stressed dealing with teenagers (I am dealing with a 15 years old boy right now and it's rough let me tell you) on top financial pressures. I am not even hooking up let alone date. And the other thing is this, what would I talk about with a 25 years old woman as a 45 years old divorced man? The Kardashians lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different poster here. I’m happily married and not interested in sleeping around on my wife so I don’t really have a horse in the race.

I think that people are attracted to attractive people (duh). And, SOME young women like older guys. If they’re reasonably attractive then at the very least they’ll sleep with them. Relationships are a bit more of a stretch.

It goes both ways too. My wife is pretty damn fit and attractive for being 51. If she were single I can guarantee you guys in their 20’s and 30’s would be interested in sleeping with her. And she’s not even in that post divorce, revenge body, dressed up beast mode yet. Once she is - look out! Lol

As far as what guys might find attractive about younger women? I’d say it’s their raging hormones. Daily sex (at least) is just the standard expectation with them. Their interest in having fun and looking attractive. A perma scowl hasn’t been burned into their face by living with a guy like me for 20+ years.

This made me literally laugh out loud.

That line made me really appreciate that poster. A self aware guy is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Different poster here. I’m happily married and not interested in sleeping around on my wife so I don’t really have a horse in the race.

I think that people are attracted to attractive people (duh). And, SOME young women like older guys. If they’re reasonably attractive then at the very least they’ll sleep with them. Relationships are a bit more of a stretch.

It goes both ways too. My wife is pretty damn fit and attractive for being 51. If she were single I can guarantee you guys in their 20’s and 30’s would be interested in sleeping with her. And she’s not even in that post divorce, revenge body, dressed up beast mode yet. Once she is - look out! Lol

As far as what guys might find attractive about younger women? I’d say it’s their raging hormones. Daily sex (at least) is just the standard expectation with them. Their interest in having fun and looking attractive. A perma scowl hasn’t been burned into their face by living with a guy like me for 20+ years.

This made me literally laugh out loud.

That line made me really appreciate that poster. A self aware guy is awesome.

Thanks all!