Why do married men fall for younger women?

[Anonymous]

Their bodies are younger
They are free (er) from the shackels of life
They are new and interesting
They have traits or hobbies or interests that remind the man of himself when he was younger (adventurous or something similar)
It makes them feel younger
It makes them feel desired and wanted
Men's biological drive is towards reproduction which means a younger woman (even if they don't want more kids) they are going to be biological drawn to someone who is of an age that is still reproductive.

[Anonymous]

Idk my married prof was 26 and I was close to his age. He was on CNN all the time too. I wasn't interested but yes I was attracted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think men unfairly get alt of the blame. These women know they are married..they know that they have kids. In some cases they probably even saw the pictures of the wife and kids. Yet none of that stop them from hurting the wife and potentially destroying her decade plus marriage. Personally that's the part I want to understand. Why do women knowingly date married men? The lame ass excuse is oh he said he is going through divorce or he is separated give me a break. They don't believe that they just want to hear something to make them less guilty.

That's because women support other women. As weird as it may sound, the wife in this instance may actually believe that the other woman is also a victim. The other woman may be laughing at her, doing things with her husband and telling her husband I bet your wife can't do this and the wife will still blame her husband all the way.

Yes her husband is to be blamed no doubt about it. But women can certainly say No to married men who pursue them

There is a 32 years old woman in my office who jas been having an affair with a 47 years old man who works in a company near us. Another woman told me the story and said that the woman spends all time bashing the guys wife. It's just wild. She has never met this woman and yet lie to herself that whatever the guy is telling her about his wife is true. The lack of accountability from these "other women" is incredible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll post

It's not. He took it from an article about Congressman Mark Green.

My mistake. I read the title and didn't bother with the rest because it's such a trollish topic. I didn't realize what was going on until I googled just now and I see the wife is blaming "Satan" and "predators."

Why can't Republicans ever accept personal responsibility? I don't mean her necessarily at fault, I mean blame your HUSBAND.



https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13848431/republican-congressman-mark-green-affair-marriage-divorce.html

See, I see this as he was married to an Evangelical as he is one, too. But that religion-speak lifestyle surface BS can only cover up so much, right? It's such BS, and, yeah he wants out of this current relationship. So he did this. Satan didn't make him do it, lol, he just married a sanctimonious airhead and now he's ready for another one, since he is the same way. This isn't about men and younger women. This is about culture, religion, hypocrisy, and sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll post

It's not. He took it from an article about Congressman Mark Green.

My mistake. I read the title and didn't bother with the rest because it's such a trollish topic. I didn't realize what was going on until I googled just now and I see the wife is blaming "Satan" and "predators."

Why can't Republicans ever accept personal responsibility? I don't mean her necessarily at fault, I mean blame your HUSBAND.



https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13848431/republican-congressman-mark-green-affair-marriage-divorce.html

I am glad this article lumps in Trump/Loomer with this grossness but got a good lAugh out of it calling that plastic surgery disaster "glamorous"

[Anonymous]

My DH did the same to me and our kids. I would like to send a similar statement out to friends and family. What’s the best way? Email? Text? Post on Facebook? Will it hurt me in divorce proceedings at all. He too filed for divorce to go be with his mistress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

Look at the actor Ron Perlman.

He left his wife of 30 years for his MUCH younger co-star who is 20 something years younger than him.

It was SUCH a mess.

His poor wife almost had a nervous breakdown when he told her he was leaving her for another woman and divorcing her.

Their poor (barely) adult kids having to see their mother in such a fragile state, and at the hands of their father -- and there he was, making tons of embarrassing and shameful TikToks with his new girlfriend every day, flaunting their new relationship.

He and her were both SUPER insensitive and apathetic to what his wife was going through when he left, and even MORE so, what his children were having to manage, as their mom almost had to be committed due to them fearing she'd take her own life.

And they just kept flaunting out and packing on the PDA in all of their videos.

Those two are married now and I have no idea what happened to his wife and if she's in a better place... I sincerely hope she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH did the same to me and our kids. I would like to send a similar statement out to friends and family. What’s the best way? Email? Text? Post on Facebook? Will it hurt me in divorce proceedings at all. He too filed for divorce to go be with his mistress.

My dad left my mom at 68 to marry a 40 years old woman..As a married man myself I'll never do such a thing. I don't know why men do this. And I hope women aren't gullible enough to fall for old men claiming they love them. Love isn't enough to wreck families this way.

[Anonymous]

Both men and women initiate divorce around middle age. The difference:

1. Women are sick of caring for and dealing with men’s BS and they just want to be alone. The last thing they want is to play mommy to another man, whether he’s 20 or 50.

2. Men want a woman to take care of him, and women their own age see through that, so they have to find a younger, naive woman. If that means more kids, no problem - he barely cared for the first batch, he’ll do the same with these.

I’ve also noticed when people hit middle age and have the “oh shit I’m going to be dead soon” moment:

1. Women realize playing the role of good wife/mom isn’t fulfilling, and that happiness comes from within, so they shift to more self-care, hobbies, travel, alone time, work, friendships, etc.

2. Men typically already have those things (I have yet to meet a man who would feel guilty about spending a Saturday morning on his hobby), so they think they’ll be happy again if they can just find the RIGHT woman. The first one was all wrong, he won’t make that mistake again, this time he’ll find the right one.

Which never happens. There is no perfect woman. What they usually lack are good relationship skills. If they had just spent time learning that, they’d be fine.

I’ve seen this play out in a friend of mine. He’s on his third family. He bails once the kids get to be too much to handle and the wife is sick of his ineptitude. Finally, after the third time of the same cycle of finding the perfect woman only for her to get completely sick of his incompetence once they have a baby, he’s starting to get it. That it’s not the women, it’s him, and he would have been better off staying with his first wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH did the same to me and our kids. I would like to send a similar statement out to friends and family. What’s the best way? Email? Text? Post on Facebook? Will it hurt me in divorce proceedings at all. He too filed for divorce to go be with his mistress.

In my experience, friends and family won’t care. Affairs tend to fall into the “well we don’t know both sides of the story” category.

Be honest with people if they ask, and find 2-3 people you trust who you can vent to. Otherwise, look to the world like you are moving on with your fabulous life.

It RARELY works out with the AP and in all likelihood, if you look like you’ve moved on, he’ll come crawling back. At which point you can reject him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both men and women initiate divorce around middle age. The difference:

1. Women are sick of caring for and dealing with men’s BS and they just want to be alone. The last thing they want is to play mommy to another man, whether he’s 20 or 50.

2. Men want a woman to take care of him, and women their own age see through that, so they have to find a younger, naive woman. If that means more kids, no problem - he barely cared for the first batch, he’ll do the same with these.

I’ve also noticed when people hit middle age and have the “oh shit I’m going to be dead soon” moment:

1. Women realize playing the role of good wife/mom isn’t fulfilling, and that happiness comes from within, so they shift to more self-care, hobbies, travel, alone time, work, friendships, etc.

2. Men typically already have those things (I have yet to meet a man who would feel guilty about spending a Saturday morning on his hobby), so they think they’ll be happy again if they can just find the RIGHT woman. The first one was all wrong, he won’t make that mistake again, this time he’ll find the right one.

Which never happens. There is no perfect woman. What they usually lack are good relationship skills. If they had just spent time learning that, they’d be fine.

I’ve seen this play out in a friend of mine. He’s on his third family. He bails once the kids get to be too much to handle and the wife is sick of his ineptitude. Finally, after the third time of the same cycle of finding the perfect woman only for her to get completely sick of his incompetence once they have a baby, he’s starting to get it. That it’s not the women, it’s him, and he would have been better off staying with his first wife.

I hope you know your post is biased right lol. You are pretty much saying justifying women's divorce. If thats the case totally fine lol.

[Anonymous]

The wife in this situation is coming off desperate. Dude wants to divorce you doesn’t matter why, just let him go and stop begging for him to come back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both men and women initiate divorce around middle age. The difference:

1. Women are sick of caring for and dealing with men’s BS and they just want to be alone. The last thing they want is to play mommy to another man, whether he’s 20 or 50.

2. Men want a woman to take care of him, and women their own age see through that, so they have to find a younger, naive woman. If that means more kids, no problem - he barely cared for the first batch, he’ll do the same with these.

I’ve also noticed when people hit middle age and have the “oh shit I’m going to be dead soon” moment:

1. Women realize playing the role of good wife/mom isn’t fulfilling, and that happiness comes from within, so they shift to more self-care, hobbies, travel, alone time, work, friendships, etc.

2. Men typically already have those things (I have yet to meet a man who would feel guilty about spending a Saturday morning on his hobby), so they think they’ll be happy again if they can just find the RIGHT woman. The first one was all wrong, he won’t make that mistake again, this time he’ll find the right one.

Which never happens. There is no perfect woman. What they usually lack are good relationship skills. If they had just spent time learning that, they’d be fine.

I’ve seen this play out in a friend of mine. He’s on his third family. He bails once the kids get to be too much to handle and the wife is sick of his ineptitude. Finally, after the third time of the same cycle of finding the perfect woman only for her to get completely sick of his incompetence once they have a baby, he’s starting to get it. That it’s not the women, it’s him, and he would have been better off staying with his first wife.

I hope you know your post is biased right lol. You are pretty much saying justifying women's divorce. If thats the case totally fine lol.

No, that’s not what I’m saying at all. I actually regret getting divorced myself.

Many women would be better off if they learned how to prioritize themselves and draw boundaries. My own marriage probably would have worked out if I could have said “no, I will not handle all the school pickups and dropoffs because I have work, too” or “yes, I am going out with friends this weekend and you will have to watch the kids”.

We got bogged down in the marriage counseling cycle where we spent all this time talking about feelings, when what I really needed was for things to be split 50/50 so I could take care of myself. Divorce seemed like the only way to do that.

Most divorce could be prevented if we got rid of this cultural idea that marriage and kids is THE thing that will completely fulfill you. Because it’s not. People need to be their own person first, and marriage/kids is a smaller component of life. Not life itself.

[Anonymous]

Mine didn’t. Found a no-strings married same age.

[Anonymous]

I didn't do it while married, but post divorce I have found that women in their 20s are much, much less messed up than women in their 40s and 50s.

If a woman is single in her 40s or 50s, there are usually several damn good reasons for it.