Why do married men fall for younger women?

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

This. 100% it’s about this. These men are stunted. They cause a lot of problems out in the world beyond just to their immediate family. Elon Musk is such a prime example of this type of narcissist.

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I was reading an article about a married man who is divorcing his wife after 31 years marriage.

These are 2 quotes from his wife that struck my attention.

"I would like to ask for prayer for my family. Mark has filed for a divorce after having an affair with a 32 year old woman,”

"He fell head over heels in love with her to the extent he wanted to marry her and start a new family. He has become a different man than I have known for our 35 year marriage. He is living life greatly deceived.”

I feel for this woman. She described the AP as a "32 years old woman" you can clearly feel the pain there.

Why do men fall for younger women like this? It's rare for a married woman to fall down a 32 years old man after 35 years of marriage.

And second what do married women think about these women? How much blame should they deserve?

I have neither the time nor inclination to read all of the comments on this thread.

But, I’ll say that I’m not sure I understand why you need to ask why married men fall for younger women. I think it’s pretty obvious. First, they have young attractive bodies. That should be very obvious. They are pretty much all of them more attractive than wives who have been married for over 30 years. Second, they are not yet sick of that particular man. They look up to him, make him feel like a man again. I think most affairs are more about the attention and the respect than they are about the sex. And that is why you see men actually leaving their wives and starting a second family. They see a whole new life with a woman who isn’t sick of them, tired of them, judging them. or asking them to clean the gutters. Or whatever. These younger women put up with a lot that older women won’t tolerate. It’s kind of pathetic, but that is a good part of what is going on.

As far as blame, why would the affair partners get any blame? These younger women didn’t swear to be faithful to these ex-wives. No blame. The blame is purely on the ex-husband. Well, perhaps some goes on the ex-wife as well. Divorce is always some thing that has happened because of two people, not because of one. No marriage has one person in it.

You just made the day of thousands of APs. They have carte blanch to keep doing what they are doing. His wife and kids meh who cares.

So are you just not understanding that the DH is the one who vowed to be loyal to a DW here? Blaming the AP makes no sense. Blame the one who made a vow and then broke it. Blame the one who had responsibilities to a family and failed to meet them. Ugh, you women who just want to direct rage toward the other woman are full of internalized misogyny.

I'm not saying it's fine to get involved with people who are married. I wouldn't do it. But blame? Nah -- that's on the DH. And potentially on the DW whose marriage isn't failing out of nowhere.

Spoken like an AP.

Well, I'm not one. I'm a wife of 21 years. I recognize that my DH has a responsibility to me and our marriage -- but no one outside of our marriage does. This tendency to blame the "other woman" is just internalized misogyny; so many women out there ignoring the fault of the DH and blaming the AP. It's downright stupid.

Sure, Jan.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

This. 100% it’s about this. These men are stunted. They cause a lot of problems out in the world beyond just to their immediate family. Elon Musk is such a prime example of this type of narcissist.

Hey I'd take on the challenge of being a narcissist and having fat women on the internet mad at me if I could be a billionaire, own two hugely important companies, and have sex with whomever I want. Except you.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Hollywood does it because it was always ugly gargoyles like Harvey Weinstein who were always in charge. Stop it.

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Correction: I meant warthogs, not gargoyles

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Married men have the longest life expectancy in the world. Followed by single women, then single men, then married women.

I wonder why

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Yeah, you're 50, not 20, not 30. You're looking at these men through 50yo eyes. Unless a 40-50yo man has $ and a good job, explain the point in a 20/30yo woman being interested in him? If he can't provide for the 20-30yo, there's no point in that woman wasting her youth on the over 40yo guy.

Yes, yes, I'm sure all of the 40-50yo dads you encounter could be mistaken for Henry Cavill.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Yeah, you're 50, not 20, not 30. You're looking at these men through 50yo eyes. Unless a 40-50yo man has $ and a good job, explain the point in a 20/30yo woman being interested in him? If he can't provide for the 20-30yo, there's no point in that woman wasting her youth on the over 40yo guy.

Yes, yes, I'm sure all of the 40-50yo dads you encounter could be mistaken for Henry Cavill.

You should be right, but I'm living proof that in Washington, DC on the dating apps in 2024, it is very easy for a mid-40s man with a good job (not a millionaire) to regularity date ands sleep with 22-27yo women.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Yeah, you're 50, not 20, not 30. You're looking at these men through 50yo eyes. Unless a 40-50yo man has $ and a good job, explain the point in a 20/30yo woman being interested in him? If he can't provide for the 20-30yo, there's no point in that woman wasting her youth on the over 40yo guy.

Yes, yes, I'm sure all of the 40-50yo dads you encounter could be mistaken for Henry Cavill.

You should be right, but I'm living proof that in Washington, DC on the dating apps in 2024, it is very easy for a mid-40s man with a good job (not a millionaire) to regularity date ands sleep with 22-27yo women.

We're not talking about just sex. There's a difference. Any reasonably-attractive woman in her 40s could get a younger guy to sleep with. That isn't hard to do. We're talking about actually spending your life with them and that's where your *good job* is the only reason that woman in her 20s would want to be with you beyond just dating.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Yeah, you're 50, not 20, not 30. You're looking at these men through 50yo eyes. Unless a 40-50yo man has $ and a good job, explain the point in a 20/30yo woman being interested in him? If he can't provide for the 20-30yo, there's no point in that woman wasting her youth on the over 40yo guy.

Yes, yes, I'm sure all of the 40-50yo dads you encounter could be mistaken for Henry Cavill.

You should be right, but I'm living proof that in Washington, DC on the dating apps in 2024, it is very easy for a mid-40s man with a good job (not a millionaire) to regularity date ands sleep with 22-27yo women.

I forgot to mention that I'm the one who earlier stated that I found it odd that Green said he was leaving Congress and then two weeks later changed his mind.

A younger woman or man to have sex with when you're over 40, is not hard to find, so you can leave that aside. You need to have something going on long term for them to want to stay. That sidepiece of Green's wasn't going to build a life with him if he no longer had any "juice" (ie., his political prowess). No 30-something is with a 60yo man for his body, so just accept that fact. You can put down older women all you want, but no older man with nothing going on job-wise/money-wise, is getting a younger woman to stay for the long term.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them delay admitting to themselves that they are going to die someday.

It's a hell of a lot simpler than that, sweetheart.

Older women always play the mortality card because they themsleves cant deal with the fact that they have spoiled.

Older women don't "spoil", they mature. Think wine, scotch... You have to refine your palate to appreciate these things.

If you're still in your wine cooler phase, well, that's your loss.

Men age like wine. Women age like milk. I understand why that bothers you, I do.

My post will probably get deleted, but most white males do not age like fine wine, they age like milk. Just keep your wallet full or keep your political power and you’ll be fine. I hardly think Green’s side piece was attracted to his body. You think she’d be with him if he were working at Home Depot?

Look, Hollywood picks older males and younger women for a reason. Mother nature has an expiration date for all women. It's just a fact. Don't be a hater.

My son just graduated HS in June and we must have gone to two dozen grad parties. Without question, every single one of the dads looked objectively better than the moms. Same with college drop off . The moms at drop off looked haggard af from carrying bags up a flight of steps! I'm 50, btw.

Married men have the longest life expectancy in the world. Followed by single women, then single men, then married women.

I wonder why

This is untrue. Educated single women never married no children have longer life expectancy than married women and married and single men.

I’ve done the research repeatedly for 20 years now. If you’ve found some other contrary source, please cite to it.

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Just out of curiosity: Do people sh*tting on women over 40, think a well-off woman over 40, couldn't get a 20 or 30-something guy for the same reason an old guy gets a younger woman? Like if an established woman were as insecure and in denial as older men as to why a much younger man would ever be into her, you think that arrangement couldn't happen?

Most women simply don't pursue that arrangement, but it is absolutely possible if the financial means were there as it is with men. Do you seriously think someone as heinous as Harvey Weinstein got his wife for his charm and good looks? So why would it be different with a woman of means, unless the guy was looking to have kids to really make sure he financially benefits.

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No 20 something man sees a woman in her 40s as long term relationship material. Banging a milf sure why not.