The social continuation of High School

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My DC who has a good group friends in HS was ready to move on and experience new things sans his high school buddies.

Yes. My son could have gone to UMD and he actually likes UMD but he didn’t want to feel like he is still at his HS.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe this is a thread, yet again. This subject has been discussed to death. Most of the state schools in VA are large enough that you are never going to see anyone from HS unless you make a point to do so. My DC goes to VT and says she never, ever sees anyone from her high school. Her college friends are from all over VA and states across the country.

In short, this is a nonissue.

It is a nonissue. My kids went to UVA, W&M and GMU and never saw friends from high school. Because we banked the difference between in-state VA and private, we are now able to pay for grad school. THAT's what is important - not silly moms musing here about something the are ignorant on

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My DC who has a good group friends in HS was ready to move on and experience new things sans his high school buddies.

Yes. My son could have gone to UMD and he actually likes UMD but he didn’t want to feel like he is still at his HS.

He could choose to make new friends. He is not forced to hang out with kids from his HS.

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Anonymous wrote:My DC wanted to go to school out of state and in a completely different area than they grew up. Having lived on the East and West coasts, I completely supported their preference. College can be a a time to reinvent yourself which can be difficult if you attend school with others you went to school with or friends of those who know you.

Out of state schools don’t have to be more expensive than in-state schools. Look at Purdue, the Cal States, McGill, etc

? As someone who went to a cal state, I would never pay that much for my kid to go there from oos even if they are dying to get out of this area. They can do it on their own dime once they get a job.

Out of state tuition for some of the CSUs are bordering $20K to $30K just for tuition. Add to it the col (housing, airfare to and from, and everything else), the oos cost is going to be like $50K per year for a CSU degree. That is the dumbest thing ever.

Purdue is one of the cheaper oos colleges, but it's still more expensive than in state.

How many years ago was this? The only Cal State with OOS tuition near $30K is Cal Poly SLO and it beats UVA for engineering with in-state tuition of $20K. The remaining Cal States are around $20k or cheaper in tuition. San Diego State is a great option if a kid wants sunny, gorgeous campus, rah rah and a great education.

PP here.. It doesn't matter how long ago it was. What matters is now, and right now, the col in CA is ridiculous (it's part of why we moved from CA). That difference of $10K can easily be eaten up by flights (a few times per year) and the high cost of living, and not just housing cost. Gas prices in CA are *insane* I still have family in CA and visit often. We were floored by the gas and food prices there. I love CA (lived there my whole life), but I would only live there if I had a ton of money.

My DC wants to go to CA, but we discussed the cost/benefit, and it's not worth it for CSU schools (they are not a eng/CS major).

Also, SLO is a regional school and has a great reputation regionally. I'm not a rah rah UVA fan (never even thought about the existence of it before I moved here), but cost/benefit wise, UVA eng would beat SLO if you live in VA.

Obviously, if money is not a factor, then none of this matters. But, for most people, cost is definitely a factor.

This is like spending $80K on an expensive car just because you want and too many people drive the $40K, but the $40K is more value for money and a really good car that is more reliable than that $80K car.

Yeah. But we were always into education, not cars. Drive those Hondas into the ground. Invested in real estate and education. Those were our priorities---not fancy brands or German cars or Teslas.

In state education around here is great. Picking a lesser school oos just to "spread their wings" is like buying a Range Rover because you want something different, even though the ROI on that car sucks. It's an emotional purchase, not an logical purchase.