Would you date a man who orders takeout every night, for the week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. He maybe be a fine friend and good person, but this is not someone I would seek partnership with. This habit demonstrates that we are misaligned when it comes to budget/frugality, domestic skill development, and health.

What if he makes a high 6 or 7-figures, so he actually spends less as a percentage of his income on food than others you date, and the food he orders is healthy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I ate a lot of takeout and repeated meals when I was single. Subway or a lean cuisine for lunch every day, takeout from the same couple of places every night. I shared a small apartment and tiny kitchen with a couple of roommates and it was such a hassle. It wasn’t that I only wanted to eat those same things all the time, I was just lazy and it was easy to stick to a routine, cooking for one person seemed like a waste of time. Then I met my now-DH, who lived alone with a big kitchen, and he loved to cook. I learned how to cook myself, and now I make dinner almost every night for our family (3 kids).

I wouldn’t be phased by the take out, as long as he was willing to expand his horizons and was willing to eventually learn to cook at least occasionally!

Same! Cooking I was such a different experience after I got married.

I would just want to be sure that my partner was financially savvy and didn’t expect to keep doing that after he had kids, if I was dating for the purpose of getting married for the first time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. He maybe be a fine friend and good person, but this is not someone I would seek partnership with. This habit demonstrates that we are misaligned when it comes to budget/frugality, domestic skill development, and health.

What if he makes a high 6 or 7-figures, so he actually spends less as a percentage of his income on food than others you date, and the food he orders is healthy?

It doesn’t matter. The inability or unwillingness to do a simple task for themselves such as preparing a meal for one would be a deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

If you are single, you don't spend alot of time cooking unless you are watching your wallet.

[Anonymous]

If he can afford it, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. DH did cereal for bfast and got takeout or ate in restaurants every day as a law associate.

[Anonymous]

Too rigid, too unconcerned with his own health, bad with money. Nope. What if on Tuesday I want to go out? What if on Saturday I want to cook and host friends and not serve sushi?

[Anonymous]

No. To me that screams "man who can't take care of himself."

Doesn't need to be a great chef or cook, but if he can't cook simple basic things for himself (and clean up after himself!) that's a red flag. Also, wasteful. Also, incredibly unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Sure. I was in management consulting and IBanking in NYC for the better part of a decade and basically every guy (and most women) are some version of this. I cook daily now but didn't for years. No one was as obese and poor as people here are describing lol. Unhealthy? Maybe, but the takeout was the least of anyone's concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH used to do this when he was in biglaw, before we lived together. He's actually a great cook. Now that he has a job fit for a human, he is in charge of the cooking in our house.

That's my way of saying that it depends.

Same. I was thinking OP must have a low pressure 9-5 job for even asking. Anyone in a stressful/ work long hours job has probably had at least some period of ordering out a lot. I would not judge someone who orders out a lot on that fact alone. I would need to know a lot more about the person.