Would you date a man who orders takeout every night, for the week?

[Anonymous]

I ate Chop’t salads for lunch and dinner M-F for almost a year. I was working 60-70 hours a week and I ordered once a day for 1pm delivery to my office. I didn’t do it to save on GrubHub fees but because I didn’t want to take the time to walk down to the lobby twice in one day. Somehow my husband still married me and we get takeout 1-2 times a month now.

[Anonymous]

BTDT and regretted it the whole time we were married. I was meal prepping before it was trendy because I worked 1.5 jobs and he couldn’t feed the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

1. I am not a fan of rigidity. If he orders the same thing on set days over and over again, I imagine he's rigid about other things in his life

This is a very good point.

I agree with this. And the people who say that ordering it all to be delivered the same day is icky, at least disperse the delivery days.

But no, not being able to cook is not a red flag in and of itself.

[Anonymous]

Not wanting to cook and not being able to cook are two very different things. I wouldn't judge him inadequate due to this routine.

[Anonymous]

I don't quite do that, but I do place a very large order at one restaurant once a week that lasts me about five meals. I have a tiny, poorly laid out kitchen, very little counter space, no dishwasher, and hate cooking. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Besides the waste of money, it is a huge salt/fat/carb/calorie bomb. This is terrible for your health. I don't care what you order, even if it is a salad, restaurant foods always have way more calories than food made at home.

[Anonymous]

I mean, if I liked him overll, of course-- it wuold be stupid to reject someone for this petty reason.

On the other hand, if it was a symptom of being a generally lazy and unable and wasteful person, no. Because I value competence.

But to conclude the first and second sentences above are the same is shallow

[Anonymous]

Ordering all at once is kind of weird, but I married someone who doesn't cook and would order nightly. It's fine. I love to cook so handle that and it's actually kind of nice to have someone who appreciates every meal and also doesn't care at all when I don't feel up to it, he handles the takeout.

[Anonymous]

Seems like a practical man. But maybe not the best decision on the regular. You'll be the meal planner-cook in a marriage w him. Good?

[Anonymous]

I would date him if,
He seems reasonably fit and healthy.
He is living within his means.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. Is he ugly?

[Anonymous]

This is not uncommon even amongst women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not wanting to cook and not being able to cook are two very different things. I wouldn't judge him inadequate due to this routine.

All functioning adults should be able to cook basic things. YouTube is your friend.

[Anonymous]

People come to relationships with all sorts of weird single-person habits. Love is learning to build a life, and a meal plan, together.

[Anonymous]

My DH used to do this when he was in biglaw, before we lived together. He's actually a great cook. Now that he has a job fit for a human, he is in charge of the cooking in our house.

That's my way of saying that it depends.