Screaming coaches

[Anonymous]

Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

DD has played ECNL for years. I have never seen this on her team. Players change; tactics change by game and in game. Parents talk to Tech Director all the time as he/she is at most games. Not sure where this is but I have not seen it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

Well, outside America, no parents think they have rights, privileges or entitlement to give input to coach or club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

Well, outside America, no parents think they have rights, privileges or entitlement to give input to coach or club.

I’ve always assumed this at any club so I’m always amazed at how regularly parents do this. It would be easy to just walk if one is not happy with a club. But I can also understand that there may not be a ton of options by a certain level and it would be a lot of work for parents to ensure that the kid develops still wherever they end up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

Well, outside America, no parents think they have rights, privileges or entitlement to give input to coach or club.

I’ve always assumed this at any club so I’m always amazed at how regularly parents do this. It would be easy to just walk if one is not happy with a club. But I can also understand that there may not be a ton of options by a certain level and it would be a lot of work for parents to ensure that the kid develops still wherever they end up.

So Larry the Accounts Receivable Manager who played soccer in Middle School thinks he has the soccer knowledge to give suggestions and instructions to a former Pro player who has been coaching and developing kids for 15 years?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

Well, outside America, no parents think they have rights, privileges or entitlement to give input to coach or club.

I’ve always assumed this at any club so I’m always amazed at how regularly parents do this. It would be easy to just walk if one is not happy with a club. But I can also understand that there may not be a ton of options by a certain level and it would be a lot of work for parents to ensure that the kid develops still wherever they end up.

So Larry the Accounts Receivable Manager who played soccer in Middle School thinks he has the soccer knowledge to give suggestions and instructions to a former Pro player who has been coaching and developing kids for 15 years?

Yes! That’s what’s amazing to me. Watching parents makes suggestions to coaches. We never said anything in part because we never played the sport although we do watch a lot of it.

FWIW, the parents on my kids team who did play d1 or pro or a coach themselves tend to stay far away at practices or games. They said it’s easier that way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most ecnl coaches that I have seen are quite stubborn. They rarely change tactics in game and play the same players for most of the game.
Parents walk on eggshells around the coaches as they control so much of your child’s soccer journey. Not surprisingly then, the coaches are generally unapproachable.

Youth soccer in the states is a joke to outsiders.

Well, outside America, no parents think they have rights, privileges or entitlement to give input to coach or club.

I’ve always assumed this at any club so I’m always amazed at how regularly parents do this. It would be easy to just walk if one is not happy with a club. But I can also understand that there may not be a ton of options by a certain level and it would be a lot of work for parents to ensure that the kid develops still wherever they end up.

So Larry the Accounts Receivable Manager who played soccer in Middle School thinks he has the soccer knowledge to give suggestions and instructions to a former Pro player who has been coaching and developing kids for 15 years?

Yes! That’s what’s amazing to me. Watching parents makes suggestions to coaches. We never said anything in part because we never played the sport although we do watch a lot of it.

FWIW, the parents on my kids team who did play d1 or pro or a coach themselves tend to stay far away at practices or games. They said it’s easier that way.

+1000 - I'd be lying if I said this is the way I've always done it, but by the HS years I;ve learned its the only way to be. Its not your journey and you have little to no control other than being the driver. So sit back, stay away from the crazies (you know who you are) and enjoy your children playing the beautiful game

[Anonymous]

The Virginia-Maryland- DC area is the epicenter of non athletic, wealthy parents who believe they know how to make a player. In any sport, not just soccer. They tell coaches the most amazing things and have serious blinders on for their own children.

I’ve been coaching in this area for over thirty years, not soccer. If I had a nickel for every lawyer, lobbyist, etc. who has told me that they could have played D1 sports but chose not to, I would be building a league bigger than ecnl and conning ever more parents out of their cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Virginia-Maryland- DC area is the epicenter of non athletic, wealthy parents who believe they know how to make a player. In any sport, not just soccer. They tell coaches the most amazing things and have serious blinders on for their own children.

I’ve been coaching in this area for over thirty years, not soccer. If I had a nickel for every lawyer, lobbyist, etc. who has told me that they could have played D1 sports but chose not to, I would be building a league bigger than ecnl and conning ever more parents out of their cash.

False sense of privilege and entitlement.

Think because you're the boss at work, you can be the boss of your kid's team and coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Virginia-Maryland- DC area is the epicenter of non athletic, wealthy parents who believe they know how to make a player. In any sport, not just soccer. They tell coaches the most amazing things and have serious blinders on for their own children.

I’ve been coaching in this area for over thirty years, not soccer. If I had a nickel for every lawyer, lobbyist, etc. who has told me that they could have played D1 sports but chose not to, I would be building a league bigger than ecnl and conning ever more parents out of their cash.

The Philly suburbs and NJ would like a word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Virginia-Maryland- DC area is the epicenter of non athletic, wealthy parents who believe they know how to make a player. In any sport, not just soccer. They tell coaches the most amazing things and have serious blinders on for their own children.

I’ve been coaching in this area for over thirty years, not soccer. If I had a nickel for every lawyer, lobbyist, etc. who has told me that they could have played D1 sports but chose not to, I would be building a league bigger than ecnl and conning ever more parents out of their cash.

The Philly suburbs and NJ would like a word.

[Anonymous]

Way more former athletes in Philly and NJ. Plenty of cosplayers too, don't get me wrong.

But DC is nerd central.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Virginia-Maryland- DC area is the epicenter of non athletic, wealthy parents who believe they know how to make a player. In any sport, not just soccer. They tell coaches the most amazing things and have serious blinders on for their own children.

I’ve been coaching in this area for over thirty years, not soccer. If I had a nickel for every lawyer, lobbyist, etc. who has told me that they could have played D1 sports but chose not to, I would be building a league bigger than ecnl and conning ever more parents out of their cash.

which is why we get smoked in cali and down south if we make it past the north. Iv seen the most unathletic 9 keep her spot for two years due to parents crying to the coach. Losings seasons… insert new coach …..exit 9 to wherever she fits.

This area lacks a winning mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Virginia-Maryland- DC area is the epicenter of non athletic, wealthy parents who believe they know how to make a player. In any sport, not just soccer. They tell coaches the most amazing things and have serious blinders on for their own children.

I’ve been coaching in this area for over thirty years, not soccer. If I had a nickel for every lawyer, lobbyist, etc. who has told me that they could have played D1 sports but chose not to, I would be building a league bigger than ecnl and conning ever more parents out of their cash.

which is why we get smoked in cali and down south if we make it past the north. Iv seen the most unathletic 9 keep her spot for two years due to parents crying to the coach. Losings seasons… insert new coach …..exit 9 to wherever she fits.

This area lacks a winning mentality.

Basically, you're upset because you think your DD should be the Striker?
I think that's for another thread

[Anonymous]

I'm glad everyone here admits that they have never yelled at their kids. Trying having 20 of them at a time.