What would you have done? NYE and random young stranger

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I’m not worried about if she was okay or not, actually- that’s the weird part. She did reek of alcohol but didn’t seem drunk and she had a phone and a wallet and was dressed in a regular casual NYE outfit m. Her story was so weird, though. She was telling my DH that she was en route from X neighborhood but getting an Uber in our neighborhood Y because a friend told her to wait on our street to get one (we are not a good place to get a ride) to go to z neighborhood…

…If it were a legit emergency and she was in danger of something worse than wetting herself, she could have told us through the door, dialed 911, or gone to any of the 7 other houses on the block that are also lit up but are level with the sidewalk or any of the open restaurants 1 block away. We’re 15 steps up from the street which makes it extra weird.

This is your daytime thinking brain finally filling in the blanks that your spidey sense instantly recognized and said “Oh hell no” to last night.

1. No right-thinking woman asks to enter a strange house. Especially late at night. Especially if you’re planning to take down your pants.

2. Especially if there are accessible public bathrooms in stores/restaurants a block away. (For customers only? Then she can use the wallet she’s holding to buy a soda.)

3. This was the classic “too many details” set up. She spun the rambling Uber yarn to confuse/distract you, get you to lower your guard, and think of yourself and your neighborhood as a welcoming place. Hey, if she has a friend who’s your neighbor who says this is the place to go, you feel obligated to prove that true.

4. Because if she doesn’t live nearby and was actually just waiting for her Uber, why didn’t she stay at the house/restaurant/party (presumably with working plumbing) and order her Uber from there, like a normal person? Again, what right-thinking woman thinks, “This dinner was great, and I’m ready to go to my next stop of the night. So the best thing to do is walk out the door and down some random, dark residential side street to wait all alone for my ride in strange surroundings, away from all my friends.”

5. She chose your house BECAUSE of the 15 steps up, which conveniently block your line of sight into your yard. I can guarantee she had accomplices hidden beside your front stoop.

You avoided a potentially very unpleasant situation, and your husband is an idiot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in the DC area, but just saw this was posted last night on Nextdoor:

“A young girl rang my door bell at 9:45pm tonight. She asked to use my phone. I asked why. She said she ran away from home. I asked why. She did not reply. I closed the door and returned with my phone asking her for her mom’s number. She said , “ I don’t think that’s a good idea”. She stood there nervous. I told her that I could not help her then. I would not give her my phone. At the same time, there was a mini van outside. When I called the police, they said it sounded like a set up for a home invasion. Be alert. Please. Call the police whenever you suspect something.”

And it was posted on Next Door last month, and the month before, and the month before… all across the country. It’s fake

Oh, was not aware. But why would people post if fake? What would they gain? I don’t pay much attention to Nextdoor because most of what I see on there is crazy and it’s obvious when people are scamming, but the conversation that followed this particular post seemed legit.

The same reason people post the story of someone cutting a kids hair in the mall bathroom, or stuff on car door handles, etc.

Maybe. I don’t know, I guess I’ve seen and heard enough legit, confirmed stories that are not too different from that one. I just don’t trust anyone coming to my door unexpectedly anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was she a minority

She was a white girl who looked like a generic version of every babysitter we’ve ever had. I’m white, but DH is not white. Part of me thinks that makes it worse, like he’s been cultured to trust basic-appearing white girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing. Your husband is dense lol!

I would have done the exact same thing OP. 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

I’ve got a teen daughter (👶 and am from the Midwest) and I not let her in. I would tell her she’s welcome to pee in my shrubs, I could call her a cab while she waited outside, etc, but having to pee isn’t an emergency, too risky to let her in.

[Anonymous]

No way would we open the door. We would invite her to sit on our front porch with the light on while we called her an Uber from inside the house. Anytime some stranger has knocked on our door at night we’ve offered that. Never been taken up on the offer because it’s probably always a scam or something nefarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve got a teen daughter (👶 and am from the Midwest) and I not let her in. I would tell her she’s welcome to pee in my shrubs, I could call her a cab while she waited outside, etc, but having to pee isn’t an emergency, too risky to let her in.

You can even toss her a roll of toilet paper and a plastic bag. If she really had to pee that badly, she’d be thrilled with a shrub, some tp and a bag.

[Anonymous]

I can see where DH is coming from. I'm male, and we're just not used to having our "spidey sense" up so much, because we don't have to wander around in fear of being raped or sexually assaulted (yes it happens to men too, but most men don't think about this). And if it's a younger-looking girl, we'll be even less likely to consider she's up to no good because she's probably smaller than us and easily overpowered (not thinking she may have accomplices or a weapon).

Most men just aren't as "alert" for this type of thing, that's why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to stop talking about your H this way.

My husband is LEO he would have figured out why this person was in this situation and gotten her help,

My thought is human trafficking or lost drunk girl.

We would have gotten her an Uber to her destination.

That your first thought is human trafficking speaks volumes about you. Your assumptions are ridiculous.

More than likely she was hoping to be able to steal something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to stop talking about your H this way.

My husband is LEO he would have figured out why this person was in this situation and gotten her help,

My thought is human trafficking or lost drunk girl.

We would have gotten her an Uber to her destination.

NP and we had a similar situation in our neighborhood with a woman knocking on doors at night asking for help. Our LEO neighbor wouldn’t even open the door for this woman at 7 pm. My DH offered to get her an Uber through the closed door and she declined.

Believe me, most LEOs are lazy ignorant a-holes.

It’s actually illegal for him to see a person in need and deny them help,

I can’t tell you how many outings I’ve been to where my H had to render aid.

I won’t even go out with him when it’s snowing, too many people in situations that need aid.

Yes your right many cops will drive right past an accident or a boyfriend beating his girlfriend in public,

I apologize for all of them on behalf of the “thin blue line”.

The bolded is utter bull.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you called your DH both an idiot and a moron based on this incident makes me feel real sorry for him. Your DH sounds very empathetic, like me, which means that unfortunately people can easily take advantage of him. Being naively empathetic is different than being a moron.

When you're a parent you need to grow up and get some sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP is right, but I’m thinking a 17 year old could easily be overpowered by OP and DH. As long as they shut the door after her:.. she’d be in more danger than they would be, right?

Yes, that is why is extra weird that she would want to get into a house and ask a man to use his bathroom. I would never had done it in any age as a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s gotta suck to live where opening your door is a risk. I’d move.

That would be anywhere. Troll.

Maybe where you live, I haven’t locked my doors in 20 years. I have no desire to live like that.

Who cares.