What would you have done? NYE and random young stranger

[Anonymous]

Sorry no number 2 if I don't know you

[Anonymous]

Better safe than sorry

[Anonymous]

The husband was hoping the young stranger would be part of a threesome

[Anonymous]

As someone who contemplated ringing some doorbells while waiting for a tow truck bc of a flat tire, I can certainly imagine this could be real. It's ok you didn't feel comfortable and said no, but you may have been wrong about her.

[Anonymous]

I’d pee somewhere outside before I’d ring some random person’s doorbell to ask to use their bathroom. I’m a woman and I’d do it even if I had to squat behind a dumpster, even if I didn’t have Kleenex or something else to wipe with. Who just goes up to someone’s door? How odd.

[Anonymous]

Team OP. Come on, it’s dark out. If you need to pee, go in the shrubs. Also, while I wouldn’t open the door, I yell from behind the door, “What do you want?” ( I would also flip on an interior light). I don’t want anyone ringing my doorbell to think nobody is home.

[Anonymous]

I don’t open the door for any stranger no matter what time of day. Your husband’s a naive idiot who put his family at risk

[Anonymous]

Your husband is stupid and you didn’t overreact. She was a scout of some sort, casing your home for what valuables you had, entry points, and how gullible the people inside are as easy targets. They send girls like her who seem harmless exactly for this reason.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is right, but I’m thinking a 17 year old could easily be overpowered by OP and DH. As long as they shut the door after her:.. she’d be in more danger than they would be, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d pee somewhere outside before I’d ring some random person’s doorbell to ask to use their bathroom. I’m a woman and I’d do it even if I had to squat behind a dumpster, even if I didn’t have Kleenex or something else to wipe with. Who just goes up to someone’s door? How odd.

Maybe OP has kid stuff or play equipment outside? I wouldn’t ring the doorbell either, but I would assume it would be safe if I knew the people had kids.

[Anonymous]

No normal person of this age would do this.

She’s either a simpleton from a small town and thinks this is okay, in which case she shouldn’t be out in the city alone. Or she’s up to no good.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised that people think you overreacted. I’m concerned about this girl, because she’s so young, but she was likely up to no good, and/or was connected to people who were up to no good. There is zero chance I would allow her in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in the suburbs in the Midwest and am very trusting, and have a young daughter so I’m always watching out for HS/college aged girls. I’m also paranoid and do not answer the doorbell after dark if it’s someone I don’t know. We don’t have a Ring doorbell but can easily see anyone at the front door.

DH grew up in a big city but has ADHD and is just a general idiot when it comes to common sense. He is terrible at thinking on the fly.

Our doorbell rang at 10 pm and DH answered it because I was upstairs. It was a young girl who was between 17-20. We live in a city neighborhood but on a very quiet dead end that’s only a cut-through for neighborhood kids, but I didn’t know her. The girl asked if she could use our bathroom. DH was in the process of letting her inside (down to tell her which direction the bathroom was in) m when I came down and was like, I’m sorry, but I’m not ok with this and you need to leave. I was nice but firm and she was polite in return.

We are blocks away from encampments and large transit stops and in an area with a lot of recent forced entry breakins. We also have a nice stand of bushes and trees at the end of the block that would afford a lot of privacy should someone need an emergency pit stop.

Maybe she was an innocent girl who needed a bathroom? Maybe she was looking for prescription drugs, money or jewelery (all of which were in or en route to the bathroom!)? Maybe she had accomplices who were going to come in while my DH stood like a moron with the door wide open?

Anyway, I did the right thing, right? The only time I remember strangers asking to use a bathroom is when I was in middle school and we were playing softball on a remote field backing into a subdivision with zero trees to hide behind. My teammates rang a doorbell to ask a family to use their bathroom. And this was in the 1980s in Ohio.

Can we talk about OP's DH? Mine is the same regarding opening the door, and he will also turn on all the lights in the house, just before opening the door wide. He would invite anyone and everyone in. Unfortunately, I am not exaggerating. I worry about the safety of my kids. Why do people who do this, do this? Is it ADHD or something else? He just doesn't get it, but I know his 4'9" mom is the same, and they grew up in a not great neighborhood. I feel like they should know better. Is it lack of common sense? It must be more than that, to be so insistent on answering the door.

[Anonymous]

You need to stop talking about your H this way.

My husband is LEO he would have figured out why this person was in this situation and gotten her help,

My thought is human trafficking or lost drunk girl.

We would have gotten her an Uber to her destination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to stop talking about your H this way.

My husband is LEO he would have figured out why this person was in this situation and gotten her help,

My thought is human trafficking or lost drunk girl.

We would have gotten her an Uber to her destination.

Your husband is trained to respond that way and no doubt has years of experience in dealing with situations like this involving strangers and the public.

The vast majority of us are not.