Nicest parent communities which schools?

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Its clear which school does not have the nicest parent community.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

Oh how generous that smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, good-looking kids are so warmly embraced by the STA community! I mean, I’m just blown away that such a child could possibly be accepted when his parents (gasp!) aren’t CC members.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

Oh how generous that smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, good-looking kids are so warmly embraced by the STA community! I mean, I’m just blown away that such a child could possibly be accepted when his parents (gasp!) aren’t CC members.

Agree. This is so embarrassing that this STA parent is writing this and I believe they are most definitely a CCC member.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

Oh how generous that smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, good-looking kids are so warmly embraced by the STA community! I mean, I’m just blown away that such a child could possibly be accepted when his parents (gasp!) aren’t CC members.

Agree. This is so embarrassing that this STA parent is writing this and I believe they are most definitely a CCC member.

Have already heard this is an issue in the current 6th grade. STA needs to do a better job at rounding out the grades with new admits for 7th and 9th.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

Did your son send in a check and then end up on the WL?

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Anonymous wrote:Sadly not STA. It varies some by class but large population of mean girl moms who never mentally graduated from junior high.

This is sad to hear. I had hoped STA would figure this out. The Chevy crowd at STA (and NCS) is vicious. Hands down probably one of the worst crowds in the DMV.

We're a decidedly not fancy STA/NCS family.
A couple of things:

-there are countless parents who are not country club members. the vast majority.

-among the Chevy crowd (since that was brought up) I've found that (not surprisingly) that the wealthiest and most influential ones are generally the nicest. The mean ones are almost always the strivers OR the ones with kids who struggle socially. When people are secure in who they are, they're generally nice.

-I've also found that none of it matters during the high school years as kids make their own friends. If they're some combo of smart, funny, charismatic, interesting, athletic, kind, good looking, etc. they'll likely find themselves comfortably fitting into the social world even if they're the furthest thing from a Chevy member there is. My kids have been fully embraced by other kids. They've invited to a near constant stream of pre-parties, after parties, regular parties, golf outings, dinners, hang-outs, ski trips, vacations, etc. etc. They have many friends and will know these kids until for years to come. They feel fully part of the community. It's all good.

DP. I disagree parents of these kids are more involved with their kids social lives in highschool than other parents. Just ask the kid that was dressed for the Chevy dance with his invitation in hand and humiliated by adults at Chevy when he was told to leave and that he was not invited. How do you get over that public humiliation as a kid in highschool?

I have also heard the lower school at STA also has a group of these parents as well as highschool so I am not hopeful things will improve.

the christmas dance? He had the invite in hand (so he had been invited by the host families?) why was he asked to leave?

He was told he didn’t make the cut but he didn’t understand how the process works he had the invitation and assumed it was a done deal that he was invited. He didn’t realize he needed to follow up invitation.

Not at all surprising. Disgusting behavior on the part of the Chevy Chase adults.

for the love of Pete. The invite says "DO NOT JUST SHOW UP". You must send in a check and wait for a confirmation email.
It isn't rocket science. If a kid does not do this and just shows up i hardly think it is in bad form of the club to turn him away.
You guys are really grasping at straws here.

It's like showing up at an Airbnb apartment without paying a deposit or getting a confirmation email from the host and then bad mouthing Airbnb for not having an apartment ready when you fly into town.

Come on. Get a grip. You are nuts.

According to 17:59, he had sent his check in. You don’t know that he just showed up.

You sound pretty vested in defending Chevy Chase. Maybe you should think about why? Sounds like you are an apologist for bad behavior.

you know, I would actually call bad behavior on his behalf. I know a good number of kids who were on the waitlist. they wanted to go but they followed instructions and stayed home. He clearly just ignored the rules and came anyway. Because apparently rules did not apply to him.

I am by no means a Chevy Chase apologist. I'm not a member, will never be a member and have nothing invested in the club. But you are using some non-sensical example about the CCC to slam STA and that irritates me. This is a kid who did not follow the rules (while hundreds of other kids did) and yet you're implying that he is the victim. No, he's the entitled one that decided that rules were not for him.

I'm done here. Happy New Year to all.

Different poster here. This response sums it up no room for mistakes for a kid whose parents made a mistake! His parents are not in the club world and did not understand how it worked. Can you imagine publicly humiliating a kid who was all dressed up and ready to go to the dance excited and publicly telling him to go away I mean it’s just beyond anything I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard some bad things happening with people in this club. It’s not like he was some stranger off the street. He attended STA and received an original invite in the mail.

I'm not sure a human being could be more removed from the "club world" than I am and yet I could follow the two lines of instructions that were detailed in both email and print form.

Unless this kid's parents are illiterate or senile they too could manage this task and it's quite demeaning to say that they could not because they "are not in the club world."
Frankly my son managed this invitation process completely on his own as he too can read and comprehend two lines of type.

Mistakes happen and there is something called grace which was not extended to this highschool boy who was standing there all alone dressed up and was publicly humiliated and rejected by ADULTS. Despicable behavior by CCC STA parents. Worse than the current senior parents that blackballed two families a few years ago for no good reason.

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Our experience at Norwood with the community at different grade levels was fabulous! One DC is now at Sidwell for HS, parents are down to earth to be honest…. Much more so than our other DC’s parent cohort at Stone Ridge !!!

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Anonymous wrote:Our experience at Norwood with the community at different grade levels was fabulous! One DC is now at Sidwell for HS, parents are down to earth to be honest…. Much more so than our other DC’s parent cohort at Stone Ridge !!!

Every Norwood family I've ever known has been kind and warm, and they've had similar things to say about the other parents! It sounds like a fantastic community.

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Anonymous wrote:Based on a couple recent threads, Potomac parents seem real nice

Agree, plus a lot of hot Moms.

The "hot'' moms are at the publics.

You just can’t generalize. I live in MxLean and know a lot of the Moms at Potomac and I also know plenty up the street at Langley. There definitely are some super hottie Moms at BOTH schools, but on the other hand, both have some that are awful, plus a wide swath in the middle. That’s life.

Agreed some of the super hot moms at Potomac who I know personally and get along well with them, but are not my core crew are not very inclusive of most of the parents. Like most parents said here it is very grade driven. A couple of means moms can ruin the experience for most parents and children in the lower school.

Nobody is looking to make best friends here with with their children's parents but everyone is looking for a tribe and that is not wrong.

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Can anyone speak to the parent communities at the Catholic high schools when it comes to families moving in from public? Are they welcoming or is it already a closed circle? Both independents and diocesan high schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

Then I would say definitely steer clear of SR. Most of the non inclusive, CCC members have moved to that school. Not sure why. Have friends there who said they have soured their experience.

Because NCS is extremely difficult and consists of a large number of ultra smart girls from Loudoun and other non-prestige places. The CCC members have no desire for that.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the original question—nicest parents?

Schools with the least amount of Chevy Chase club parents or people that choose their kids’ school to desperately network to get in or improve their social standing at the club.

In this regard, Sidwell excels. Welcoming parent community and I know few, if any, CCC members there.

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What’s “nice?” I find 90% of the private school parents I meet tedious at best. They are so fearful about their kids lives and futures that they come off as completely ridiculous. They are desperate to be liked and reassured so compelled to name drop, posture, etc. Not truly ass$&ish, but obnoxious.