I think this is so key, a kid who has trouble shutting off video games or getting distracted by YouTube is not going to have an easy time with the phone. I think some of it can be top, but a lot of it is just nature. |
My kid has an iphone but because we waited she is much less dependent on it than her friends. She is only allowed 45 on apps. |
Many high school classes require kids to use phones to turn in assignments and answer polls in class. My kid says about half the time she needs one in class to complete a task of whatever. Your kid better be comfortable with one by the time that happens. |
But if everyone else has a phone who are they going to be socializing with, and how are they making plans? |
Those Apple Watches are going to be useless for turning in assignments and participating in class. Unless your high school is unusually non- phone-dependent, they need a smart phone and they need to know how to use it well. |
If they have their chrome books, why do they need phones? They take their chrome books to school everyday now. They turn in things electronically for the most part. I am seriously asking. -OP |
No more chrome books in high school. It’s full on laptop, which they use to turn assignments in. |
Have you read the posts about how admission to football/basketball games, the drama productions, etc. are now done by app? Is it that you think your kid will never want to go to these things? |
Are there really no teenagers left who lead mainly real/non-virtual lives? Who can make plans by call/text? |
I’m guessing very few. Times are changing. Don’t get left behind. |
It’s really easy to just set up app limits on the phone OP. My kids have limited access to their apps and once they’ve used it up they gray out and don’t work. They have to ask me for more time. They also have an overall downtime each evening where the phone essentially goes to sleep. |
So the TL;DR of this thread is: Many parents of actual current teens/high schoolers have told you the reality of what things are like now. Many parents of elementary/middle school kids have expressed disbelief/denial that their kids will participate in reality. |
Your children will need phones in high school. They check their dashboard on it, among other things. HS kids' social lives are on their phones, for better and for worse. Do you want your kids to have a social life? Do you really want to put them on the back foot socially?
Also, their phones are how they let you know they need a ride home. A 16-year-old is much more mobile and on the go. Your kid might be at a school event until nearly midnight in some cases (away games, etc.) Your kid might go on a school trip out of state (Florida, etc.). Do you really want your kid not to have a phone to text you that they got left behind at a gas station in South Carolina? And now kid is calling you collect from a pay phone? I wouldn't want that, but that's just me. |
Yeah, it seems like an overcorrection to being scared of the pitfalls of social media/tech. It’s just reality that teens have phones. Set limits if you want, but not allowing a phone is pretty extreme. |
+1 unfortunately. Even having an android phone rather than an iphone can be a social life killer. My DC had an android and was left out of all the imessage group chats. They said it was a pain to keep adding the android phone. DC got an iphone and started being included in group chats which included last minute plans. This is how kids now plan. We used to use regular phones. They use smart phones. The only way I can see a HS not having to need a smart phone for making plans is if none of their social circle uses the smart phones, either. |