Do you love your children more than your pets?

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Anonymous wrote:I lost a beloved dog recently, and I don't think I will ever get over that loss. That dog and I were extremely bonded, and I loved him with all my heart. Losing him hit me hard. My sadness and pain is no less just because he was a dog.

Please never ever say this out loud to someone who has lost a child

People like PPs do not have children, and therefore believe their love for a pet is a close facsimile. It is not, and obviously those of us who do have kids (and pets) know this.

I actually laughed out loud.

nO oNe UnDeRsTanDs ExCePt Us.

Yes, chimps, rats, and every other live-birthing mammal understands. Weird flex, but……Congrats?

That’s beside the point. The first PP formed a strong bond with her dog, and she’s mourning. She has no reason to say that to a parent who lost their child.

[NP]

She literally said that her pain is no less than than the pain of a parent who loses a young child. Without sarcasm.

She said HER pain was no less because it was a dog and not a human. She did not compare her pain to anyone else’s or make any judgments about how other people feel. Everyone is not the same. She is explaining HER feelings, which she is entitled to, as you are entitled to yours.

She said, and I quote, “my pain was no less because it was a dog”. Meaning, no less than the pain of losing a human child. She literally made a 1:1 comparison. I’m sorry, but that is messed up.

Yes, she was talking about how she felt. She felt the same pain as if it were a human family member. She’s relaying her experience. It doesn’t have to be the same as your experience or mine or anyone else’s.

It’s gross.

It would be like me saying I lost my favorite earrings on the metro and I’m devastated about the loss.

If she can say her pain over losing a dog is “no less” than the pain of losing a child, then would it also be okay for me to insist my sadness over my lost property is “no less” than her pain over her lost property (the dog.)

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Anonymous wrote:I lost a beloved dog recently, and I don't think I will ever get over that loss. That dog and I were extremely bonded, and I loved him with all my heart. Losing him hit me hard. My sadness and pain is no less just because he was a dog.

Please never ever say this out loud to someone who has lost a child

People like PPs do not have children, and therefore believe their love for a pet is a close facsimile. It is not, and obviously those of us who do have kids (and pets) know this.

I actually laughed out loud.

nO oNe UnDeRsTanDs ExCePt Us.

Yes, chimps, rats, and every other live-birthing mammal understands. Weird flex, but……Congrats?

That’s beside the point. The first PP formed a strong bond with her dog, and she’s mourning. She has no reason to say that to a parent who lost their child.

[NP]

She literally said that her pain is no less than than the pain of a parent who loses a young child. Without sarcasm.

She said HER pain was no less because it was a dog and not a human. She did not compare her pain to anyone else’s or make any judgments about how other people feel. Everyone is not the same. She is explaining HER feelings, which she is entitled to, as you are entitled to yours.

She said, and I quote, “my pain was no less because it was a dog”. Meaning, no less than the pain of losing a human child. She literally made a 1:1 comparison. I’m sorry, but that is messed up.

Yes, she was talking about how she felt. She felt the same pain as if it were a human family member. She’s relaying her experience. It doesn’t have to be the same as your experience or mine or anyone else’s.

It’s gross.

It would be like me saying I lost my favorite earrings on the metro and I’m devastated about the loss.

If she can say her pain over losing a dog is “no less” than the pain of losing a child, then would it also be okay for me to insist my sadness over my lost property is “no less” than her pain over her lost property (the dog.)

NP. Do your earrings sit with you when you're sick? Do they give you nuzzles and cuddle with you at night? Do they greet you when you come home like you're some kind of conquering hero? Did you acquire them as baby earrings and teach them how to be grown up earrings? Do you take them for walks, and if you do, do they make you more aware of other people, animals, plants, sights and smells?

I have a kid and I know when my pet dies, it won't be as tragic as losing a child. We are supposed to outlive our pets, no parent should outlive their child. But saying a pet is merely property and comparing them to inanimate objects is, to borrow your phrase, both. Our pet is a member of our family. You know who will be devastated when he dies? My daughter. Because she, unlike you, has a heart.

[Anonymous]

^ to borrow your phrase, it's gross. Stupid autocorrect.

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Anonymous wrote:I lost a beloved dog recently, and I don't think I will ever get over that loss. That dog and I were extremely bonded, and I loved him with all my heart. Losing him hit me hard. My sadness and pain is no less just because he was a dog.

Please never ever say this out loud to someone who has lost a child

People like PPs do not have children, and therefore believe their love for a pet is a close facsimile. It is not, and obviously those of us who do have kids (and pets) know this.

I actually laughed out loud.

nO oNe UnDeRsTanDs ExCePt Us.

Yes, chimps, rats, and every other live-birthing mammal understands. Weird flex, but……Congrats?

That’s beside the point. The first PP formed a strong bond with her dog, and she’s mourning. She has no reason to say that to a parent who lost their child.

[NP]

She literally said that her pain is no less than than the pain of a parent who loses a young child. Without sarcasm.

She said HER pain was no less because it was a dog and not a human. She did not compare her pain to anyone else’s or make any judgments about how other people feel. Everyone is not the same. She is explaining HER feelings, which she is entitled to, as you are entitled to yours.

She said, and I quote, “my pain was no less because it was a dog”. Meaning, no less than the pain of losing a human child. She literally made a 1:1 comparison. I’m sorry, but that is messed up.

Yes, she was talking about how she felt. She felt the same pain as if it were a human family member. She’s relaying her experience. It doesn’t have to be the same as your experience or mine or anyone else’s.

It’s gross.

It would be like me saying I lost my favorite earrings on the metro and I’m devastated about the loss.

If she can say her pain over losing a dog is “no less” than the pain of losing a child, then would it also be okay for me to insist my sadness over my lost property is “no less” than her pain over her lost property (the dog.)

NP. Do your earrings sit with you when you're sick? Do they give you nuzzles and cuddle with you at night? Do they greet you when you come home like you're some kind of conquering hero? Did you acquire them as baby earrings and teach them how to be grown up earrings? Do you take them for walks, and if you do, do they make you more aware of other people, animals, plants, sights and smells?

I have a kid and I know when my pet dies, it won't be as tragic as losing a child. We are supposed to outlive our pets, no parent should outlive their child. But saying a pet is merely property and comparing them to inanimate objects is, to borrow your phrase, both. Our pet is a member of our family. You know who will be devastated when he dies? My daughter. Because she, unlike you, has a heart.

It’s ironic how aghast you were at the PPs comparison. Because it’s so gross, right?

It’s almost like it’s cruel and insane to suggest.

Kind of like the poster who said her dog dying was as upsetting to her as a mothers child dying. Which is what she was responding to, and which you seem to be defending.

[Anonymous]

PP who thinks her pain is the same as the pain of a mother who has lost a child, SHAME ON YOU. That is all.

[Anonymous]

YES!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP who thinks her pain is the same as the pain of a mother who has lost a child, SHAME ON YOU. That is all.

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Cope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I lost a beloved dog recently, and I don't think I will ever get over that loss. That dog and I were extremely bonded, and I loved him with all my heart. Losing him hit me hard. My sadness and pain is no less just because he was a dog.

Please never ever say this out loud to someone who has lost a child

People like PPs do not have children, and therefore believe their love for a pet is a close facsimile. It is not, and obviously those of us who do have kids (and pets) know this.

I actually laughed out loud.

nO oNe UnDeRsTanDs ExCePt Us.

Yes, chimps, rats, and every other live-birthing mammal understands. Weird flex, but……Congrats?

That’s beside the point. The first PP formed a strong bond with her dog, and she’s mourning. She has no reason to say that to a parent who lost their child.

[NP]

She literally said that her pain is no less than than the pain of a parent who loses a young child. Without sarcasm.

She said HER pain was no less because it was a dog and not a human. She did not compare her pain to anyone else’s or make any judgments about how other people feel. Everyone is not the same. She is explaining HER feelings, which she is entitled to, as you are entitled to yours.

She said, and I quote, “my pain was no less because it was a dog”. Meaning, no less than the pain of losing a human child. She literally made a 1:1 comparison. I’m sorry, but that is messed up.

Yes, she was talking about how she felt. She felt the same pain as if it were a human family member. She’s relaying her experience. It doesn’t have to be the same as your experience or mine or anyone else’s.

It’s gross.

It would be like me saying I lost my favorite earrings on the metro and I’m devastated about the loss.

If she can say her pain over losing a dog is “no less” than the pain of losing a child, then would it also be okay for me to insist my sadness over my lost property is “no less” than her pain over her lost property (the dog.)

That might be true. Those earrings might have such sentimental value to you that the pain of losing them rivals the pain of someone else losing their dog. It’s not a competition. People feel what they feel.

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No way!

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Anonymous wrote:I lost a beloved dog recently, and I don't think I will ever get over that loss. That dog and I were extremely bonded, and I loved him with all my heart. Losing him hit me hard. My sadness and pain is no less just because he was a dog.

Please never ever say this out loud to someone who has lost a child

People like PPs do not have children, and therefore believe their love for a pet is a close facsimile. It is not, and obviously those of us who do have kids (and pets) know this.

I actually laughed out loud.

nO oNe UnDeRsTanDs ExCePt Us.

Yes, chimps, rats, and every other live-birthing mammal understands. Weird flex, but……Congrats?

That’s beside the point. The first PP formed a strong bond with her dog, and she’s mourning. She has no reason to say that to a parent who lost their child.

[NP]

She literally said that her pain is no less than than the pain of a parent who loses a young child. Without sarcasm.

She said HER pain was no less because it was a dog and not a human. She did not compare her pain to anyone else’s or make any judgments about how other people feel. Everyone is not the same. She is explaining HER feelings, which she is entitled to, as you are entitled to yours.

She said, and I quote, “my pain was no less because it was a dog”. Meaning, no less than the pain of losing a human child. She literally made a 1:1 comparison. I’m sorry, but that is messed up.

Yes, she was talking about how she felt. She felt the same pain as if it were a human family member. She’s relaying her experience. It doesn’t have to be the same as your experience or mine or anyone else’s.

It’s gross.

It would be like me saying I lost my favorite earrings on the metro and I’m devastated about the loss.

If she can say her pain over losing a dog is “no less” than the pain of losing a child, then would it also be okay for me to insist my sadness over my lost property is “no less” than her pain over her lost property (the dog.)

That might be true. Those earrings might have such sentimental value to you that the pain of losing them rivals the pain of someone else losing their dog. It’s not a competition. People feel what they feel.

Exactly.

Who am I to say that those earrings don’t hold a special meaning? They could’ve belonged to a dead loved one.

Personally, the PP feeling equal loss over her earrings as I felt for my (hypothetical) dog wouldn’t bother me at all. Of course, I’m well adjusted.

”It’s not a competition.” Nicely stated, PP.

[Anonymous]

I have sympathy for those who lose beloved pets. And especially if they don't have children, I can understand it being the biggest loss in their life. I can also understand their need to grieve the loss and I would offer the same sympathy gestures I would to someone who has lost a child or family member.

But that is where my understanding ends. For anyone to compare the loss of a pet to the loss of a child, that's beyond my comprehension and I also would find that extremely offensive. The loss and grief are similar but completely different degrees of loss. I would consider anyone who would actually equate or liken the loss of a pet to someone who has lost a child would be extremely rude and offensive.

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Anonymous wrote:PP who thinks her pain is the same as the pain of a mother who has lost a child, SHAME ON YOU. That is all.

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Cope.

Stated like a sad sack who doesn’t have kids but hangs out on a parenting website.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP who thinks her pain is the same as the pain of a mother who has lost a child, SHAME ON YOU. That is all.

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Cope.

Stated like a sad sack who doesn’t have kids but hangs out on a parenting website.

You sound insecure. I hope things get better for you.

[Anonymous]

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/may/28/what-is-a-dog-then-on-the-unbearable-death-of-my-dog-polly

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Anonymous wrote:PP who thinks her pain is the same as the pain of a mother who has lost a child, SHAME ON YOU. That is all.

🙄🙄

Cope.

I kind of need to know if you truly believe the grief and loss is the same level between one’s dog and one’s child dying, or if you’re just playing devils advocate and enjoy arguing.

If you just like arguing and debating, I might gently suggest that you not choose trolling grieving mothers and equating their loss to a pet dying. Choose a different topic, there are tons of threads to choose from. It’s so hurtful it’s kind of beyond what I can describe in words. But it takes my breath away.