Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?

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Anonymous wrote:We always try to be careful but if your kids are n school it is silly. How are you middle class? Middle class don’t take expensive vacations.

Some of us in the middle class bought small houses and old cars so we can go on expensive vacations. Also our definition of expensive might differ from yours.

You cannot get much smaller than our house and we have a 25 year old car...middle class aren't taking expensive vacations. You aren't middle class. Middle class are worried about paying the mortgage and groceries.

New PP here. The “Working Middle Class” is worried about mortgages and groceries.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.

There’s your problem right there. All you had to say was, “I’m sorry. Larlo won’t be able to make it. We have another commitment.”

+100 — TMI.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter what anyone here does or doesn’t do before a vacation. You do you.

The only thing you owe this “friend” is plenty of notice that your kid will not be attending the party. Drop off a small gift and be on your way. An adult who is refusing to talk to someone over this has questionable maturity.

Have a nice vacation.

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[Anonymous]

Common sense ain’t so common around these parts

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Anonymous wrote:You are bat$hit crazy.

You must not have ever had a stomach virus ruin a vacation. Friend of mine drove the family 7 hours, checked into the hotel, child starts vomiting an hour later. Everyone went down in dominos. They spent the entire trip in the room to just go home after they were well enough to drive. Nightmare!

DP and you sound paranoid. This has happened to us more than once. We got it on vacation, at the resort. It’s horrible but happens. Do you isolate once you get to your vacation too?

Sigh. That’s the point. It doesn’t need to happen and be “horrible” on an expensive, highly anticipated vacation if you plan ahead. No one is going to ask or force you to do that, but there is not a damn thing wrong with OP choosing to do so. Anyone who judges her for that is childish and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are bat$hit crazy.

You must not have ever had a stomach virus ruin a vacation. Friend of mine drove the family 7 hours, checked into the hotel, child starts vomiting an hour later. Everyone went down in dominos. They spent the entire trip in the room to just go home after they were well enough to drive. Nightmare!

DP and you sound paranoid. This has happened to us more than once. We got it on vacation, at the resort. It’s horrible but happens. Do you isolate once you get to your vacation too?

I think it’s more devastating if it’s your one and only vacation for the year.

We go on many vacations each year. Sorry you’re poor

Sorry you’re immature and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP’s do y’all take multiple vacations a year?

I know plenty of people that do this before big trips, such as overseas, Disney, cruises, etc.

The irony of doing this before a Disney cruise!

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s interesting you do stuff like this but you and your family have also had Covid 3 times.

Right? In my experience, those that are over the top germaphobes have had Covid the most. We are not huge germaphobes and only one family member has had Covid and it was akin to allergies for about 24 hours.

My experience has been the exact opposite. Shrug.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP’s do y’all take multiple vacations a year?

I know plenty of people that do this before big trips, such as overseas, Disney, cruises, etc.

The irony of doing this before a Disney cruise!

True, but hopefully by the time the kid is exposed to the germs and they have time to incubate, hopefully they’ll be barfing on the ride home rather than on the way there or shortly thereafter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.

There’s your problem right there. All you had to say was, “I’m sorry. Larlo won’t be able to make it. We have another commitment.”

Yep.

100%. Even before pandemic, I had a friend tell me she couldn't come to my 40th because she didn't want to leave her kids during flu season and it almost felt like she was judging my timing or something. Just say you can't make it, who cares if its weird, its what you want to do, but why are you overexplaining, just say you can't make it and move on.

[Anonymous]

I get concerned about this too. To me it’s not weird. I probably don’t bend over backwards to isolate but if it’s possible, I limit unnecessary things for us and the kids before going away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't do that but have had many a vacation ruined by sick children so maybe we should.

Getting on a plane alone exposes us to tons of germs. I think you have anxiety. I'm not going to stop my kids from having fun fore fear they may get sick. Do you stop then from running bc they may brake an arm?

Your friend should get over this. If she is a good friend she would know you are anxious ans accept the quirk. Medication may help you.

She does this one week a year. She avoids germ crawling places and runny nose kids for 1 week per year. I never thought of it but it’s not a bad idea.

You think she should take medication because she is extremely cautious one week a year? Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

OP I’m with you and we take a lot of vacations. We’ve had a few ruined ones w/ a sick kid or sick parent and it’s not fun. Also no fun to scramble to switch flights to avoid flying with someone sick.
I’d also ditch that friend. Any adult who doesn’t talk to a friend over a bday party is too dramatic for me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s interesting you do stuff like this but you and your family have also had Covid 3 times.

Right? In my experience, those that are over the top germaphobes have had Covid the most. We are not huge germaphobes and only one family member has had Covid and it was akin to allergies for about 24 hours.

Huh? That hasn’t been true at all in our friend circles.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are def weird. Kids already exposed to each other in daycare. No reason to go around worrying about sickness and making your kid skip events. Sickness is just a fact of life for kids. Just deal with it and move along.