Do you isolate your kids before a vacation?

[Anonymous]

A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.

[Anonymous]

You are the only one and it is weird

[Anonymous]

No. We did during the pandemic before visiting elderly grandparents, but otherwise no. The kids are in daycare or school or whatever anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you're the only one that does this.

[Anonymous]

Not common and weird. Are you or your kids particularly susceptible to getting sick? Do you isolate them on vacation? At some point, you have to let them go out there and live life.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t matter what anyone here does or doesn’t do before a vacation. You do you.

The only thing you owe this “friend” is plenty of notice that your kid will not be attending the party. Drop off a small gift and be on your way. An adult who is refusing to talk to someone over this has questionable maturity.

Have a nice vacation.

[Anonymous]

OP. Fair enough. I’ll take the weirdo title. But to be clear they aren’t kept indoors - they still play outside and in the pool all day etc but we just avoid germy places like parties and indoor play places.

[Anonymous]

NP here. Nope. That is super weird.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it's weird. And it's going to be completely pointless the minute one of them starts school.

[Anonymous]

PP’s do y’all take multiple vacations a year?

I know plenty of people that do this before big trips, such as overseas, Disney, cruises, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.

There’s your problem right there. All you had to say was, “I’m sorry. Larlo won’t be able to make it. We have another commitment.”

[Anonymous]

You are the weird one but she is also being petty for not speaking to you. I would have ended the friendship a while ago with someone living like it’s 2020 in 2023.

Your kids sound little and you must not work. The rest of the world moved on a long time ago. We don’t even wear masks now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend is mad at me and want to see if this is common or if I’m a weirdo. We are middle class and have a one vacation per year. We have spent a lot of time and money planning it and are really looking forward to it next month! In turn, I limit activities the week prior (no parties, no indoor play places, play dates etc) to try and prevent kids getting sick and ruining the trip.

Well a good friend is having a bday party for her child the weekend before we leave. She doesn’t work but her child is in full time daycare as are the class friends that’ll be in attendance (we talk often and know he’s literally always sick with something or another). I told her point blank we can’t come because we don’t want to risk the kids getting sick. Now she isn’t speaking to me.

I feel bad but am I the only one that does this?? I feel it’s smart but also understand full time working with kids in daycare people go on vacations all the time without a hitch.

There’s your problem right there. All you had to say was, “I’m sorry. Larlo won’t be able to make it. We have another commitment.”

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are the weird one but she is also being petty for not speaking to you. I would have ended the friendship a while ago with someone living like it’s 2020 in 2023.

Your kids sound little and you must not work. The rest of the world moved on a long time ago. We don’t even wear masks now.

OP. I’m not worried about Covid! We haven’t worn masks since they were no longer mandatory (maybe why we’ve had it three times now lol). More like stomach bugs, ear infections, etc. I’d like to avoid if possible.

Anyway, I guess I am more neurotic than most of you, which is fine. I asked for honesty after all!

[Anonymous]

We don't do that but have had many a vacation ruined by sick children so maybe we should.

Getting on a plane alone exposes us to tons of germs. I think you have anxiety. I'm not going to stop my kids from having fun fore fear they may get sick. Do you stop then from running bc they may brake an arm?

Your friend should get over this. If she is a good friend she would know you are anxious ans accept the quirk. Medication may help you.