Something feels off wwyd?

[Anonymous]

I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

Or maybe her child has some hidden special needs you don’t know about and Mom has to watch to make sure the kids doesn’t act up and you don’t witness it and think the kid is “weird.” You suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. [/b]One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. [b]I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

You’re disgusting. There’s no such thing as an abused vibe. How dare you make assumptions like that? Maybe she was worried that your kid would hit your kid or something. Or maybe she actually watches her kids carefully in a public place such as a playground or play area, unlike you. A parent who actually parents. What a concept! Go have a ladies lunch instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. [/b]One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. [b]I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

You’re disgusting. There’s no such thing as an abused vibe. How dare you make assumptions like that? Maybe she was worried that your kid would hit your kid or something. Or maybe she actually watches her kids carefully in a public place such as a playground or play area, unlike you. A parent who actually parents. What a concept! Go have a ladies lunch instead.

overreact much? PP just said she felt bad … she didn’t approach the mom and ask her anything inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

Jesus. Nervous and keeping an eye on her kid doesn’t mean she’s an abused wife. Wtf is wrong with you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

Jesus. Nervous and keeping an eye on her kid doesn’t mean she’s an abused wife. Wtf is wrong with you

+1 or sexually abused as a child? So ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never experienced this. I do get a weird vibe from some people though. One mom never let her kid out of her sight and she gave off an abused vibe. She seemed really nervous. I felt bad for the mom. I wasn’t sure if she was a domestic violence victim or sexually abused as a child. I didn’t want to pry but the mood was odd. I didn’t want my child around them.

Jesus. Nervous and keeping an eye on her kid doesn’t mean she’s an abused wife. Wtf is wrong with you

I worked in child welfare for many years. After seeing what goes on in homes, I've been very cautious with my kids but in this situation, OP cannot say that something bad happened to her child, but the family was not as wealthy. I would probably be ok with the other family but not OP. Bad things happen in rich homes too. The difference is they hire attorneys and get it covered up. You can look up court records, sex abuse registry and other places for at least a basic background on the parents.

[Anonymous]

The thing to talk to your kids about - and to have firm rules about - is guns.

With small kids, guns are the biggest danger by far. With older kids you add on cars, and kids driving “to the store” when they are young. Both are in all types of houses.

You have to have conversations with your kid, and, with younger kids - you have to talk to parents to make sure guns are secured.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD12 has been getting close with a classmate this year, and they hung out for the first time this weekend. The mom picked up from our house and took them out for the afternoon with the plan of us picking up DD from their house later. Everything seemed copacetic at pickup. The mom seemed really nice. The girl is a sweetheart; I’ve interacted with her in passing on one or more of their FaceTimes.

Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

I would love to have the girl over our house, but I’m not comfortable with DD going over there again. How do we handle this in the event she’s invited over? Is there a tactful way to respond? I have no problem picking the girl up, or the mom taking the girls out like she did, but I don’t feel comfortable with DD going back to their house. Thoughts?

Wow that was really big of you to “give them the benefit of the doubt”. Sounds like the thing that’s pinging your radar is that the family is poor.

The family seems wonderful and I don’t know them well enough to know their situation, but my daughter’s safety comes first and I’m sorry if that’s harsh but I won’t apologize. It’s not like I’m not letting my daughter hang out with the girl. I just don’t feel comfortable with her going over there.

I’m confused OP. Was it the kid’s home or the neighborhood that gave you bad vibes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD12 has been getting close with a classmate this year, and they hung out for the first time this weekend. The mom picked up from our house and took them out for the afternoon with the plan of us picking up DD from their house later. Everything seemed copacetic at pickup. The mom seemed really nice. The girl is a sweetheart; I’ve interacted with her in passing on one or more of their FaceTimes.

Later at pickup, I got weird really vibes. Not the best neighborhood but I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I can’t explain it, but my intuition senses something off and I just felt the need to flee. I’ve never experienced anything like it before. Without prompt, DD later told me that the friend told her she never has friends over and DD was the first school friend to ever come over.

I would love to have the girl over our house, but I’m not comfortable with DD going over there again. How do we handle this in the event she’s invited over? Is there a tactful way to respond? I have no problem picking the girl up, or the mom taking the girls out like she did, but I don’t feel comfortable with DD going back to their house. Thoughts?

Oh my God! You encountered a poor person! Honestly, are you ok?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My very first thought

long ago I had a friend that said she only let her daughter go to rich people's houses because rich people aren't pedophiles.

Be honest. Just say you are uncomfortable with your daughter going to someone's house. I personally never let my children go to other people's houses. I know what goes on in my house. I don't know what goes on at anyone else's house.

Um this is the tweens & teens forum. Let me guess, your teen won’t work a job, either?

[Anonymous]

I don’t let my kids go to bad neighborhoods either. Flame away.

[Anonymous]

You are under no obligation to be friends with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Have the friend over to your home and get to know her before making any decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t let my kids go to bad neighborhoods either. Flame away.

OP didn’t say it was a bad neighborhood. She could not point to a single thing that was wrong. She just apparently feels a sense of doom when she realizes her child has been near poor people.