Has confronting the other woman ever gone well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

It's really very sad.

We got one proud to be married to a cheater who has no respect for his kids or ex as his mother but she thinks she has a prize because she doesn't think she was the OW.

One who thinks she won because she yelled at two of his affair partners.

Another because the ow is single and in her opinion ugly.

And now claiming they stay for the children.

I hope Gen Z women do better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

As opposed to the other woman blowing the married guy in a parking garage or having to leave the hotel alone because he doesn’t want to be seen with her.

No idea what that desperation must be like.

Hope being a whore works out for you when you are old and your uterus shrivels up.

Touché

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From my perspective, it went very well. Of course, she tried to justify her behavior and explain how they were "in love," and just had this "powerful connection" that could not be denied. (*eye roll*) How stupid some women are. I told her I thought she was a whore and I still do.

15 years later and our marriage is stronger than ever. (Took a LOT of work!) She's still fully single and as ugly as ever.

mm

Of course she is. No one would want her after what your husband and she did. Typical story, man has it all forgiven and woman pays the price.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

Nobudy want to stay with a cheater, but the alternative ends up hurting kids.

So yea it sucks but the person they stays is just being unselfish.

+1. Some parents put their kids needs and emotional well-being before their own. Cheaters wouldn’t understand.

Some parents are delusional. Don't use your kids to play martyr. My mom staying with my cheating dad didn't do me and my siblings any favors

Maybe dad’s cheating is the reason you cheat. Definitely your daddy issues

I don't cheat love but keep telling yourself you're helping your children by being a doormat

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an OW. If I were confronted, I would say I'm sorry and I don't expect her forgiveness. She can tell my husband, but he already knows and knew from the beginning. I was intensely lonely in my own marriage and made a terrible mistake in a moment of weakness. He told me everything I wanted to hear and made me feel beautiful and alive again, and told me that his wife was not interested in him or his needs at all and that he was lonely too.[/quote]

You sound like a complete and utter idiot or maybe a victim of abuse who has stunted development. Were you abused as a child?[/quote]

Yes.[/quote]

I’m sorry you were abused. Has your therapist explained why you do destructive things?[/quote]

Are you wondering if the straying H was abused? It takes two to tango…[/quote]

Yes I wonder. Or bipolar. But he’s not here to answer.

90% of bipolar spouses cheat. 80% of child abuse victims cheat.

It’s not a huge leap,

She clearly used language that people who suffered childhood abuse use. Any 1/2 decent therapist can read her post and predict she was a victim of child abuser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From my perspective, it went very well. Of course, she tried to justify her behavior and explain how they were "in love," and just had this "powerful connection" that could not be denied. (*eye roll*) How stupid some women are. I told her I thought she was a whore and I still do.

15 years later and our marriage is stronger than ever. (Took a LOT of work!) She's still fully single and as ugly as ever.

15 years later the OM is still calling me so don’t be so sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I am an OW. If I were confronted, I would say I'm sorry and I don't expect her forgiveness. She can tell my husband, but he already knows and knew from the beginning. I was intensely lonely in my own marriage and made a terrible mistake in a moment of weakness. He told me everything I wanted to hear and made me feel beautiful and alive again, and told me that his wife was not interested in him or his needs at all and that he was lonely too.

You sound like a complete and utter idiot or maybe a victim of abuse who has stunted development. Were you abused as a child?

Yes.

I’m sorry you were abused. Has your therapist explained why you do destructive things?

Are you wondering if the straying H was abused? It takes two to tango…

Yes I wonder. Or bipolar. But he’s not here to answer.

90% of bipolar spouses cheat. 80% of child abuse victims cheat.

It’s not a huge leap,

She clearly used language that people who suffered childhood abuse use. Any 1/2 decent therapist can read her post and predict she was a victim of child abuser.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

It's really very sad.

We got one proud to be married to a cheater who has no respect for his kids or ex as his mother but she thinks she has a prize because she doesn't think she was the OW.

One who thinks she won because she yelled at two of his affair partners.

Another because the ow is single and in her opinion ugly.

And now claiming they stay for the children.

I hope Gen Z women do better

You left out the married OW banging married guys whose husband knew from the beginning she was doing this. And has no remorse, just blame for everyone else…and the new D made her feel beautiful and seen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

As opposed to the other woman blowing the married guy in a parking garage or having to leave the hotel alone because he doesn’t want to be seen with her.

No idea what that desperation must be like.

Hope being a whore works out for you when you are old and your uterus shrivels up.

I think most of them are married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

Nobudy want to stay with a cheater, but the alternative ends up hurting kids.

So yea it sucks but the person they stays is just being unselfish.

+1. Some parents put their kids needs and emotional well-being before their own. Cheaters wouldn’t understand.

Some parents are delusional. Don't use your kids to play martyr. My mom staying with my cheating dad didn't do me and my siblings any favors

Cheating and a-hole intersect but not always. Nobody should stay with an a-hole. But people make mistakes. BFD.

A mistake is swapping salt and sugar it's not banging someone who isn't your spouse.

That kind of denial tends to play out in other areas of life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

It's really very sad.

We got one proud to be married to a cheater who has no respect for his kids or ex as his mother but she thinks she has a prize because she doesn't think she was the OW.

One who thinks she won because she yelled at two of his affair partners.

Another because the ow is single and in her opinion ugly.

And now claiming they stay for the children.

I hope Gen Z women do better

What kind of homeless did you have that you put everything in a category of winners or losers? That’s a really disordered way of thinking. Is your dad in the military?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OW contacted my best friend and it finally gave her the will to leave her crappy marriage. She and the OW never spoke again, but I think she's grateful for the OW reaching out and backing it up with irrefutable evidence. The OW was angry that her exDH was stringing her along and she shared evidence not just of their affair, but one other woman before her, who my friend had already suspected but was with in plausible deniability. However, I'm not sure all this coming out and the ensuing changes made anyone's lives better. The OW is still single and no idea what she's up to these days. My friend paired up with another single dad and between them, they have a lot of kids. She more or less pushed her exDH out of the picture by telling everyone in her orbit what happened to the point where he felt ashamed to go anywhere in his former town. He deserved it, sure. But not long after, he remarried a much younger woman and moved across the country with her to start a new life and family. Not sure how much he sees the older kids anymore - they're all off in college or young adults now. My friend was on her own raising teenagers for a number of years and her new guy had teenagers of his own, so it was chaotic.

So weird, most of the past cheaters I know have no shame at all. None.

[Anonymous]

Home life *

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

It's really very sad.

We got one proud to be married to a cheater who has no respect for his kids or ex as his mother but she thinks she has a prize because she doesn't think she was the OW.

One who thinks she won because she yelled at two of his affair partners.

Another because the ow is single and in her opinion ugly.

And now claiming they stay for the children.

I hope Gen Z women do better

You left out the married OW banging married guys whose husband knew from the beginning she was doing this. And has no remorse, just blame for everyone else…and the new D made her feel beautiful and seen

Yep. No respect for her husband or own kids. Double standards on this board are crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amusing but also sad how desperate some women are just to be married that they stay with a cheater -- and then try to act like they've won something. Your cheater DH sucks but so do you...

Nobudy want to stay with a cheater, but the alternative ends up hurting kids.

So yea it sucks but the person they stays is just being unselfish.

+1. Some parents put their kids needs and emotional well-being before their own. Cheaters wouldn’t understand.

Some parents are delusional. Don't use your kids to play martyr. My mom staying with my cheating dad didn't do me and my siblings any favors

Cheating and a-hole intersect but not always. Nobody should stay with an a-hole. But people make mistakes. BFD.

A mistake is swapping salt and sugar it's not banging someone who isn't your spouse.

That kind of denial tends to play out in other areas of life

Mistake or flaws whatever.


Drinking and driving is not a mistake by your definition either would you divorce over it?