Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

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*correction this is 2023!

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

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Perhaps the next time the op sees a post like that she should simply comment with, “Yikes!”

Op - ha - I wish I had the cojones to do that!

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

What are you 95?
This is 2022. Needing therapy does not mean you aren’t resilient. It means you are, and you are smart enough to know it.
Frankly there is not one human who both needs to use an anonymous messaging board and does not need therapy. Some jusf don’t want to admit it

So you think people in therapy are more resilient than people who don’t need therapy?

Or you think everyone needs therapy?

Is this the op or a DP?

Regardless, that belief is an interesting one.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

Going to therapy is an act of resilience (DP, btw).

Therapy is for people who can admit something isn’t working and are looking for ways to get better. Everyone struggles sometimes but the decision to talk it out in therapy is a sign that you are willing to address your issues and not afraid of admitting you need help. All signs of resilience.

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I never post on social media because it doesn't interest me. (I also don't scroll through it for the same reason.) That said, I think you ARE jealous. Not that the person is flying in business class. But that the person doesn't mind telling the world. I think you'd actually sort of like to do it. But you're plagued with self-consciousness and self-doubt and can't bring yourself to live the same way. It grinds your gears that they don't experience the self-consciousness you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

What are you 95?
This is 2022. Needing therapy does not mean you aren’t resilient. It means you are, and you are smart enough to know it.
Frankly there is not one human who both needs to use an anonymous messaging board and does not need therapy. Some jusf don’t want to admit it

So you think people in therapy are more resilient than people who don’t need therapy?

Or you think everyone needs therapy?

Is this the op or a DP?

Regardless, that belief is an interesting one.

I mean seeking therapy is indicative of resilience, not the other way around.
It’s easy to point fingers and say ‘you are wrong’ and ‘it’s your fault’. Much harder to wonder ‘what am I bringing to the table in this instance and how can I best sit with uncomfortable feelings and truths and come out stronger’. Therapy is not for the faint of heart

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

+1

Perhaps the next time the op sees a post like that she should simply comment with, “Yikes!”

Op - ha - I wish I had the cojones to do that!

I think that’s part of your issue: you have strong feelings but lack the capacity to express yourself, so you internalize a lot (more than the average bear) and struggle to get past it. You overthink, you over-feel, you stew. It leaves you feeling bad.

You need to find a way to not fixate on and feel things about such small, nonsensical things.

Are you an introvert? Just curious.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

+1

Perhaps the next time the op sees a post like that she should simply comment with, “Yikes!”

Op - ha - I wish I had the cojones to do that!

No. What you need to do is stay off SM. You can’t handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:I never post on social media because it doesn't interest me. (I also don't scroll through it for the same reason.) That said, I think you ARE jealous. Not that the person is flying in business class. But that the person doesn't mind telling the world. I think you'd actually sort of like to do it. But you're plagued with self-consciousness and self-doubt and can't bring yourself to live the same way. It grinds your gears that they don't experience the self-consciousness you do.

Another PP said something similar, and I think you guys might be on to something.

Interesting.

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[Anonymous]

Google therapy and resilience. In short: people go to therapy to build resilience…so you are better equipped to navigate life with your enhanced or newly found resilience.

It’s not a criticism to lack sufficient resilience requiring outside help.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. I think one of the best qualities a person can have is to be humble.

Why would someone boast on social media? I see that person as insecure and needy. I just unfollow them because it’s sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

You don’t get it - being triggered by social media simply means you’re human. That’s it. Social media is literally designed to get people upset.

“Needing” therapy means you’re able to identify when you need help. That actually is a trait of resilience because healthy people are able to identify when they need help and also to follow through and ask for help.

You’re way too focused on these things like being upset by social media and going to therapy as discrete, unmodifiable traits when they’re neither.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. I think one of the best qualities a person can have is to be humble.

Why would someone boast on social media? I see that person as insecure and needy. I just unfollow them because it’s sad.

Posting your own travel photos and experiences on your own social media page isn’t exhibiting a lack of humility.

If you think it is, you have some issues you need to work through.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

+1

Perhaps the next time the op sees a post like that she should simply comment with, “Yikes!”

Op - ha - I wish I had the cojones to do that!

I think that’s part of your issue: you have strong feelings but lack the capacity to express yourself, so you internalize a lot (more than the average bear) and struggle to get past it. You overthink, you over-feel, you stew. It leaves you feeling bad.

You need to find a way to not fixate on and feel things about such small, nonsensical things.

Are you an introvert? Just curious.

Op - yes introvert.
Myers Briggs terms I am an infj

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This is a you problem and the solution is completely within your control. If you want to stop being triggered, get off social media.

i can't believe that your therapist has not reminded you: you can't change other people. You can only change your response to other people.