Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

[Anonymous]

How about you just delete all of your social media accounts, and apps. Now THERE is an idea! ding ding ding!

[Anonymous]

There have been experiments done on this. It’s called the ‘hubris hypothesis’ and it is v real

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797615573516

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Anonymous wrote:How about you just delete all of your social media accounts, and apps. Now THERE is an idea! ding ding ding!

Op - as I’ve said before - I work on social media so no.
Also this is a problem beyond social media. I would be just as annoyed and am when it happens irl. It happens less irl though bc people often use social media as a way to brag in ways they would not do in person. But not always

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

You don’t get it - being triggered by social media simply means you’re human. That’s it. Social media is literally designed to get people upset.

“Needing” therapy means you’re able to identify when you need help. That actually is a trait of resilience because healthy people are able to identify when they need help and also to follow through and ask for help.

You’re way too focused on these things like being upset by social media and going to therapy as discrete, unmodifiable traits when they’re neither.

This. The “you lack the resilience for social media” people remind me of heavy drinkers who think you’re weak if drinking alcohol makes you drunk. Sorry my tolerance of the unhealthy features of social media is low? Maybe you should ask why yours is so high. Hint: it’s not resilience.

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Anonymous wrote:There have been experiments done on this. It’s called the ‘hubris hypothesis’ and it is v real

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797615573516

The abstract nails it. People think when they show off on social media that people will be impressed snd like them more. But instead people find it annoying and like them less. The end.

[Anonymous]

I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

[Anonymous]

It is not your job to judge others. Doing so reveals more about you than the person you judging. If you can’t scroll past a post without judging someone, regardless of what their intention was then perhaps it’s time to take a break from social media until you can work through your own insecurities with your therapist. Confident, mentally stable adults are not triggered by these sorts of things.

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Anonymous wrote:It is not your job to judge others. Doing so reveals more about you than the person you judging. If you can’t scroll past a post without judging someone, regardless of what their intention was then perhaps it’s time to take a break from social media until you can work through your own insecurities with your therapist. Confident, mentally stable adults are not triggered by these sorts of things.

Confident mentally stable adults read the post before judging themselves.
Op’s whole point was they are already working with therapist

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Anonymous wrote:How about you just delete all of your social media accounts, and apps. Now THERE is an idea! ding ding ding!

Op - as I’ve said before - I work on social media so no.
Also this is a problem beyond social media. I would be just as annoyed and am when it happens irl. It happens less irl though bc people often use social media as a way to brag in ways they would not do in person. But not always

You can have a business social separate from your personal social can’t you? Are you triggered by the content in strangers’ feeds you come across in your work vs. the feeds of people you personally know? I mean, you work in social media, you have to know that a lot of influencers and curated content are just images created by people working for money.

[Anonymous]

Interesting post about the decision not to share this type of thing and what is the correct way to deal

https://workingmomwarrior.com/2020/02/23/stop-bragging-so-much-on-social-media/comment-page-1/#comments

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Anonymous wrote:How about you just delete all of your social media accounts, and apps. Now THERE is an idea! ding ding ding!

Op - as I’ve said before - I work on social media so no.
Also this is a problem beyond social media. I would be just as annoyed and am when it happens irl. It happens less irl though bc people often use social media as a way to brag in ways they would not do in person. But not always

You can have a business social separate from your personal social can’t you? Are you triggered by the content in strangers’ feeds you come across in your work vs. the feeds of people you personally know? I mean, you work in social media, you have to know that a lot of influencers and curated content are just images created by people working for money.

Op - lot of different types of influencer - is like saying are you triggered by tv?
I will tell you that the number one q we get from companies across the board is how do we avoid being too thirsty on social. Gen z has rebelled hard against inauthenticity and this is v much a trend we’ll see continue

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting post about the decision not to share this type of thing and what is the correct way to deal

https://workingmomwarrior.com/2020/02/23/stop-bragging-so-much-on-social-media/comment-page-1/#comments

Eh, it’s common sense.

Post a pic of your kid wearing the college t-shirt along with, “Julie is heading to Harvard in the fall!”

Heck, you can even post, “Julie earned a full ride to Harvard! Bursting with pride!”

No need to go into the minutiae of travel expenses to a two-day program or the details of books, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

No, this way of thinking is neither normal nor healthy. I hope your therapist helps you overcome your dysfunction.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting post about the decision not to share this type of thing and what is the correct way to deal

https://workingmomwarrior.com/2020/02/23/stop-bragging-so-much-on-social-media/comment-page-1/#comments

Eh, it’s common sense.

Post a pic of your kid wearing the college t-shirt along with, “Julie is heading to Harvard in the fall!”

Heck, you can even post, “Julie earned a full ride to Harvard! Bursting with pride!”

No need to go into the minutiae of travel expenses to a two-day program or the details of books, etc.

Or people can post whatever the hell they want about their own lives/family on their own SM.

Get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:How about you just delete all of your social media accounts, and apps. Now THERE is an idea! ding ding ding!

Op - as I’ve said before - I work on social media so no.
Also this is a problem beyond social media. I would be just as annoyed and am when it happens irl. It happens less irl though bc people often use social media as a way to brag in ways they would not do in person. But not always

You can have a business social separate from your personal social can’t you? Are you triggered by the content in strangers’ feeds you come across in your work vs. the feeds of people you personally know? I mean, you work in social media, you have to know that a lot of influencers and curated content are just images created by people working for money.

Op - lot of different types of influencer - is like saying are you triggered by tv?
I will tell you that the number one q we get from companies across the board is how do we avoid being too thirsty on social. Gen z has rebelled hard against inauthenticity and this is v much a trend we’ll see continue

But if it’s personal social media and not business, who are you to say the people you know are being inauthentic? Maybe your work has jaded you to normal people who don’t view themselves as a “brand”.