Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

I found social media annoying for different reasons and got off it.

I could not stand the curated images alluding to perfect lives, constant photos of what people were eating, dumb misinformation, political messages as if anyone would be swayed by dogmatic monologues of family and friends. All the misinformation on social media after Trump was elected was the final straw.

I hate what social media is doing to our young people. It’s a cesspool

[Anonymous]

No. Not really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

The better question is why are rich Americans supposed to pretend they are not rich, by, for example, strategically posting only middle class social media images? And why do people like you feel the need to enforce that strange code of ethics? Are you trying to hide that wealthy people don’t have a better life?Is it because we are all aware of how unequal and unfair the class system is and we are ashamed to have benefitted from it and not done enough to change it? Or is it that paranoid self preservation/protectionism that you sometimes see in old money types who don’t want to end up like Marie Antoinette. Any motives for this collective deceit are pretty sinister and you should ask yourself which one you are trying to protect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

Not OP but actually this resonates with me a bit. I do find it kind of mysterious how some people get a ton of validation through social media and others don’t, and it often it makes no sense to me at all. Like often the people who get a lot of validation are not kinder or more likable (at least not to me). They just have a specific gift for getting people to like their posts. Whether it’s a straight up brag (look a connection hooked me up with VIP passes to this concert) or some kind of vulnerable narcissism post (“sometimes I worry no one likes me and my therapist says it’s in my head but I can’t help it!” which is greeted by a thousand likes and a bunch of people saying that they love the person and here are all their good qualities). But then others will do similar things and no one likes them. I just don’t understand it.

And then the people who get a lot of likes derive confidence from it and I think it makes people like them more. But it seems arbitrary? Some of the people I see getting lots of likes, I think are great, and others seem annoying af. Meanwhile I’ve seen lovely people just get no traction in social media even when their posts are interesting and appealing. I don’t really get it, I think there’s some metric I don’t understand for who gets the validation and who doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking about this with my therapist. I get very very irritated by ppl showing off on social - especially if the showing off is not subtle or ‘well disguised’. It’s partly that I work in marketing (so it annoys me professionally) but like - next level. Case in point - when people tag business class lounges in social media posts. I travel often and usually biz class but I would never ever ever do this. Curious if anyone else finds this type of thing vvvv annoying?
If you do not find it annoying - no need to comment. Really just interested to hear from anyone who does. I would love figure out why I am so triggered and thus move past this

Yes but in the opposite way, I'm a sahm and other sahms often post images that are fake or staged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

[Anonymous]

European here. These are the new money people and your puritan background makes you feel revolved and a little bit jealous. You want to show off too.

[Anonymous]

I'm not showing off. I'm just living my life ok?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

European here. Why is this awful behavior? Signaling money has been happening for ages, before social media. Just go to any European town and look how old women carry their Birkins and expose their Audemars Piguet.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care what other people do? They found something that makes them happy. You go find something tha t makes you happy.

Seriously.

I sure as hell posted my first time in the United lounge, I was excited! It’s my page, so I’ll post what I want. 😌😌

You aren’t forced to look at it.

You should ask yourself why being excited = selfie and post. Do you think others are amazed?

Nobody cares.

[Anonymous]

I will flip it on you, OP.

I'm actually really excited when I see my friends achieving something or "showing off." If they are happy and living their best life, I'm truly thrilled for them.

[Anonymous]

Showing off only really annoys me with people I really don’t like anyway.

[Anonymous]

I rarely use social media for this reason, but the stuff I find annoying is more the "Happy Anniversary to the most loving, incredible husband ever, blah blah." I just find it so, so strange. I mean, tell your husband! WHY would you post such a thing? I don't really understand the motivation behind it. I wouldn't say I got very annoyed, but I would definitely roll my eyes. But people can post what they want, I made the decision not to look.

[Anonymous]

I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rarely use social media for this reason, but the stuff I find annoying is more the "Happy Anniversary to the most loving, incredible husband ever, blah blah." I just find it so, so strange. I mean, tell your husband! WHY would you post such a thing? I don't really understand the motivation behind it. I wouldn't say I got very annoyed, but I would definitely roll my eyes. But people can post what they want, I made the decision not to look.

That tends to irritate me too, but on the other hand, I always make a big post for my best friends on their birthdays. I want them to feel loved and special on their day. Maybe that’s what these wives are doing too? Something to think about for me.