Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

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Why is DCUM stuffed to the gills with striver-on-striver hate?

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Anonymous wrote:I will flip it on you, OP.

I'm actually really excited when I see my friends achieving something or "showing off." If they are happy and living their best life, I'm truly thrilled for them.

Op - I refuse to believe anyone is actually this pure of heart. Are you Bambi?

God, you really sound awful, OP. No wonder you are miserable.

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You are triggered by it because you’re not at peace with yourself or your choices. Emotionally secure, happy people who are at peace with their choices don’t get jealous or superb annoyed by stuff like this. At most, they think it is cringeworthy and either unfollow or shrug it off as not worth thinking about.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care what other people do? They found something that makes them happy. You go find something tha t makes you happy.

Seriously.

I sure as hell posted my first time in the United lounge, I was excited! It’s my page, so I’ll post what I want. 😌😌

You aren’t forced to look at it.

You should ask yourself why being excited = selfie and post. Do you think others are amazed?

Nobody cares.

Amazed? No. Interested? Sure.

It’s fine if you don’t care. I don’t care about a lot of things people post. I move on, as I’d expect any well-adjusted person to do.

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OP you need to log off and go take a nature walk to a yoga class. SM is ok for people who don't vest all their self worth into an app. For emotionally unstable people, it will just be another trigger.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

It’s obvious you are all the previous posters.
Therapy is for anyone curious enough and honest enough to examine themselves and try to understand their own motivations and how they interface with the world around them. Nothing about it is condemnation worthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

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It makes you jealous because you don't want people showing off when your standards preclude it for yourself.

Ridiculous.

Just ignore them, OP. You're not coming off smelling like roses, here.

Op - I never intended to smell of roses. I actually intended to better understand what triggers me. This thread is proving helpful. I didn’t post for validation - I posted to reveal an unfortunate mental reaction that I’m trying to better understand. My reaction is both valid in some regards, but perhaps excessive. We ALL have weaknesses - whether you admit it or not. The purpose of life isn’t to be perfect. Posting here should not just be about validation. The purpose of life is to ask yourself hard questions, learn and grow - and also face hard and uncomfortable truths if necessary to help us grow.
Tldr a lot of stuff ppl feel I don’t feel - doesn’t make it any less valid or important for them to work through it

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

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It makes you jealous because you don't want people showing off when your standards preclude it for yourself.

Ridiculous.

Just ignore them, OP. You're not coming off smelling like roses, here.

Op - I never intended to smell of roses. I actually intended to better understand what triggers me. This thread is proving helpful. I didn’t post for validation - I posted to reveal an unfortunate mental reaction that I’m trying to better understand. My reaction is both valid in some regards, but perhaps excessive. We ALL have weaknesses - whether you admit it or not. The purpose of life isn’t to be perfect. Posting here should not just be about validation. The purpose of life is to ask yourself hard questions, learn and grow - and also face hard and uncomfortable truths if necessary to help us grow.
Tldr a lot of stuff ppl feel I don’t feel - doesn’t make it any less valid or important for them to work through it

What else are you grappling with? Perhaps the peanut gallery can help you connect the dots.

You led with an admittedly small thing that triggers you in a strong way.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

It depends on the response they get on social media. I knew someone like this who was generally pleasant but would sometimes post these insanely entitled things, on par with what the PP describes (I remember once her use of the term “the poors” to describe non-rich people, and another few posts railing about “rude” service workers who apparently had not given her upgrades/free things or apologized profusely enough for a wrong order).

If she’d posted these things and gotten a muted or limited response, I would have thought “yikes” and moved on. But she’d post this stuff and get a million likes and people (many of whom were significantly less privileged) commiserating with her or piling on the poor service workers she was criticizing. My feelings went from pity to anger because she was getting a lot of validation for behaving terribly.

Of course the answer is to mute/unfollow, which is what I did. But I didn’t feel pity or embarrassment for her because too many people were validating the behavior. It was working out for her. It really is kind of rage-inducing.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it kind of sounds like you're annoyed that others are getting attention for things you do too. Jealousy isn't the right word, maybe validation? Kind of like how when someone has an achievement and gets attention and praise for it so someone butts in with their achievement so they can get praise too. But since you don't post you don't get the attention and that's really what bothers you

This is so untrue. I fly private, and stay in hotel penthouses, and this triggers me when I see it. Showing off is showing off, and it’s awful behavior. If there was no social media, you would not be posting anything and living in the moment and enjoying your memory.

You’re making the assumption that someone is posting to brag when in reality they might not be. You are assigning malicious intent. This is all based on your own morals, values and rigid social media code that you have developed.

And yet you are going out of your way to tell us that you fly private and stay in penthouses.

I think you definitely believe folks shouldn’t be posting certain things on social media and it’s likely because you don’t want them to be on your level. You subconsciously want to be better than others, and it’s obvious you find ways to judge people in order to do that.

Lastly: if you are in therapy, you have issues. Good for you for addressing them in therapy. But some things really shouldn’t require therapy. Sometimes you just need to realize that being easily triggered by silly things is your issue instead of digging in to find support in judging others and making yourself feel better.

Comparable to implicit bias: if you feel bad thoughts creeping up, remind yourself it’s not cool and try to shift your mindset. Don’t feed into it.

In short: try not to be a miserable jerk. Be better.

Op - this post wasn’t me. But thanks!

But I’ve read your other posts, and my advice applies to you. Seriously.

Honestly from your post I think you are kind of a judgemental and miserable jerk.
I at least have the decency to question my judgement and get therapy. You don’t

How old are you? Seriously.

Being triggered by social media indicates *you* have an issue. Ditto for being in therapy. Happy, resilient people aren’t triggered by social media or need therapy.

Again, I applaud your effort to seek help, but at some point you might want to evaluate if therapy is helping. Sometimes it’s actually better to handle yourself rather than seek an audience and validation through a paid therapist. I know several people who wasted years/decades with a therapist when what they really needed to do was stop being so self-centered and fixated on their own thoughts and feelings.

The only reason I’m engaging with you is because you posted here. I don’t judge people irl. If I catch myself going there, I recognize it internally and pivot. Again: it’s a skill people should develop.

I agree with you that being triggered by social media is totally an issue of the person being triggered. But resilient people don't need therapy? That's such an antiquated view of therapy. I would actually argue that seeking help and working through your stuff takes a lots of strength and self-awareness.

You don’t seek help unless you can’t manage on your own.

Seeking help is totally fine, but it is indicative of not being sufficiently resilient or equipped to help yourself.

Truly resilient people aren’t easily triggered, and they certainly don’t stew or fall to pieces.

People oftentimes seek therapy to develop resilience or coping mechanisms.

And sometimes therapy isn’t actually helpful…particularly if the person is just seeking an audience and validation. A good therapist recognizes this and will try to move the person along. If you know someone who has gone through multiple therapists, sometimes there’s a reason.

FYI, “resilient” isn’t a trait of an individual person, like having blue eyes or being tall. It’s a process involving the interaction of a person and their environment, including the kind of support they have access to. It’s also not a relevant term in this context. Resilience is about outcomes over the longer term after exposure to adversity, not someone who is unfazed by social media.

Being triggered by social media certainly doesn’t demonstrate resilience. Neither does needing therapy.

That doesn’t mean therapy is bad or something to be ashamed of. It just means you need help to build the coping mechanisms, skills, etc.

What are you 95?
This is 2022. Needing therapy does not mean you aren’t resilient. It means you are, and you are smart enough to know it.
Frankly there is not one human who both needs to use an anonymous messaging board and does not need therapy. Some jusf don’t want to admit it

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Anonymous wrote:I know a woman (30s) who is regularly posting on social media when she’s in the airline lounges, complains when then isn’t one because she has to wait with the “gate lice“ it makes comments like “I don’t know how you all do that” when she have to check a bag and have to wait for it. It’s truly insufferable, and I’m not sure why it irritates me so much. On no level am I jealous, it’s more like irritated at her lack of awareness at her own privilege and judgment. She is otherwise a caring human being, so the behavior is seriously baffling.

Oh I would feel so much embarrassment for someone who posted that. And assume they’re very insecure, like she has to prove she’s better than others and is seeking validation online. I’d probably feel more “yikes” about it than irritated.

+1

Perhaps the next time the op sees a post like that she should simply comment with, “Yikes!”