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I wish it was ok to have babies in your mid 40s.
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Anonymous
| Had mine naturally at 42. I had an uneventful pregnancy and delivery. It's possible. |
Anonymous
The causation is almost certainly reversed here. Moms that are healthier already are more able to have kids in their 40s. |
Anonymous
Nope just someone who knows a ton of women across generations who had kids in their 40s. It is absolutely 100% ok and OP is weird for thinking it is not. |
Anonymous
Add liar to your list of names. |
Anonymous
You’re the one who said that not all meet at 25. Likewise, not all meet at 40. You’re going to say the same of someone at 60? You’re an idiot. |
Anonymous
I do too. I agree it’s not ideal but certainly possible and absolutely fine. A lot in life isn’t “ideal”! Don’t know why this one poster is harassing everyone. It’s a strange strange hobby. |
Anonymous
Similar to what you are doing with that strange hobby of yours. |
Anonymous
Why do you care so much about what others do? Why do you feel you have the right to declare what’s right and what’s not? |
Anonymous
Why? |
Anonymous
It’s not right according to who? You? |
Anonymous
| It’s not ok? Oh geez! I guess I’ll put mine back in. |
Anonymous
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One reason the anger about this is weird is that older moms is not a new things. It's just that 100 years ago, all the women having children in their 40s already had kids. Back when women had few options regarding who they married, and when and whether to have children, there were plenty of women giving birth in their 40s. If you were married, no one cared, no one worried that you'd be old when your children were adults. Women were supposed to be baby making machines, so a 40s mom was just a machine that was still in good working order. Great.
But now that women have, you know, rights, we're going to say that having a baby in your 40s is unnatural and wrong? Hmm, it's interesting how it was normal and fine (something to celebrate even) when women were the property of their husbands and their whole job was to birth and nurse children. But now that women are CHOOSING to delay motherhood until later so that they can have careers or find suitable partners, it's bad. Weird how that happened, isn't it? |
Anonymous
That would be nice if you did. |
Anonymous
It's not misogyny. It's women judging women. Men are far less likely to pay attention to how old a woman is when she becomes a mother; they're more likely to determine how old a woman is to partner if they want children. But once the woman has a child, they don't really judge the age of the mother nearly as much as other women do. It's one of the classic Mommy Wars. Women have some requirement that they need to disparage other women's choices if they are different from their own. So women criticize other women who made different life choices in order to feel better about the choices they, themselves, made. So a woman who sacrifices a career to have children younger, will disparage women who prioritized career early in life and had children later. Women who decide to stay home to raise their children, will criticize those who decided to go back to work and used childcare. And so on. It's a way to justify to themselves that they made the right choice even though there is no best choice. |
Anonymous
Where is the irony? |