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I wish it was ok to have babies in your mid 40s.
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Anonymous
You do and the judgment bothers you to no end as you just cemented. |
Anonymous
| I mean it’s fine, but you most likely won’t be around long for the kid. Not fair. |
Anonymous
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Risky, maybe. Selfish, unfair and wrong… ha! Who tf made you the moral police.
I actually think this forum is full of barren and bitter Betty’s with an axe to grind. Don’t forget OP, opinions are like a$$holes…everyone has one. Stop seeking validation from strangers and live YOUR life. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I wish I could live forever so I could decide to have kids whenever it was most convenient from a financial and career perspective rather than a biological one too. In reality I tried to choose the best balance and it was still older than I wanted. It's fine, our family is doing well, but I do look a little longingly at my friends who are getting ready to be empty nesters while they are still in their 40s. |
Anonymous
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OP, whether it is ok is up to you. Your biology may not leave it up to you, though, which is why most women on the planet have children before 40. They simple just cannot after 40.
IVF has changed the game, however, for older mothers so it may be possible for you. Talk to your doctor and support system to see what you can do. If you are childless and looking to start a family, I wouldn't let being 40 stop you. But it's subjective. I'm 43 with 3 kids, and I most definitely would have my age stop me! In fact, when I tried to have baby #4 starting at 36 my body shut me down on 3 separate occasions. So like I said, it's more a biological question than anything else. |
Anonymous
Hi barren and bitter Betty! |
Anonymous
| I have a sweet friend who has been desperately trying to have a baby at 39, 40, 41. She would have loved to soon but only just got married a couple years ago. They quickly pivoted to donor eggs and even still she’s had now two miscarriages. It’s heartbreaking. But if she were to be blessed enough to carry a baby, we would all be thrilled. |
Anonymous
Give it up already! |
Anonymous
I had my kids in my mid 30s but this is just silly. Having a kid at 37 v 42 is not a massive difference in "how long you'll be around for your kid". That's 5 years. But no one judges the 37 year old. Now if it were 25 vs 45, yeah sure, I see the argument, but that's not the age most women on this board are even considering having kids yet. |
Anonymous
| If you’re in your mid-40s and still care what other people think, you’re doing it wrong. |
Anonymous
Looks like your insecurity keeps you responding. |
Anonymous
Yet here you are, super angry. |
Anonymous
Yeah, my uncle had kids at 25 and died of a heart attack at 54. I guess it wasn’t fair of him to have had them either. |
Anonymous
It’s truly don’t understand your angle. What’s it to you? |
Anonymous
The angry and insecure one is you. Why are you so agitated about something that doesn’t affect your life? |