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I wish it was ok to have babies in your mid 40s.
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Anonymous
Told ya - Bitter Betty |
Anonymous
This this one! [end thread] |
Anonymous
Looks like your insecurity keeps you responding. |
Anonymous
Why are you so agitated about something that doesn’t affect your life? |
Anonymous
NP. Does any one else see the irony in that question? |
Anonymous
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Anybody who takes the time to respond to a post with “I don’t care what you think” cares what you think.
It’s not right to have babies in your 40s. It just isn’t. |
Anonymous
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Why is it not ok? If you are physically capable of pregnancy or able to use donor eggs or adopt, what’s stopping you?
I’m a 44 yr old mom of a 5yr old and an 8yr old. Some of my friends are still having babies and others are on the verge of an empty nest. I don’t ID my friends or quiz them on what year they graduated HS - so I don’t know if they are 35 or 45. It’s not like you are a 65 yr old man with a new baby who he may never see graduate from high school. Yes, you will elderly and frail when your grandchildren are born, if you ever meet them - but statistically you will be able to raise your children and launch them solidly into adulthood. The main thing I would think about is how a college age kid in your kid-60s will impact your retirement plans. |
Anonymous
+1 Like the one saying that she doesn’t care and no one else should but then got bent out of shape. |
Anonymous
I had my babies in my early 30s and don’t intend to have more. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having kids whenever you want/are able/are able to support them. You are the arbitrator of what is “right” in someone else’s situation. |
Anonymous
No, that is a very thoughtless take. |
Anonymous
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I hope to Gosh it is ok, as my sister is having one. She is not mid 40s, she is 49. And she has lost her mind, I don't feel good even saying it but we are all walking on eggshells and don't know how to act around her.
There was thunder one night and she crumpled to the floor and begged her DH to hold her. Mom was not quick enough in making her eggs, and she accused mom of being nuts after mom told her that her outburst/rejection of late eggs, was unacceptable. She is testing everyone around her for covid every three days. We are so happy and excited for her to have her baby, her first and likely the only, but we are all at a loss as to how to act. I mean, when she told me I was so happy I could not calm down for two days, so I get some of it, it is scary and exciting and she will be 70 when her kid is 20. I guess I wonder if this is just some free rein of pregnancy hormones or will she be even worse when the baby is born. I had two high risk pregnancies and not being false modest, I did none of the things she is doing. |
Anonymous
Ummmm |
Anonymous
| 45 with a newborn is hard, but putting a kid through college in your 60s is really tough. |
Anonymous
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What??? It’s not OK? Nobody told me or my grandmother.
No need to wish. It is 100% OK. |
Anonymous
Weirdo |