Pendente Lite Guideline vs Actual Spousal Support (in VA) -- How did it compare in your case? SAHM
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Anonymous
No they don't but at the same time why are we encouraging our offspring to be in lower paid positions than we are in? It doesn't make sense and even if you are in a trade there are trade costs and low pay in those fields to start. And for instance, we had done 3 years of prepaid tuition for each of our kids, so obviously the plan was for the kids to go to college in Virginia, so I think child support should have been covered for those years. |
Anonymous
| And I bet people like you do not support more taxes for the working class, so why not just cover our own kids' food and basic necessities till they have their job training down whatever that is? |
Anonymous
When I was in college I worked to pay room & board. My rent (circa 2005) was $225/mo for my share in a weird 1BR apartment where we turned a dining room into a sleeping nook. I paid for it working $10/hr part time. Today in my college town a 1BR runs more like $1500 and all the weird crappy buildings were long ago torn down and replaced with more expensive housing. And good luck finding anyone willing to do a weird housing share with you. |
Anonymous
I'm simply advocating for living expenses which is also what child care is for. It should just be the same amount carried through age 21. |
Anonymous
Childcare expenses in Virgina are max. $1000 per child per month. They probably max out before this amount. It doesn't even cover food and clothing and toiletries. |
Anonymous
This thread and all the others on here. Financial predators. |
Anonymous
Hey that’s what my dad said post divorce about me and my sister! I’d ask what he thinks now but neither of us even have his number. |
Anonymous
Then don’t. Don’t have kids, don’t get married, go play XBox. No one needs you. |
Anonymous
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It's basically 5% of your income going to your first kid each month and another 3% for the next and the rest just get 1%. How that is screwing over men is beyond me. Most people have 2 or less kids so that's 8% of your income max. for another 4 years and most of the time this is halved so then that's only 4%. The rest of the money is yours. How is this remotely fair for a child to go to college for any job that you also had and have to pay for their room and board while you give them nothing? You've already left them without the money they would have had if you stayed together. The least you could do is support them till they can get a job in their career field. COMBINED MONTHLY GROSS ONE TWO THREE FOUR FIVE SIX 34950 1988 2926 3408 3807 4187 4552 35000 1989 2927 3408 3807 4188 4552 For gross monthly incomes above $35,000, add the amount of child support for $35,000 to the following percentages of gross income above $35,000. ONE CHILD TWO CHILDREN THREE CHILDREN FOUR CHILDREN FIVE CHILDREN SIX CHILDREN 2.6% 3.4% 3.8% 4.2% 4.6% 5.0% |
Anonymous
Interesting how some grown women think that they should be taken care of financially. Be a feminist and get a job. |
Anonymous
in DC when you divorce 50% of the mortgage is considered the "child expense". I was eligible for around $2500/month of child support with that, but as my exH fought even the formula, I had to price in my legal costs going forward and settled for $1300 (50/50 custody, family income was close to a $1mm). Not sure where they all get these stories about SAHM partying and traveling after divorce. Everything was cut after me and my son moved out: I told no restaurants. I cook well, so I buy food at Costco and cook at home. I always have a pot of soup for lunch. Just like I grew up and it's ok for me. BUt it was a shock to my son, after his dad shelling thousands for years on eating out. Don't these deadbeat dads realize they are actually hurting their children and making them hostile to the next family? |
Anonymous
Yep. We made a decision for me to quit and my DH was able to see his career skyrocket. With both of us working, we were both stagnating. DH made up for my lost salary within a year of me quitting and he slept through the night while I got up multiple times a night. I've also see men step away to take care of kids as well. The thing is, whoever it is, man or woman, who stays home with kids, is doing the jobs of a nanny, full time maid, a chef, a driver, a tutor and psychologist/life coach. So, add up how much you would pay each of those employees - that what the stay at home parent is doing. There is an issue of fairness here and, assuming it is a joint agreement, then it should be treated as a 50-50 proposition. The one working couldn't pull it off successfully without the other one doing that. |
Anonymous
This is because you don't see work outside of the house as work. It's actual work. More work most of the time. It never ends. And yes stay at home parents have more time to shop and cook for you, take care of your kids (a nanny alone charges $15 an hour per kid around here), and pets, clean your room and do your laundry. Handle finances and pay taxes, and handle appointments and vacation planning. Buy gifts. Coordinate friend get-togethers. This is also why men want another women right after. They know they don't want to handle this work. But it's actual work. There are actually ways you can outsource this stuff and you can see how it all adds up financially. |
Anonymous
My exH would have divorced me 10 years earlier if I was a feminist and continued traveling for work. Women always hope to save the relationship and intact home for their children. Yes we don't live "like men" abandoning spouses and kids when a new chapter of life opens up |
Anonymous
Can I ask in return why grown men don't want to also come home after a long day and do all of the above as well as pay their childcare/teacher expenses in full? Not all work is monetized. |